Self Care Ideas for the Mind, Body + Soul

MIND:

  1. Do a brain dump.
  2. Meditate in a quiet space.
  3. Declutter your physical space.
  4. Read a book that resonates and helps you grow.
    * Recommended reading: Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert.
  5. Unplug by a certain hour of the day.
  6. Stay off the screen upon the first hour of waking.
  7. Watch less tv – and less screen time in general.
  8. Turn off notifications.
  9. Keep to your sleep schedule and stay well rested.
  10. Be aware of your mindset and the things you say to yourself.
  11. Clean out your desktop and change your wallpaper.
  12. Dream big with vision journaling.
  13. Write a list of things you love about yourself.
  14. Listen to your favorite podcast.
  15. Do some creative writing.

BODY:

  1. Do a body scan to mindfully check in with how you’re doing.
  2. Mindfully chew your food and be present when eating.
  3. Indulge in your favorite treat. May I suggest some delicious chocolate? 😉
  4. Also eat your greens.
  5. Get a massage.
  6. Put on some tunes and have a dance party!
  7. Deep breathing whenever you’re feeling anxious.
  8. Go out and get some sunshine.
  9. Do something that makes you laugh.
  10. Move your body and make endorphins your new bff.
  11. Take a warm bath with sea salts or a nice bath bomb.
  12. Reconnect with nature.
  13. Learn EFT tapping.
    * Recommended reading: The Tapping Solution by Nick Ortner.
  14. Stretch your body and release the tension.
  15. Give someone a hug.

 

SOUL:

  1. Have a (virtual) coffee date and make a new friend or make a deeper connection with a current one.
  2. Plan a weekend getaway and stay at a nice AirBnB.
  3. Start a gratitude journal and have an attitude of gratitude.
  4. Write yourself a love letter.
  5. Love yourself unconditionally.
  6. Say no to negativity and negative people.
  7. Surround yourself with people with the lifestyle and mindset you want.
  8. Accept that some things are out of your control i.e. how others react to you – and if you don’t like something that is in your control, change it.
  9. Stop comparing yourself to others.
  10. Go to your favorite place and be inspired – ex. your local library, museum, gallery, etc.
  11. Write a love letter to someone else and celebrate them.
  12. Stop trying to be good so you can be free.
  13. Attend a paint and wine night.
  14. Go on a retreat and unplug.
  15. Watch the sunrise.

A lot of these activities overlap and are great for the mind, body, and soul all at the same time. Try a few (or try them all!) and see which ones you like.

REMEMBER, SELF-CARE ISN’T A ONE TIME DO AND FORGET IT DEAL. 

It’s a ritual you build into your routine, so you can feel grounded and realigned again or even before finding off balance, rushed, and burnt out.

It’s about taking care of yourself – mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually. It’s about loving yourself – and I love what Jessica Ortner said in regards to this in Lori Harder’s podcast when they talked about tapping into your own energy and healing power. She realized she was having trouble taking care of her body because she wasn’t truly loving or valuing her body. But once she did, things started changing for her.

Part of incorporating self-care into your life is acknowledging and believe that you are important.

YOU ARE WORTHY OF YOUR OWN LOVE AND CARE.

Share with me in the comments below: How are you taking care of yourself these days?

 

Wherever you are in the world, have a lovely day ❤

A, x (1)

 

 

Why We Continue To Doubt Ourselves

1. WE’RE SCARED TO STOP THE DOUBTS.

When I really started to think about my dreams and goals and what was holding me back from them, it was my fear of failure, rejection, imposter syndrome, and success. Because I didn’t really know what success looked or felt like.

And it’s understandable to be scared, but you can’t let your fear hold you back from taking action.

We all have doubts about whether we’re “good enough”. We think that one day – once we’ve achieved this or that or get to a certain milestone – that the doubt will just melt away, but it doesn’t really work that way.

We have to decide to stop doubting ourselves and decide that we are good enough and have what it takes (because you do).

“OUR DEEPEST FEAR IS NOT THAT WE ARE INADEQUATE.
OUR DEEPEST FEAR IS THAT WE ARE POWERFUL BEYOND MEASURE.”

– Marianne Williamson

You can’t run away from fear, but you can start showing up. And once you start showing up, you’ll realize that rejection is not the end all be all.

Just because someone in your past doubted you, doesn’t mean you have to spend the rest of your life doubting yourself too.

 

2. WE BELIEVE THE STORIES OTHERS HAVE TOLD US.

We think we don’t have the experience, the knowledge, the talent, the network, the … whatever it is you think you need.

And so we say to ourselves, “We’re not ready.” Well… when will you be ready?

If not now, when? If not you, who?

So start telling yourself a different story.

Don’t have a portfolio? Build one.
Don’t have the clients? Find some.
Don’t have the network? Go out and connect with people.

If you don’t like the story you’re living, change it. (Spoiler alert: No one’s going to do it for you.)

Just because someone else believes their story to be true, doesn’t mean you have to believe in their story too.

Because if you believe something like “Other people are ‘luckier’ than me”, you’re not going to work as hard as you could be working… because you’ll think, “What’s the point?”

Yes, some people might be lucky. But the majority of those people whom you think are so “lucky” have worked really, really hard to get to where they are. It takes a lot of inner work to work through your own biggest blocks (and we all have our own set of mindset blocks and limiting beliefs).

 

3. WE HANG OUT WITH PEOPLE WHO DOUBT THEMSELVES TOO.

We’ve all heard the saying, “We’re the average of the 5 people we hang out with.”

So if you’re hanging out with people who don’t believe in themselves, chances are you would feel pretty uncomfortable feeling confident in yourself. Essentially, you doubt yourself to make the people around you comfortable. The sad truth is people who aren’t confident in themselves don’t like hanging out with people who are.

So maybe that means you have to let some people in your life go. (And no, that doesn’t make you a bad person.)

If you find yourself sinking, you have to let go of the weight that’s holding you down.

Don’t spend your time around people who make you feel bad about feeling confident or good about yourself. You should feel confident. You’re awesome.

Be sure to be around those that are uplifting + share a positive vibe. (I love the people who I spend my time with)

 

4. DOUBTING YOURSELF MAKES YOU FEEL …COMFORTABLE (TO A POINT).

If you’re like the most of society, you’ve spent a good amount of your life feeling inadequate. Like you need to constantly prove yourself and your worth to the world. So you keep doing more and more and more until you’re burnt out and ready to throw in the towel.

It’s uncomfortable to believe that things will work out, because maybe things have never worked out for you in the before.

Doubt is familiar. It’s safe, and it keeps you playing small.

You don’t have to venture that far out of your comfort zone.

But is living in doubt and fear really safe? Is it giving you the life you want?

Spoiler alert: Your doubt doesn’t make you special (it’s everywhere in everyone) and even more so, it doesn’t help you grow.

What if you decided to be patient with yourself? What if you looked at the long term picture, instead of basing your emotions and feelings off of what’s happening day to day?

What if you just decided things were going to work out? (As opposed to being ready to list every excuse under the sun of why it might not work out.)

Want to know how something might not work out? Keep telling yourself it won’t work out. There’s no fasting way to kill your own dreams that than.

But if you are ready to have things work out for you, tell yourself that it’ll work out for you. List all the reasons why this is going to work out for you. We believe in the stories we tell ourselves, so believe in yourself.

 

5. WE’RE ADDICTED TO OUR NEGATIVITY.

I know, because I was addicted to my own negativity and the lame excuses I was feeding myself for why I couldn’t do x, y, and z for many, many months. And even when I was aware of my own negativity, I wanted to hold onto it and push away anyone that got in the way of that. Because it was the only thing I knew and the only thing that felt safe.

It was easy to say, “Oh, I don’t think I can.” or “Oh, that’s not for me.” or “Oh, it’s easy for them.”

It’s easier to list all the reasons why you think you can’t do something than to actually do it – because then you’re in new territory when you feel safe in your old one.

But here’s the thing:

Doubting yourself isn’t going to get you your dream job.
It’s not going to help you become the person you want to be.
And it certainly isn’t going to help you grow or do anything worthwhile.

Taking consistent action and achieving sustainable, long-term results requires you to believe in yourself and what you’re working towards.

You are going to have bad days. Fear is going to try to scare you out of it. Rejection is going to happen – and it’s not just going to be one or two rejection. And there will be people who will be more than happy to doubt you and make you feel like you can’t and shouldn’t believe in yourself.

But living a life full of doubt and fear is far more uncomfortable than doing things outside of your comfort zone. At least the latter will help you grow and become a stronger, braver, and more exciting person.

 

“DOUBT KILLS MORE DREAMS THAN FAILURE EVER WILL.”

– Suzy Kassem

Wherever you are in the world, have a lovely day ❤

A, x (1)

Stop Worrying + Take Intentional Action

Be honest: How much of your time, energy, and attention do you spend worrying about the same things over and over again, only to not make a decision in the end? Or being so tired from all the mental energy you’ve exhausted that you don’t even care anymore?

AS A RECOVERING WORRIER AND PEOPLE PLEASER, I TOTALLY GET HOW IT FEELS.

You think and think and think and think your way around the same circles over and over again. You run through your list of pro’s and con’s, worst case scenario, what makes the most sense, the list of things involved afterwards, etc. and the list goes on and on.

And you probably already have enough on your list, am I right? Work, family, health, and social life just to name a few – and each of those things have its own five whole sub-categories.

You think to yourself, “How do I get all this done?”

NO ONE SAID YOU HAD TO DO IT ALL RIGHT NOW AT THIS EXACT MOMENT.

In fact, if you broke it down and took a look at your list, you probably don’t even have to address some things later down the road in 3 months.

Worrying only creates more worry and fear, so in order to break the cycle, you have to start taking action. Action helps you move, whereas worry keeps you stuck where you are. Trust me, I would know… I do know. Worrying gets you to nowhere town fast.

 

HERE ARE 5 WAYS TO STOP THE WORRY AND START TAKING INTENTIONAL ACTION:

1. MAKE A DECISION.

Even if it’s not the right one, it still beats worrying about it over and over again with no to little action. How does someone get better at something? They practice. They allow themselves to experiment. They take action. The sooner you start moving and taking action, the better you’ll get at evaluating the situation and seeing what works and doesn’t work.

Because the truth is, we could spend forever to make a decision. Is there a perfect decision? I don’t think so, because what comes after one decision is another, and another, and ten more after that. It’s like playing checkers – is there really a right first move? No, it’s what you do overall that matters. What matters is your strategy, vision, consistency, heart, etc. Those are the things that matter.

 

2. DO A BRAIN DUMP.

Stop keeping it all in your head. Do you ever have an idea pop into your head and you spend the next hour saying to yourself, “Don’t forget. Don’t forget.” when you could’ve just written it down somewhere or typed it into your Evernote? Well, it’s like that for everything else too. I do a daily brain dump and a bigger weekly brain dump, so I don’t have to worry about whether I’m forgetting something.

The same goes for having an idea library. This is where I keep all of my future ideas somewhere, so it’s not something I have to attend to right now. Sometimes, it can feel like everything is awaiting our attention, but if you wrote everything down and prioritized, you’ll see that not everything is urgent and there are a lot of things that can wait.

 

3. TAKE AN INVENTORY.

Where is all of your time and attention currently going to? We spend so much time on Instagram, Facebook, and checking our emails. And yet, we often throw out the phrase, “There’s not enough time. Why aren’t there more hours in the day?” Well, you gotta be a little honest with yourself. Where is your time and attention actually going?

For example, when I break it down, I realize that I spend a lot of time worrying about things which leads me to doing other things that aren’t getting me anywhere ex. checking my phone every 5 minutes, which is what led me to writing this blog post. I get your struggle and I’m here to help! I’m by no means an expert, but these are just some things that have helped me.

This will also give you a realistic overview of what’s going on in your life (and mind).

 

4. DECIDE ON WHAT YOU’RE GOING TO DO (AND DO IT!).

There has to come a time when you decide to stop giving into the fears and start taking action, and only you can decide that. Set a timer for 5, 10, or 30 minutes and do something on your list. What this will help you with is realizing that the tasks you’re afraid of aren’t that scary. And if you mess up? Not that big of a deal.

When you take action, you take more action. Have you ever decided to clean for 10 minute and you ended up cleaning for 2 hours because you actually started to find it enjoyable? Wasn’t it a good feeling to see the clutter start disappearing and clearing up? That’s the same thing for all the fears, worries, and self-doubt that’s going on in your head. Once you start addressing them, you start gaining more clarity. And who doesn’t want that?!

 

5. BE KIND TO YOURSELF.

Hopefully after reading this post, you’ll decide to start taking action instead of spending all your time worrying. If 3 weeks later, you find yourself spending more of your time worrying than acting, do not beat yourself over it. Give yourself some grace.

I hope the above has helped you 🙂

Wherever you are in the world, have a lovely day ❤

A, x (1)