Treat Your Anxiety Like A Welcomed Guest

Treat Your Anxiety Like A Welcomed Guest

Hello loves, ❤

Anxiety for me is that skin-tightening, heart-racing, dizzy haze that floods your body and mind. Limbs feel as if they are melting into their corresponding bones, and your sense of body is lost. Your mind jumps from conclusion to conclusion until it is decided: This is the end of the world. It’s true; the small detail that you changed that morning has altered the fabric of the universe. This is anxiety.

Anxiety is a very normal response to stress and danger. It’s a form of energy, and it surges through us, either empowering us, readying us, or paralyzing us. Thoughts move while we are frozen, breath is hard to find, and lungs seem to collapse on them. Christ, why can’t we/you/I just calm down?

I feel this, too, and then I’m told to hold it. To hold the anxiety, give it a place to settle, to breathe. This made me very anxious, naturally. “Your anxiety is a gift,”I’m told. “A message, it’s asking you to look at something.” I sat with this new information for a while until anxiety itself—with all its little fast worrying hands—decoded and reconstructed it in my mind, and it goes a little something like this:

Anxiety is a series of communications with your limbic system, amygdala, and sympathetic nervous system giving you all the sensations and emotions that create our familiar foe or friend, anxiety. At times, these feelings, reactions, and thoughts can grow and consume you—until you are a breathless body of a panic attack. But why was the anxiety there in the first place?

I ask myself these things as it arises. Perhaps it wants to be heard. To finally be acknowledged. Perhaps it wants to know that it isn’t so bad. My advice:

Give it a place to settle when it arrives. Here, you can say, take this space in my chest. Yeah, you can settle right there near my heart. Like any guest—frequent as they may be—they like to feel welcomed. The natural reaction is to fear the anxiety itself, is to become anxious about the anxiety. Here, we want to greet the anxiety with compassion. “I shouldn’t be feeling this way” becomes “It’s okay to be feeling this way.”

As anxiety settles in, you can ask your guest if they are comfortable. (You, of course, might feel completely unsettled.) And after they are settled in and awkward introductions are over with, you can start introspection. What message is being sent?

I’m not talking about the small detail that set it off; I’m talking about the core issues. Anxiety can be considered as a message—or the messenger, if you will—of the core issue. Maybe you can’t find it. Maybe it is unclear—this is okay. Maybe all the anxiety wants in this moment is some simple recognition. “Yes, anxiety I see you, and I call you by your name.”

Your anxiety might grow, it might overwhelm. Like all agitated guests, it might get up from the place you gave it and overwhelm. This is okay—this entire exercise is a process. If you can couch your anxiety back in that welcomed spot, try to listen again. Try to tell your guest that you see them, and that it is okay to be here. On that note, try telling yourself that as well. It’s okay for your anxiety to be there.

It is uncomfortable, difficult, and exhausting, but your anxiety now is a guest—welcomed and calm. The effect of this exercise is to decrease the anxiety of the anxiety. To have the initial anxiety settle and swim in your system—to float. It speaks to you and occasionally asks for a glass of red, but it doesn’t overwhelm. It doesn’t separate mind from body and suck the air of your lungs. It keeps the panic attacks away and you at bay.

Wherever you are in the world, have a lovely day ❤

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Hypochondria Series: Change The Way You Think About Your Illness (Part 3/4)

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Hello loves, ❤

Here we are for Day 3 of this series ❤

I pray you are finding this information useful so far.

Below are some way you can change the way you think of your illness ❤

Find a mental health professional.

  • Research indicates that mental health therapy is an effective treatment for IAD
  • Ask your doctor for a referral for a counselor in your area. If you don’t have a doctor or would rather find a counsellor on your own, the National Board for Certified Counselors has an online directory.


Be prepared for feelings of resistance.

  • If you’re convinced that you have a serious medical issue, you may find it insulting to sit and talk with someone who is telling you that you aren’t capable of accurately perceiving your own body. But if you want to overcome the fear and anxiety that is causing you so much emotional turmoil, you need to trust someone who understands your condition.
  • Allow yourself to feel uncomfortable. Part of your treatment will involve forcing yourself to stop monitoring your physical symptoms, something that may fill you with anxiety if you’ve been closely attending to your symptoms for weeks or months. Invariably, this process will cause you some discomfort.


Test the validity of your fears.

  • Much of your treatment will hinge on challenging your thinking. You might be asked to stop taking your blood pressure or feeling for lumps on your body, and your therapist will push you to examine the fears that underlie your worries about your health. You must resist the temptation to fall back into a pattern of obsessive self-monitoring.
  • Remind yourself that this uneasiness is evidence that the process is working and that you’re making progress. You’re not going to get better without making some significant changes, and the change process is always going to be difficult on some level.

Discover what triggers your anxiety.

In some cases, anxiety actually creates physical symptoms such as stomach distress, so part of your counseling will involve learning about what makes you particularly vulnerable to being overcome with worry about your health.

  • You may feel more anxiety over perceived symptoms during times of stress in life. Working with a therapist will teach you to identify the signs so that you can stop those negative thoughts before they consume you.
  • Attend all of your scheduled treatment sessions. Inevitably, there will be days when you don’t want to attend therapy, either because you’re feeling sick or you simply don’t think the counseling is making any difference. You must resist this temptation. If you don’t take your treatment seriously, it won’t work, and you’ll create a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Educate yourself about your condition.

While hypochondriasis is less well researched than many mental illnesses, there is a body of research available if you do a little digging.

  • Read the accounts of people who have written about their hypochondria. There are numerous blogs and forums where people relate the stories of how they came to understand their illness and learned to manage it. Though you might not want to consider the fact that you’re one of them, reading their stories will help you identify many of the same thoughts and fears in your own life.
  • Channel your anxiety into better understanding your disorder. No matter how much you research the physical symptoms that are causing you so much worry, it will never be enough to calm your mind. Instead, use the time you would have spent searching for evidence that your aches and pains are signs of your impending doom to read up on hypochondriasis.


Keep a journal.

  • Writing down your thoughts will provide you with a record of your symptoms and experiences. If your symptoms repeatedly lead to nowhere, you will be able to provide yourself evidence that your fears have been unfounded all along.
  • When you’re feeling anxious or wish you had someone to talk to, write down your thoughts instead. Are you terrified of experiencing physical pain? Have you watched someone close to you suffer with an illness and you’re afraid that you’ll go through the same thing? Where did those feelings originate for you? Exploring some of those bigger questions will help you uncover the thinking patterns that are underlying your anxiety.
  • Writing down your thoughts will allow you to track the progression of your symptoms and give you an opportunity to see what sorts of moods and situations make it more likely for you to enter the spiral of worry and anxiety. This can also help you identify your triggers.
    • For instance, do you tend to start to worry during a particularly stressful time at work? Are you more likely to stay up late at night searching for evidence of your illness when you’re fighting with your partner? Once you can identify those triggers, you can start to manage them more effectively.

Wherever you are in the world, have a lovely day ❤

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World Mental Health Day

World Mental Health Day was yesterday here in Australia however, alot of my bloggers are from the US so I though I would write my blog today to coincide w/ my followers overseas.

When going on to: I chose to make a promise to myself.

My promise was: 

My mental health promise is to: remind myself that, this too shall pass & there is light at the end of the tunnel. 



Jump online & make your own, they send you the JPEG file to your email. You get to choose your own background & writing etc.

I love the photo, I love how one side is dark & one side is light. Our lives are how we percieve them.

If we think negative everything around us will be negative bc that the mindset we’ve given ourselves.

If we think positive, everything around us will fall into place bc when we think positive, great things happen around us.

Mental health, mental health, mental health… Where do I begin? Its been a rough journey over the past 3-4 years but when I look back at how far I have come I am more than proud of myself.

I know for a fact that I have a long way to go & some days I think I am not going to make it, but there are several quotes that get me through:

  • God gives his hardest battles to his strongest soldiers
  • Little by little, one walks far.
  • Your mind is powerful, it can heal you as much as it can harm you.
  • It’s just a bad day, not a bad life.
  • There is light at the end of the tunnel.

What are some great quotes you love?

Making sure that you have a good support system around you is KEY! Bc somedays you feel like the world is crashing down & you need that pick-me-up, or that chat, guidance, love, support etc. No matter what you are going through, your loved ones are there for you to help you through this.

There are so many services that you can get advice from & even helplines that can assist you in support & guidance.

Just know that you are never alone, we are all fighting our own battles.

Be there for your loved ones, the same way they are for you ❤

Do let me know if you make a promise ob the WMHD website 🙂

Wherever you are in the world, have a lovely day ❤

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It Took 2 Days (21,000 Views)

Good morning everyone 🙂

Another morning that I sit at my work desk, go through my emails, reply to comments, read some inspiring blog posts.


There has been some back burning in Sydney, Australia in preparation for the hot summer we will have this year – so there is A LOT of smoke happening where I am, the smell of smoke is everywhere, in your house, in the office, on your clothes etc – can’t shake the smell.

Another 1000 view to add to our view calculator, we are now sitting on 21,000 & I couldn’t be more grateful for all the support, views, comments & love from each & every one of you.

Thank you to those that have started emailing me + have become e-pals w/ me ❤ Wohoo, it’s been a pleasure talking to all of you, can’t wait to make more e-pal friends ❤

We are now on Day 14 of the 21 Day Self Care Challenge, hope everyone is going well w/ this ❤

I know that Gail from Gail Loves God is doing a TREMENDOUS job at this self care challenge, she blogs daily about what she’s been up to.

I am so grateful for those that are doing this challenge, + keeping up to date. be sure to let me know if you are doing this challenge + have been blogging about it ❤

Yesterdays challenge was about friendship + making sure we are surrounded by people that bring a positive vibe to our lives.

Gail mentioned something very lovely in regards to gaining a new friend ❤


^ To have someone write such beautiful words about me brings tears yet smiles to my face. I cannot believe that people on the other side of the world read my blog, acknowledge my posts than also take the time to write such beautiful posts about me.

Wherever you are in the world, have a lovely day ❤

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