Things You Need To Know If You Love Someone Who Suffers From Anxiety Attacks

Things You Need To Know If You Love Someone Who Suffers From Anxiety Attacks

Hello loves, ❤

When the people you love suffer from afflictions that you don’t know much about, it can be difficult to help them, even if you do your best. Anxiety attacks are something people commonly deal with for a variety of reasons, and when someone close to you has them frequently, you may not know what to do to help. Read on to find out some basic things you need to know in order to support your close friends and family before, during and after an anxiety attack.

1. Don’t Question Their Reasoning

The thing about anxiety attacks that everyone who has them knows is that they can be equally triggered by things that make sense and things that don’t as much. For example, a friend might begin to have an attack because they put too many chocolate chips in their pancake. You might feel inclined to take them less seriously because of this, but for them it might have trigger anxieties that relate to that activity. Always recognize that their attack is valid even if you don’t understand it.

2. Offer Your Help

Everyone is going to react differently when you offer help during an anxiety attack, so don’t take their answer personally. Some people may need you to talk them out of it, hold them while they go through it or even leave them alone so they can just wait it out. The key is to give them the power to control the situation, so their anxiety can be eased.

3. Focus on Breathing

Practicing a breathing exercise can help at all times surrounding or during an anxiety attack. By doing a breathing exercise to relieve anxiety that’s right for them, your loved one could do this on their own when they feel themselves getting anxious. If they want you to stick around during an attack, try to talk them through the exercise in an effort to help calm and refocus them.

4. Meditation Can Help

The difference between meditating and doing a breathing exercise is that meditation focuses the mind and air intake, while watching your breathing is just a calming method. You can meditate with your loved one as a sign of support so they don’t feel alone in learning to control and channel their anxiety. Meditation has been proven to help control triggers and impulses that relate to anxiety attacks, so even just trying it could give your loved one a moment of peace and calm.

5. Set Boundaries

Some anxiety attacks are caused by people overthinking, so boundaries can help them learn to narrow down what anxieties they deal with every day. Your loved one could worry about their health and repeatedly ask if they should go to a doctor or if what they have is serious. Good boundaries could be limiting their questions to three, then if they have concerns after that, they get one call to their doctor for advice. Boundaries show that worries can be dealt with quickly and don’t always have to spiral.

6. Go to A Professional

Never underestimate the kind of help a mental health professional can provide if no other options have worked. They might recommend something like Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, which is a psychotherapy that aims to modify dysfunctional behaviors and thoughts. It’s commonly used to treat anxiety and has given people positive results. Seeing a professional wouldn’t be a sign of weakness. It might be the best way for the person you love to overcome their anxiety and live their best life.

Talking about their anxiety attacks is sometimes the hardest part about life for someone who experiences anxiety. It’s not always easy to explain and they may feel defeated by it, making it a big insecurity. There are lots of ways you can help your loved one who deals with anxiety attacks, but the biggest help you can give is by always providing a safe space for them to come to so they don’t have to worry about any judgement.

And never forget that even if the person you love finds ways to cope with their anxiety and struggles with it less over time, it’s a personal issue that follows people their entire lives. There’s no magic word or trick anyone can do to instantly take it away. There may be relapses or long periods of success, but always promise to be there for them if they should ever need it.

Wherever you are in the world, have a lovely day ❤

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Things People With Anxiety Never Ever Want To Hear

Things People With Anxiety

Hello loves, ❤

Having a god support system is VITAL when dealing with anxiety, these people are your back bone. These people are the shelter from your storm 🙂 Make sure you choose your support system wisely.

Notice that the below are RED FLAGS for a bad support system & people that say:

 

1. Are you ok?

No. To be completely honest no. And you can not fix that so do not ask if I am ok because the answer is no. When an anxiety attack sets in, or a bad day hits, nothing can make you feel okay and what makes it worse is when someone who has no experience to what is going on thinks they can make you ok. Thank you for trying, that is so kind but you can not make me ok. Only I can and it is a lot harder then you will ever know.

2. Just take your pill.

As if the medication is a quick fix. Did you know it takes at least two weeks for a medication to kick in and if suffering from anxiety, it usually takes longer. And even when the medication does kick in, it;s not a fix.

Anxiety medication is simply a relief but not a total stop. If anxiety medication just stopped anxiety in total I think more people would be on it. However, it is not. It maintains the issue but does not fix it. Anxiety is not something that can be fixed. It is not a broken car part. It is part of our brain, body, and everyday life.

3. Just ignore it.

HAHA. Like that is even possible. Anxiety makes us see that little spot on our jeans or that little tear in our school paper and makes unable to ignore it. I don’t know about you, but ignoring it is not an option. If ignoring the voice in our heads was on option, I think we would ignore it.

4. Stay calm.

I genuinely think if someone says these two words to me they deserved to be slapped across the face. Staying calm is not possible when your heart is racing or you can not catch your breath.

We are way past staying calm at this point. Hearing these two words is like nails on the chalkboard. Staying calm is just not going to happen.

5. You are fine.

You certainly are not fine and you never will be. Every day is hard and people do not give you enough credit for that. You deserve credit for getting out of bed and doing a daily task that drives you nuts. You also deserve credit for not being able to leave your bed. For knowing yourself so well that you know if you take on the day you will physically and mentally break done.

People with anxiety are far from fine, but they know themselves better than anyone. People with anxiety are forced to trust their gut… something “normal” people fail to do. People with anxiety do not conform.

You are not fine and you never will be, but you will handle it and that is something you should be so proud of.

Wherever you are in the world, have a lovely day ❤

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I Need You To Love My Anxiety Too

native american proverb

Hello loves, ❤

Anxiety is such a big & touchy topic, not many people like to talk about it (& I respect that) However, being on wordpress for over 2 years, I have stepped out of my comfort zone & started talking about it more ❤

I need you to love every little bit of me, and I need you to understand that my anxiety is a big part of me.

I need you to love my anxiety and understand it is completely normal for me not to want to leave my house all day. I need you to be understanding and compassionate because little things affect me in a big way.

I need you to love my anxiety and understand that my apologies will come even when I do nothing wrong. I need you to understand that I am not being dramatic, but I make myself believe I am offending you or bothering you.

I need you to love my anxiety and understand that I will overanalyze every last bit of our conversations. I will mull over the tone of your voice, or wonder why the conversation came to an abrupt stop.

I need you to love my anxiety and understand that I will need reassurance that you will not leave one day. I also need you to understand that I am trying to trust you, but my first instinct is to doubt you.

I need you to love my anxiety and understand that I am not being irritable because I am upset with you. Most of the time, I don’t know why I am irritable, and I don’t know how to better my mood. I hope you do not take this personal.

I need you to love my anxiety and understand that I am not being emotional for no reason. My anxiety likes to trick me into worrying about many problems, mainly the illogical ones. At times it will feel as if I am drowning in my emotions, but at other times it will feel as if I am sitting in a desert, void of any feelings at all.

I need you to love my anxiety and understand that I will always think of myself as replaceable. I will look at you as the one star who shines the brightest, but I know you will never feel this same way. I will always assume there is someone more important than me, but it is something I will accept early on, I just hope you can accept it, too.

I need you to understand that I wish I could be easier for you to love, and I need you to learn to love my anxiety because I need to see that someone else could love all the bits of me, even the ones that I hate.

Wherever you are in the world, have a lovely day ❤

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The Only Way A Relationship Works The Second Time

The Only Way A Relationship Works The Second Time

Hello loves, ❤

Have you ever broken up with a partner for a short or even long period of time but then find yourself giving them another chance?

It will only work the second time if you trust the other person has changed. If you believe them when they say they are never going to hurt you again. If your head, and not just your heart, thinks getting back together is a good idea. If you have faith you can actually make things work this time around.

It will only work the second time if you fix the issues that caused the breakup in the first place. If you discuss what went wrong and figure out a way to move forward without repeating the mistakes of the past. If you are both willing to make alterations, because if you enter the same toxic relationship you were originally apart of, then it is going to end the same way.

It will only work the second time if you are willing to release the grudges you were holding for so long. If you are able to forgive each other — and mean it. If you both agree to leave the past in the past. If you never bring up ancient mistakes in arguments in order to make a point. If you focus on what you could build together in the future instead of who messed up in the past.

It will only work the second time if you are willing to admit your mistakes. If you are going to take responsibility for your actions. If you are going to say sorry for all the times you hurt them, even if it was unintentional. If you are going to act like adults.

It will only work the second time if you are serious about spending forever together. If you aren’t going to part ways at the first sign of trouble. If you decide that, this time, you are going to work as a team. You are going to stop viewing each other as competition and realize you are on the same side. You are going to fix your problems instead of running away from them.

It will only work the second time if you both want the same things from the future. If you can imagine making the relationship work for more than a few months. If you both agree on whether you want to be exclusive, whether you want to get married, and whether you want to have kids.

It will only work the second time if you are willing to give up your options and abandon the single life. If you are okay with the idea of commitment. If you are ready to settle down. If you are ready to give this other person everything they should have gotten from you in the beginning.

It will only work the second time if you were miserable without each other — for the right reasons. You weren’t miserable because you hated being single. You were miserable because they were your best friend, they were the highlight of your days, they were the best thing that ever happened to you and you hate yourself for letting them get away.

Wherever you are in the world, have a lovely day ❤

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