You Are #1

Hello loves ❤

At first it’s going to be uncomfortable especially when you’ve never made yourself a priority before. When you are the type of person who puts everyone else’s needs before your own. When happiness is defined by what you do for others and you’ve done it so long you forget to do things for yourself.

It’s realizing maybe the reason you aren’t where you want to be or feel the way you do is because you haven’t taken the steps to get there yourself when you’re constantly focusing on other things and people.

It’s looking yourself in the mirror and accepting the fact you made these choices and you can’t blame anyone if you aren’t happy or fulfilled.

It’s looking at your life and instead of pointing blame it’s finally taking responsibility.

It’s feeling a little confused because once you realize making other people happy hasn’t made you happy, you have to figure out what does and you might not even know that answer.

It’s sitting down and trying to figure out what you want while trying to evaluate and eliminate the things you don’t want.

It’s removing certain people from your life because you have to for your own wellbeing even if you love them and care about them and can’t imagine your life without them, sometimes distance and space is better.

It’s stopping instead of running from your problems because you know you can’t escape the things you are denying to be the truth and you can distract yourself from what the problem is. But you are at a point where you want to find a solution.

It’s doing something you don’t want to because that choice is going to put you on a track you’re proud of not one you’re settling for.

It’s asking yourself am I doing this because I want to? Or am I doing this because I feel I have to and I don’t want to let other people down?

It’s not feeling guilty to admit you need a break or you’re tired and just need to relax for once.

It’s staying in on a Friday because you look at your bank account and you don’t even know what you spent stuff on but you know, you should have been more responsible.

It’s finally wanting to take full responsibility for how you feel about yourself and not allowing others to define your self worth.

It’s ending those relationships that linger and have loose ends because you can’t keep giving chances to people who don’t deserve it.

It’s not answering when someone from the past comes back because don’t care about what they say because they shouldn’t have left in the first place.

It’s not always being the one to make plans with everyone and go all the way to them every time. It’s realizing people should be putting as much effort into you as you have them instead of taking the relationship for granted.

It’s checking in the people who check in on you because those are the people who matter.

It’s putting your phone down when you want to text someone because you are realizing the phone works both ways and the only person you should be interested in isn’t one who makes you question your self worth or question a simple text.

It’s holding back on dating because if you don’t know who you are and what you want you won’t know what to ask other people for.

It’s figuring out what you want and not being ashamed of it or feeling guilty for wanting something more than just a hookup.

It’s letting that really attractive person go even though you’re interested because you know you can’t turn them into the person you want them to be and you aren’t going to waste your effort.

It’s allowing yourself to breakdown and cry and fall completely apart because it’s okay to not have the answers. It’s okay to be unsure. It’s okay to be hurting and not know how to fix it.

Sometimes it takes strength to get to that place emotionally and feel through all the ugliness so it’s out of your system.

It’s realizing the life you are leading at this moment isn’t the one that’s making you happy so something has to change.

It’s taking a step towards a completely different lifestyle that you or others are used to. Even though there are going to be questions of why you are doing this and people who will doubt you and disapprove, you know you’re doing it for you. It’s not longer feeling guilty for disappointing people for living the life you want as oppose to the one they expect.

It’s realizing when you make certain changes in your life you’re going to lose people who are going to want you to go back to what you were doing and the person you were because it didn’t fit the mold of what they needed and wanted. But the real relationships in your life will support you.

It’s not selfish to want to be happy and want to have a life you’re really excited about. It’s essential.

It’s learning how to let something or someone go because you’ve outgrown it and even though good memories resided there you can’t keep looking back.

It’s evaluating your life and your choices and calling it exactly what it is. Your mistakes. Your failures. The things you did your ashamed of and instead of throwing a pity party, you learn. You grow. You forgive yourself because as much as other people deserve forgiveness you do too.

It isn’t selfish to forgive yourself for your mistakes.

It’s realizing you can’t force things. Whether that’s relationships or a lifestyle.

It’s giving everything your best effort but accepting that some things aren’t meant to be even if you want them to be.

Then once you realize this isn’t where I’m supposed to be, you find the courage to change it because people aren’t meant to stay in the same place doing the same thing. Especially if it’s not making them happy.

When a plant doesn’t thrive and grow the way it’s supposed to, you don’t blame the plant you simply change the environment to one it will do well in. That’s how you should approach everything in your life.

It’s taking a step back and looking at the life you are projecting out to the world across social media and asking yourself is any of this real? It’s pulling back if that answer is no and trying to create a life you don’t need to fake.

It’s not selfish to make yourself a priority and when you start to you’ll wish you did it sooner.

And it isn’t wrong to want to be happy.

It’s saying no for the first time in your life and not explaining why.

Wherever you are in the world, have a lovely day ❤

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Brotherhood of the World Award

Hello my loves ❤

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Another award to be grateful for ❤ Thank you to Ingrid Madison Ave for nominating me for this award, I am so grateful to have received this award form you. To think that I come to mind when it comes to nominating bloggers makes me so happy ❤

Be sure to check out Ingrid Madison Ave‘s blog, she covers so many different categories in the blogging world & I am forever patiently waiting for her to upload & when she does I am so quick to read her blogs.

 

The Rules:

  • Thank the blogger who nominated you and post a link to his/her blog.
  • List the rules of the award and post a picture of the award.
  • Answer the questions from your nominator.
  • Nominate 10 other bloggers and be sure to let them know.
  • Write a list of questions of your nominees to answer

 

My answers:

Where are you from? I am Croatian but was born here in Australia.

Where do you live now? I am currently living in Sydney, Australia.

If you can go anywhere in the world where would it be, and why? Awe, I would love to go to Croatia, I know many people that have been there & recommended it, I can’t wait to go, it’s a goal of mine.

Dogs, or cats? Little fluffy doggies ❤

What’s behind the name of your blog? I sat on this name for my blog for approx. 2 weeks before letting my blog go live – I wanted to be sure I wanted this. The meaning behind this name is that everyone is battling there own war we just need to find out what helps us through the storm. Discovering your Happiness was an opportunity for me to share my happiness with others & hopefully encourage others to find theirs too.

What do you do for self-care? Get my nails done, get a massage, have a bubble bath, journaling, reading, watching a movie.

What items can you not leave behind when leaving your apartment, or home? My Vaseline chapstick, it has done wonders to my lips.

Favourite fashion style? I love some great sandals, blue ripped jeans & a white tee.

Do you blog full-time? I do not blog full time, as much as I would like to I cannot at this point in time. I still post every single day but I this is not my full time job.

Who inspires you? People who are at peace, people who have a lot of knowledge about self care & anxiety, people who encourage & support me.

 

My Nominees:

 

My Questions:

  • Where in the world are you based?
  • What made you get into blogging?
  • Summer or Winter?
  • What makes you the happiest?
  • If you had to eat one food forever, what would it be?
  • If you had one super power, what would it be?
  • If you could change one thing in the world, what would it be?
  • What are some of your 2018 goals?
  • Airplane holiday or Boat Cruise?
  • America or Europe holiday?

 

Congratulations to all nominees & thank you to Ingrid Madison Ave for thinking of me ❤

I can’t wait to read your replies ❤

Wherever you are in the world, have a lovely day ❤

A, x (1)

 

Finding Peace

Hello loves, ❤

In today’s busy world, it is easy to become wrapped up in the hustle-and-bustle and lose your peace of mind. From stressful relationships to looming deadlines, there is a lot to worry about on a day-to-day basis.

However, focusing only on these stressful things and ignoring all of the beauty and joy you witness every day can lead to all kinds of unhealthy habits and emotions. In fact, many people even find themselves suffering from full-blown depression after years of too much stress.

Fortunately, even if you are already buried in the stresses of modern life, there is no reason you can’t escape. Try the simple steps below to find your peace of mind and begin enjoying life once again.

 

Find Time for Self-Care

It is difficult to enjoy life when you aren’t caring for yourself. Time to think and process is crucial, especially if you find yourself spending large amounts of time in over-stimulating environments. Therefore, carving out time for self-care and reflection is crucial.

Self-care means different things for different people, but in general, you will want to use the time you set aside for activities that allow you to relax, reflect, and rejuvenate. These might include a bubble bath, a manicure, or a relaxing yoga session. Find what helps you and go with it.

 

Invest in Insurance

Spending countless hours worrying about things you can’t control is sure to bring stress into your world. If you find you tend to be a worry wart, it is probably time to invest in some insurance. This will allow you to relax and stop worrying about what might happen, giving you the opportunity to live in the here and now.

 

Do What You Love

There is nothing more frustrating than feeling trapped in a job you hate. If this is the kind of position you are in—or even if you don’t necessarily hate your job but would still love to be doing something else, out of boredom or any other reason—finding a way to do what you love will bring a flood of joy to your life.

Remember, there are always other options. Even if following your dreams will mean putting in some hard work, putting yourself in a better position when it comes to your career is a sure-fire way to start your journey toward peace of mind.

 

Get Your Finances in Order

If your spending is out of control and your finances need work, you will probably have a pretty hard time maintaining peace of mind. Although it is true that money can’t buy happiness, stress caused by poorly managed finances absolutely can lead to poor mental health. Therefore, it is highly important that you get your finances in order as soon as possible, so you can focus less on money and more on enjoying life.

 

Choose Relationships Wisely

Toxic people have a certain knack for weaselling their way into the lives of innocent bystanders and sticking there. Taking a step back from each and every one of your relationships and revaluating the quality of your interactions can work wonders for helping you remove people who bring negative emotions into your life.

Of course, sometimes removing these types of people can be quite difficult. If you find that your spouse is the toxic type and counselling isn’t going to do the trick, be sure to hire an attorney to help you keep things as civil as possible when removing this individual from your life.

 

Wherever you are in the world, have a lovely day ❤

A, x (1)

Live Happy

Hello lovely people, ❤ Hope you are all well 🙂

Below are 30 ways to be more happier

  1. Eat at least one meal with someone every day.
  2. Get rid of the things you don’t need.
  3. Create tech-free zones in your home.
  4. Rearrange your furniture.
  5. Write down all the things you are grateful for.
  6. Live in the moment as much as possible.
  7. Jot down a list of dream hobbies and pick one on the list to try.
  8. Join an online community to be a part of.
  9. Block out time in your day to be alone in silence.
  10. Choose a career that fulfills you.
  11. Personalize your workspace.
  12. Avoid the long commute – live closer to work.
  13. Be honest even when it hurts.
  14. Take the initiative to hang out with a friend.
  15. Focus on your relationships in real life.
  16. Help out a friend in need.
  17. Create some long-term goals for yourself.
  18. Go outside for 30 minutes (it’ll help fight depression).
  19. Give yoga a try.
  20. Sleep eight to nine hours a night.
  21. Try to keep a balanced diet.
  22. Don’t sweat the small stuff.
  23. Tell three people how much you love them.
  24. Stop trying to fix all the flaws in your life.
  25. Take “I can’t” out of your vocabulary.
  26. Do one thing at a time.
  27. Allow yourself to be content with where you are in life.
  28. Don’t run awful imaginary scenarios in your mind.
  29. You don’t have to participate in the struggles of other people’s lives.
  30. Mind your own business.

Wherever you are in the world, have a lovely day ❤

A, x (1)