Ask Yourself

Hello my loves ❤

Life Truth Mental Health sent me a lovely email w/ a link to the below questions, these questions caught my eye & I def knew I wanted to turn this into a blog post.

There are 50 questions so it could be a little time consuming for others to do but I would love to see the below people complete this:

Alright, here I go, this is going to be a lengthly post :O

  1. How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are?
    • This one is a tough one, I feel there are some days I could be a 25 year old woman (the age I am now) or some days I can be a 5 year old sooky baby. You never know what you are going to get w/ me, lol. 
  2. Which is worse, failing or never trying?
    • Never trying – I know for a fact that life is better living saying you tried but failed compared to never trying something + wishing you did. 
  3. If life is so short, why do we do so many things we don’t like and like so many things we don’t do?
    • This question has gotten me a little emotional – It’s true bc I tend to do so many things I don’t like & I tend to pretend to like people I do not like. 
  4. When it’s all said and done, will you have said more than you’ve done?
    • I sure hope not, I pray to have done more than I have ever said. 
  5. What is the one thing you’d most like to change about the world?
    • I wish people were more kind + giving. Karma goes a long way, do good + good will come to you. 
  6. If happiness was the national currency, what kind of work would make you rich?
    • Feeding the homeless – My heart aches for the homeless, bc sometimes its not even their fault that they are living that way. 
  7. Are you doing what you believe in, or are you settling for what you are doing?
    • I can openly admit, at the moment I am just settling & that is hard for me to understand bc I have never been this sort of person. I am just in a rutt at the moment. I will conquer & get out of it soon. 
  8. If the average human life span was 40 years, how would you live your life differently?
    • First of all I would cry, bc what sort of life is that? I know for a fact that I would be sad knowing WHEN I am going to die. I would love more, appreciate more, be kind more, spend more time with my family.
  9. To what degree have you actually controlled the course your life has taken?
    • When it comes to my anxiety, I feel that I have TAKEN CONTROL with both hands. I struggled for a very long time, I was bed ridden, I didn’t eat, I didn’t move, I literally stayed in my bed every single day, doing nothing. Then… ONE DAY I SAID NO! I REFUSE TO LIVE LIKE THIS! I REFUSE TO SINK (I have a tattoo saying this) & I pushed my self to get out of bed + change my life.
  10. Are you more worried about doing things right, or doing the right things?
    • Oo, this is a tough one, bc I can openly admit it’s a bit of both, I am a bit of an OCD freak so I want to make sure things are right but I also do like doing the right things also.
  11. You’re having lunch with three people you respect and admire.  They all start criticizing a close friend of yours, not knowing she is your friend.  The criticism is distasteful and unjustified.  What do you do?
    • I will stop them + make them aware that everyone is entitled to their own opinion however this person is my friend & I don’t want to be involved in listening to negativity of someone who is close to me bc that is disrespectful.
  12. If you could offer a newborn child only one piece of advice, what would it be?
    • This is your life, do not stop until you are happy.
  13. Would you break the law to save a loved one?
    • MOST CERTAINLY, NO QUESTIONS ASKED.
  14. Have you ever seen insanity where you later saw creativity?
    • I have to admit, I am a bit unsure by this question.
  15. What’s something you know you do differently than most people?
    • Overcare, overshare, stress too much.
  16. How come the things that make you happy don’t make everyone happy?
    • Bc we are all different & that’s what makes us human & unique.
  17. What one thing have you not done that you really want to do?  What’s holding you back?
    • Travelling Travelling. Travelling. I do not know what is holding me back. Probably the fear of the unknown. But 2018 IS the year. I am doing it!
  18. Are you holding onto something you need to let go of?
    • YES! Most certainly, holding onto dead weight does nothing but weigh you down.
  19. If you had to move to a state or country besides the one you currently live in, where would you move and why?
    • I would move to Europe, I would leave Sydney, Australia & start fresh overseas.
  20. Do you push the elevator button more than once?  Do you really believe it makes the elevator faster?
    • Yes, everyday at work – It does nothing but. I still get up to level 50 in the same amount of time.
  21. Would you rather be a worried genius or a joyful simpleton?
    • I would rather be a joyful simpleton
  22. Why are you, you?
    • Bc I am already a worrier & it drives me crazy.
  23. Have you been the kind of friend you want as a friend?
    • Yes, most certainly. I feel that I am a nice friend (Rach + B think so)
  24. Which is worse, when a good friend moves away, or losing touch with a good friend who lives right near you?
    • Losing touch w/ a good friend who lives right near you – I feel this would heart more bc if a great friend moved far away you could still keep in contact & make mini holidays out of the friendship.
  25. What are you most grateful for?
    • My family, my lovely friends, my health – these three things are the only tings I need in life.
  26. Would you rather lose all of your old memories, or never be able to make new ones?
    • I would rather lose old memories bc life is all about experiencing new things & making new memories.
  27. Is it possible to know the truth without challenging it first?
    • Most def not – You will never know the truth before experiencing it.
  28. Has your greatest fear ever come true?
    • No, & I hope it never does.
  29. Do you remember that time 5 years ago when you were extremely upset?  Does it really matter now?
    • NOPE! It truly doesn’t matter. It’s upsetting how things get to us but these things do not even truly matter.
  30. What is your happiest childhood memory?  What makes it so special?
    • My best childhood memory would be riding my bike w/ my dad – I use to love being active w/ dad.
  31. At what time in your recent past have you felt most passionate and alive?
    • Probably when I am feeling at my best both physically & mentally.
  32. If not now, then when?
    • I hope to work on my life better so that I am always feeling passionate & alive.
  33. If you haven’t achieved it yet, what do you have to lose?
    • Nothing to lose, work & push forward.
  34. Have you ever been with someone, said nothing, and walked away feeling like you just had the best conversation ever?
    • Yes, I have some very lovely people close to my heart that make me feel this way ❤
  35. Why do religions that support love cause so many wars?
    • Religion is another story for another day.
  36. Is it possible to know, without a doubt, what is good and what is evil?
    • No, never.
  37. If you just won a million dollars, would you quit your job?
    • No, bc I would truly go mental without a job.
  38. Would you rather have less work to do, or more work you actually enjoy doing?
    • More work that I am actually enjoying ❤
  39. Do you feel like you’ve lived this day a hundred times before?
    • Sometimes I get times in my life whereby I feel I am in a rut & I feel I am doing the same thing over & over again.
  40. When was the last time you marched into the dark with only the soft glow of an idea you strongly believed in?
    • Just recently.
  41. If you knew that everyone you know was going to die tomorrow, who would you visit today?
    • Yes, I would – It is unfortunate though. I need to spend more time w/ my loved ones.
  42. Would you be willing to reduce your life expectancy by 10 years to become extremely attractive or famous?
    • NEVER! I would rather be a no one but live a happy life.
  43. What is the difference between being alive and truly living?
    • Everyone is ALIVE, its easy, its simple. But truly living means everything. Some people die at 25 & aren’t buried until they are 75.
  44. When is it time to stop calculating risk and rewards, and just go ahead and do what you know is right?
    • NOW!
  45. If we learn from our mistakes, why are we always so afraid to make a mistake?
    • Bc we are scared of failing, we are scared of being wrong.
  46. What would you do differently if you knew nobody would judge you?
    • I would def have to think about that one.
  47. When was the last time you noticed the sound of your own breathing?
    • At night, when I am about to fall asleep.
  48. What do you love?  Have any of your recent actions openly expressed this love?
    • I love my family – having my sister recently engaged, this has bought our family & also Dean’s a lot closer.
  49. In 5 years from now, will you remember what you did yesterday?  What about the day before that?  Or the day before that?
    • No, I need to start making my life worthwhile.
  50. Decisions are being made right now.  The question is:  Are you making them for yourself, or are you letting others make them for you?
    • Oo, I’ve been working a lot around others for quite some time. I have never put my foot forward in life. But, it is time that I start bc I come first. No one else.

 

Wherever you are in the world, have a lovely day ❤

A, x (1)

Find Out Who You Are (My Answers)

Hello loves, ❤

Hope you are all well 🙂

Here is my answers to the 56 questions post that I had posted yesterday. (Happy for you to learn a little bit more about me)

  • Do I believe that everything is meant to be, or do I think that things just tend to happen for no reason at all?
    • I believe that EVERYTHING happens for a reason, everything we encounter, experience & go through is for a reason. Whether theat’d be a lesson learnt or even to teach us a lesson. 
  • Do I forgive and forget? Or do I forgive, but always remember?
    • Oo, I find it hard to forgive, I hold grudges… ALOT! If I do ever forgive, I NEVER forget.
  • If I could give one piece of advice to everyone in the world, what would it be?
    • Your mind is powerful, it can heal you as much as it can harm you. 
  • Do I think that people can change, or that they just are who they are?
    • I am a firm believer of ‘a leopard does not change their spots’  I believe people can change but that can just be an act, they can change for a little while but deep down they will always be who they are. 
  • Would I consider myself to be religious or spiritual?
    • I am a religious believer ❤
  • Would my 10-year-old self be proud of me?
    • I think so :S
  • What do I think is the best revenge?
    • Silence & happiness has to be the BEST revenge.
  • What would I change about myself?
    • My thought pattern, my anxiety & my insecurities. 
  • On the flip side, what would I never change about myself?
    • My heart, my soul, my kindness.
  • Can I confidently say that the path I am on in life right now is the one that I (and no one else) would want for myself?
    • Yes, as mentioned above ‘everything happens for a reason’ I’ve been taken down this path for a reason & I have learnt many things along to way. I’ve learnt more in the last 3-4 years than I have in my own life. 
  • It’s the year 2040. Where am I?
    • I’ll be 47 years old, so I pray to be married to the love of my life with a family living happily ever after.
  • Am I a morning person or a night owl?
    • I am most def a morning person! Haha, I can fall asleep at 7:00pm, I cannot stay awake at night BUT… the morning, I am up w/ the birds 🙂
  • Would I consider myself to be more creative or more logical?
    • Logical ❤
  • What could I do to be a healthier person?
    • Be in more of a food routine & a gym routine, I tend to just go when ever etc so if I was more strict with that, I would like that. 
  • If time and money were no object, what would I do with my life?
    • Focus on being happy w/ the life I live & ensuring those around me are happy w/ their life. 
  • Is it all about luck or hard work?
    • I believe it is most certainly hard work – No one ever got any where within the click of a finger. 
  • Should I live with no regrets, or learn from my mistakes?
    • Def learn from mistakes, it makes you aware & cautious for your future steps. 
  • How would I describe myself in only five words?
    • Honest, trustworthy, kind, loving, ambitious. 
  • Family first, true or false?
    • Most certainly FAMILY FIRST.
  • Can discipline be learned?
    • Yes & no, I really think it is depending on the person. 
  • Am I as loyal as I think I am?
    • Yes! 
  • How could people be a better friend to me?
    • Learn to understand me, I am just a big ball of confusion, so I would most certainly love to be understood more. 
  • How could I be a better friend to people?
    • I would listen more, I would ask how they are, I would want to be there for them the same way they are for me. 
  • Is conformity a good thing or a bad thing?
    • I feel that it can be a good AND a bad thing.
  • What is a book I read that completely changed my outlook on life?
    • The Secret by Rhonda Byrne.
  • How can I be generous when I am not rich?
    • By giving, by listening, by providing, by supporting, by guiding. 
  • How can I improve dialogue and communication with those I deeply disagree with?
    • Be more empathetic.
  • If I had to make a list of my top 10 most important values, what would they be?
    • Honesty
    • Loyalty
    • Motivation
    • Passion
    • Respect
    • Courage
    • Innovation
    • Creativity
    • Optimisim
    • Consistency
  • What are my deal breakers for romantic relationships?
    • Lying
    • Cheating
    • Disrespecting
    • Being deceitful
    • Hiding things
  • Do I love myself?
    • At the moment, no I do not – But I am on a journey of loving myself. 
  • If not, how could I find a way to love myself?
    • Accepting myself for who I am, learning to love my insecurities. 
  • Is trust always earned, or is it a given until it’s broken?
    • Trust is given, until it is broken than from there you are not trusted. 
  • If I could apologize to one person, who would it be?
    • Myself. For putting my self through hardships for quite some time whilst being able to get out of these things rather staying in them & torturing myself. 
  • And what would I say to that person
    • I am so sorry for torturing you, this time is now all yours, you are living the life you want moving forward. 
  • If I was able to say one thing to my ex, what would I say?
    • N/A
  • If I could have one person apologize to me, who would it be?
    • A very dear friend 😦
  • And what would I want them to say?
    • I am sorry, Anita – I was just in a bad place. 
  • Do I ghost people or do I give them a reason for breaking ties?
    • I feel this depends, sometimes I ghost but if I am angry I will tend to share my thoughts. 
  • Do I believe in karma?
    • Yes, more than evvvvvvvvvvver!
  • How do I show I am angry?
    • Through anger, frustration, sadness, crying. 
  • In my opinion, what are my greatest strengths?
    • Warm
    • Thoughtful
    • Spontaneous
    • Adventurous
    • Helping
    • Inspiring
  • In my opinion, what are my greatest weaknesses?
    • Impatient
    • Stubborn
    • Complaining
    • Controlling
    • Selfish
  • If I could go anywhere in the world, where would I go?
    • Greece, or even just somewhere in Europe by the beach.
  •  Is work-life balance important to me?
    • Most certainly yes, I know for a fact that I need to work on this more too. 
  • Is family important to me?
    • Yes they are – I love to keep my family close to me. 
  • Is friendship important to me?
    • Yes, I am def a ‘quality over quantity’ person. 
  • Is romantic love important to me?
    • Most certainly – romantic love to me means soooooo much to me.
  • If I could have one talent, what would it be?
    • Oh lord, I have no idea – Maybe to be able to do the splits. 
  • What is one part of my life I miss and why?
    • Being a kid whereby nothing mattered & life was carefree. I miss riding my bike at my old place & playing games w/ my dad. 
  • What are elements from that time I could incorporate into my present?
    • Spending time w/ my father now & also ensuring I am letting my family know how much I love them ( I don’t do this enough)
  • Do actions really speak louder than words?
    • YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS! My lord, this one is DEF the truth! People can talk the talk (that is easy) however when they have to meet this w/ their actions I notice people tend to struggle w/ this. 
  • Am I happy with my career?
    • I can finally say YES! I have had my fair share of crappy jobs, I can finally say I am happy now w/ my career. 
  • If not, what could I change about my job to be happier and more satisfied?
    • I feel it is what you make it, you need to make it fun. If you walk in with a negative attitude you’ll have a crappy day. You are what you think.
  • What’s more important to me, self respect or being right?
    • Def self respect – I am more than happy to admit I am wrong, I would much rather be able to sleep at night. 
  • Do I learn from the past or live in the past?
    • I most certainly learn from my past, what I experience & also the lessons I have learnt. 
  • When I die, what do I want to be remembered for?
    • Being someone who helped others, cared for others, had a heart of gold, would do anything for her family & friends.

 

I hope you feel you’ve gotten to know me more now 🙂

Wherever you are in the world, have a lovely day ❤

A, x (1)

My Answers To 56 Lists To Make When You Are Feeling Down.

Yesterday, I uploaded a blog that was called 56 Lists To Make When You Are Feeling Down.

I thought of filling this out myself + giving you all an insight of some more things about me ❤

YOU

 

  • Favorite memories
    • Ticking things off my bucket list
  • Your best qualities
    • Loyal, honest & trustworthy.
  • Best days you’ve lived
    • Days spent w my beautiful friends & family.
  • Compliments you’ve received
    • That I have nice eyes, nice hair, nice voice.
  • What you like the most about yourself
    • My drive to stay clean + tidy at all times, whether thats my room, car, work desk etc.
  • Your most precious possessions
    • My heart, ensuring it doesn’t get hurt.
  • Bucket list of things to do
    • Wow, this is a big once, I think I’ll have to do a separate post on this!
  • Things that make you happy
    • My family
    • My beautiful friends
    • Reading
    • Watching sunrises + sunsets
    • Meditating
  • Positive adjectives to describe yourself
    • Honest
    • Kind
    • Attentive
    • Direct
    • Consistent
    • Motivated
    • Reliable
    • Respectful
  • Your values
    • A belief that honesty is always the best policy and that trust has to be earned.
  • Favorite ways to relax
    • Drinking tea & reading a book.
  • Fun things to do at home
    • Meditate
    • Sit in the sun
    • Colour in
    • Read

YOUR PEOPLE

  • People you love
    • My family
    • My friends
  • People loving you
    • My family
    • My friends
  • How you met your favorite people
    • All different kinds of ways, God just crossed our paths at the right time
  • People you would like to meet
    • Louise Hay
  • What you like to do with your friends
    • Spend time in the sun, relax, go for walks
  • What you like to do with your family
    • Drink tea, play board games
  • People you would like to reconnect with
    • God, I would like to strengthen my relationship with him
  • Things you would like to do with your friends & family
    • Appreciate them more, be more kind + loving
  • People who inspire you
    • Louise Hay, My parents,
  • Every friend you ever made
    • There are alot here bc I made lots of friends through school, dancing, sports, so I’d be here a while – lets just say the circle isn’t that big now & that’s by choice.
  • People who have positively influenced you
    • My parents, Rach + B 🙂
  • Gift ideas for your favorite people
    • This really depends bc my favourite people like different things.
  • Everything you love about your partner
    • Direct
    • Mature
    • Realistic
    • Carefree
    • Hard Worker
    • Committed
    • Strong
    • Successful
    • Focused
  • People you want to send a thank you note to
    • Louise Hay, for helping me in a while she will NEVER know.
  • Date night ideas
    • Movie, tea, popcorn + a cosy blanky 🙂

YOUR ACCOMPLISHMENTS

  • Things that you are grateful for
    • My journey so far
    • My family
    • My health
    • My career
  • Things you are proud of
    • How far I have come along my anxiety journey
  • The scariest things you’ve done
    • Go on the Scooby Doo roller coaster in Queensland
  • Dreams that became reality
    • being able to go on a plane
  • Biggest accomplishments
    • Going in an airplane
    • Going in an elevator
  • Ways to celebrate your wins
    • Buying myself a new book 🙂
    • Celebrating w/ a mini holiday
  • All the things you are good at
    • Piano
    • Acoustic Guitar
    • Dancing

YOUR DREAMS

  • Life goals
    • To be happy & healthy
  • Countries you would like to visit
    • Wow, I would be here forever! I know for a fact I’ll do a post on this one!
  • Things you would like to do
    • Improve my anxiety
    • Conquer my insecurities
  • Stories you would like to write about
    • My anxiety journey & how far I have come
  • Adventures you would like to live
    • Experiencing a third world country
  • Dreams for the future
    • To be the best wife & mother
  • Where you would like to live
    • Doesn’t matter where, bc w/ my family, I am already home.
  • What you will be doing in the next few years
    • Focusing on my career
  • Things you would like to get
    • I would like to get a better understanding of coping w/ anxiety
  • Skills you would like to learn
    • Conquering insecurities
  • Wish list
    • I wish for a life of good health + happiness

YOUR FAVORITE THINGS

  • Favorite songs
    • Better today by Coffey Anderson
  • Funniest jokes
    • Lol, I am not a joke teller 😛
  • Favorite movies
    • A Walk to Remember
  • Favorite TV shows
    • Pretty Little Liars
  • Favorite books
    • A Child Called It
    • The Life Plan (The best book ever! I thank J all the time for buying me this!)
  • Favorite places
    • Anywhere with a pretty sunrise or sunset.
  • Favorite food
    • Chocolate, chocolate & more chocolate… & PIZZAA TOOOOO!
  • Favorite restaurants
    • Crinitis
  • Favorite parks in town
    • Botany Bay National Park
  • Favorite quotes
    • God gives his hardest battles to his strongest soldiers
    • Little by little, one walks far
    • Your mind is powerful, it can heal you as much as it can harm you
  • Favorite podcasts
    • I am not sure if this is a podcast but I do love listening to ‘The Secret’

If you have completed this too make sure to hashtag #discoveringyourhappiness so I can see 🙂

Wherever you are in the world, have a lovely day ❤

A, x (1)

Know Thyself in 21 Questions

To know who we are is something we should discover early on in life. 

You know the saying about loving yourself before you can love anyone else?

Knowing yourself is the same. Before you know anything, you have to know yourself.

Unfortunately, it’s not quite as straightforward as you’d hope. 

Firstly, because the beauty of people is learning and change. You will constantly learn new things about yourself. It’s a life long process, and that’s a good thing.

The second reason knowing yourself isn’t as easy as it sounds, is because we’re unsure of where to begin. This is why these questions are helpful. It will serve as a starting point for you to take further.

Think of knowing yourself like researching an object

You want to know everything you can about it. Then, you know exactly how to develop it, care for it, grow it, and use it in the most effective and efficient way possible.

How would you answer these questions? 

  1. What does your ideal day look like?
  2. What did you want to be when you were younger?
  3. Who are you most inspired by? Why?
  4. Who would you love to meet? What would you ask?
  5. What habit would you most like to break? What habit would you most like to start?
  6. Think of a person you truly admire. What qualities do you like about that person?
  7. How do you like to relax?
  8. When was the last time you did something you were afraid of?
  9. What are you most proud of?
  10. What are you most afraid of?
  11. If life stopped today, what would you regret not doing?
  12. Who would you like to connect (or reconnect) with? Why?
  13. What qualities do you admire in others?
  14. What practical skills do you wish you had?
  15. Imagine you’re in your 90s. What memories would you like to have? What stories do you want to tell?
  16. What is your favorite book/movie/song? Why?
  17. If you could make one change in the world, what would it be?
  18. What do you love to do for, or give to others (not an object – something from you personally)?
  19. What excites you?
  20. What do you wish you did more of?
  21. Pretend money is no object. What would you do?
  22. What area of your life, right now, makes you feel the best? Which area makes you feel the worst? Why?
  23. Let’s jump forward a year. What would you like to have achieved in the past year?
  24. What piece of advice would you give to five year old you? Sixteen year old you? Twenty-one year old you? Right now?
  25. How do you want to be remembered in life?

Grab a pen + paper, enjoy answering these questions, enjoy learing more about yourself.

You are your own best friend, you are with yourself 24/7, so you need to know the person that you are.

Wherever you are in the world, have a lovely day ❤

A, x (1)