How To Be A Positive Thinker (Part 1/3)

Negative emotions can spiral – if you want to stop letting yourself sink down into bad feelings, you can train yourself to let the light in.

You can learn to find the bright side & stay positive, avoiding negativity in your life, & going about the process of improving yourself for the better.

Part 1/3: Finding The Bright Side

Start smiling more:

When you smile, your brain activates neural messages that actually make you feel more positive. Even if you’re feeling kind of ‘blah’ & foggy, make your face do the work of brightening your day. It works! An added bonus? When you smile, you’ll spread positivity around to other people as well – it’s good for everyone. If you are not in a great mood, grumping about it won’t make it any better. Practice forcing yourself to smile & It will become second nature.

Make little changes in the words you use:

It’s easy to say things that can accidentally bring you down. Using positive words as opposed to negative words has a proven effect on your mood & also your attitude. Don’t identify yourself w/ your feelings – Don’t say ‘I am sad’ or ‘I am frustrated’. Instead, put the negativity elsewhere. Say, ‘that movie made me sad’ or ‘this task is difficult & frustrating’ You can also use the little changes within the words you use when you are talking to those around you, especially your loved ones, even though you are in a negative mood you don’t want to push that feeling onto your loved ones & than they will be upset, so being aware & alert of how you speak & the words that you use will def help you.

Do nice things for others, even if you don’t feel like it:

Not having a great day? That doesn’t mean you have to act like it. Choose to spread positivity around & the smiles you get in return will fo a lot to make you think more positively. Reminding your partner that you love them, or buying your partner a little gift whilst you are at the shop to show you think of them (these are things I do hence why I am using them as examples) – just bc you are in this yucky mood, doing something nice for someone will make your heart feel nice & you will see your loved one have a smile on their face & that will instantly give you one 🙂

Spend time with positive people in your life:

If you want to think more positively, surround yourself with other positive thinkers & with people who bring out the best in you & bring positive vibes into your life. Spend your time w/ people who are supportive, friendly, kind, honest, loving, trustworthy. (I personally like spending ALOT of my time w/ J, he honestly has no idea how he makes me feel – he is my sunshine on a cloudy day – his positivity is just amazing to be around – he as really helped me w/ my anxiety & appreciating our time together, the time I’ve been given on this Earth etc.

Find positive quotes or mantras to keep with you:

One great way to keep your outlook bright is to keep little quotes or sayings that you like in your pocket or even near your computer desk – this is a great way to remind you of positive things when you are having a bad day.

Keep a journal & record each day:

If you sometimes end your day on a sour note, train yourself to turn that around. Instead pour yourself a cup of tea & sit down & reflect on your day in a journal – you’d be surprised at how therapeutic this is.

  • Write down three things that went well & explain why they went well.
  • Write down three things that didn’t go well & explain why they didn’t go well.
  • Write down three things you are grateful for.
  • Read back over what you wrote, sometimes what seems  super-dramatic in your mind will suddenly seem much more minor when you actually read it out. Was it really worth all that negativity?





Start Today

It’s time to make a change to the demon in my mind – it’s time for change.

its time to put these negative thoughts to rest.

  1. Start spending time w/ the right people
  2. Start facing your problems head on.
  3. Start being honest w/ yourself about everything.
  4. Start making your own happiness a priority.
  5. Start being yourself, genuinely & proudly.
  6. Start noticing & living in the present.
  7. Start valuing the lessons your mistakes teach you.
  8. Start being more polite to yourself.
  9. Start enjoying the things you already have.
  10. Start creating your own happiness.
  11. Start giving your ideas and dreams a chance.
  12. Start believing that you’re ready for the next step.
  13. Start competing w/ an earlier version of yourself.
  14. Start cheering for other people’s victories.
  15. Start looking for the silver lining in tough situations.
  16. Start forgiving yourself & others.
  17. Start helping those around you.
  18. Start listening to your own inner voice.
  19. Start being attentive to your stress level & take short breaks.
  20. Start noticing the beauty of small moments.
  21. Start accepting things when they are less than perfect.
  22. Start working towards your goals every single day.
  23. Start being more open w/ how you feel.
  24. Start taking full accountability of your own life.
  25. Start actively nurturing your most important relationships.
  26. Start concentrating on the things you can control.
  27. Start focusing on the possibility of positive outcomes.
  28. Start noticing how wealthy you are.
  29. Start realising how grateful you are.

16 Things You Should Expect When Your Loved One Has Anxiety

  1. Expect firm boundaries.

Sometimes anxious people – and especially anxious introverts – simply need to be alone.


  1. Expect to be appreciated for the little things.

We notice everything, and we are grateful for even the smallest of gestures.


  1. Expect our bond to run deep and grow quickly.

Once you are in our inner circle, you are in for life.


  1. Expect to be the one responsible for making plans.

Having too many choices can stress us out.


  1. Expect to learn to listen, rather than give advice.

When we are anxious, we need to let it out. It’s therapeutic.


  1. Expect to endure hundreds of new attempts at anxiety management techniques.

Essential oils, adult coloring books, acupuncture…we’ll try it all.


  1. Expect to give reassurance more than you’d like to.

Tell us we’re safe. Tell us we’re loved. Tell us it’ll all be okay.


  1. Expect reason to be powerless against anxiety.

This is true for even the most logical of anxious people.


  1. Expect to learn some deep breathing exercises.

Walk your partner through them in times of trouble. These are amazingly effective.


  1. Expect to communicate honestly.

Your partner will sense if you are holding back. This will add to their anxiety.


  1. Expect some weird sleep patterns.

Anxiety often goes hand in hand with insomnia and other sleep disorders.


  1. Expect lots of lists and itineraries.

Preparation helps to soothe us. Please don’t try to stray from the plan.


  1. Expect to provide stability rather than drama.

We don’t like to do the on-and-off thing. We need a partner we can depend on. We thrive on this.


  1. Expect to encounter problems that you can’t solve for us.

Learn to be okay with that.


  1. Expect to encourage your partner to engage in self-care.

Explain that it’s not the same thing as being lazy or self-indulgent. Health is just as important as accomplishments.


  1. Expect to make your own self-care a priority.

Your well-being is important, too.


“Don’t worry if people think you’re crazy. You are crazy. You have that kind of intoxicating insanity that lets other people dream outside of the lines and become who they’re destined to be,” wrote Jennifer Elisabeth.

Your partner’s anxiety may seem insane to you at times. However, this is only one part of their being. If the rest of them is worth it, learn to love your partner as a whole. Get lost in their madness. Learn to love one another completely, strengths, afflictions, and all.