Help Those Around You With Anixety

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Hello loves, ❤

1. You can’t “fix” them

Anxiety is often based on disproportional thoughts, irrational fears phobias. Please hear me when I say, it is not your job to fix someone with anxiety. There is nothing you can do or say that will magically take the racing thoughts away. The individual with anxiety needs help and support bathed in love, not another therapist. Their anxiety is not your responsibility to fix, and it’s okay to be frustrated with this simple fact.

2. Remind them that they are not alone

So many individuals with anxiety have extreme fears over being abandoned, alone, isolated, or rejected. Please understand that despite our knee-jerk reaction to push loved ones away, all we want is someone to love us enough to stick around. Help the anxious one know that he or she is never alone. Your support and encouragement means more than you will ever know.

3. Listen without judgment

People with anxiety disorders know beyond a shadow of a doubt that they have irrational thoughts. We do not need someone to tell us that we are being “unrealistic” or “ridiculous.” Remember, we are not looking to loved ones for a quick fix. We just want to feel like we are being heard, and oftentimes need to process our extreme thoughts out loud. Talking about anxiety can be a great tactic to overcoming anxiety. Remember that your loved one wants a shoulder to cry on, a listening ear, and arms that embrace instead of judgmental criticism.

4. Understand that there are times when anxiety might turn them into another person

But their true selves will return. Anxiety can be a monster. It can truly steal all the joy out of a moment, and there are times when it can seem to overtake one’s entire being. However, please remember that however we react in these dark times is a result of the disorder, not our inner self. We will have bad days, and it’s important for loved ones to understand this. However, we will come back to ourselves eventually, and to be loved in these moments is truly remarkable and will prove your character to be golden.

5. Patience is key

I cannot overstate this truth: patience is of the upmost importance when learning to love someone with anxiety. It takes time to overcome a form of mental illness like anxiety, but it is entirely possible. Loved ones must be patient throughout this process. If you are not patient, it is extremely difficult for an individual struggling with anxiety to ever fully trust you. Patience definitely takes practice, but just show us you are trying.

6. Watch what you say

Some people with anxiety are extremely sensitive to how they are perceived by others. I know from personal experience that calling someone struggling with anxiety “crazy” or “too much to handle” can cause irreparable damage. Anxiety is not a choice. Why would anyone ever choose to become overwhelmed by life so often that their head starts to spin? Be kind. Be careful with your language. Be a loving friend, spouse, lover, sibling, or parent. Anxiety can be so isolating and damaging, but support is key to fighting this illness head-on.

Wherever you are in the world, have a lovely day ❤

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Feel Confident

Hello loves ❤

You can’t take good care of something you hate.

We all need a reminder that you can’t hate yourself into a smaller body. And similarly, loving your body isn’t going to cause you to gain weight. Loving your body, or at the very least respecting it, is a must if you want to take good care of it.

Every day we get dozens of messages reminding us that society values smaller bodies, so it takes active work to feel good about your body.

Here’s five exercises to promote body confidence.

1. Express gratitude for your body

Instead of focusing on perceived imperfections, focus on what your body can do, and express gratitude to your body for it. Those thighs you hate? Say thank you for powering you through a strenuous hike that allowed you to enjoy the most gorgeous view you’ve ever seen, for giving you the strength to pick up your child (or dog or cat or, like, a heavy box), and for releasing tension and calming your body as you stretch them during a yoga class.

Maybe it’s too difficult to feel gratitude for a part of your body you’ve spent your whole life feeling ashamed of. Show gratitude for a part of your body that isn’t connected to your body image, like your lungs or liver or brain. Literally, just grab an anatomy book and open to any it to any page. It’s absolutely fascinating what our body does without our thinking about it. Although understanding how a renal corpuscle filters the blood or how the small intestine absorbs nutrients from our food won’t make you feel better about parts of your body you’re sensitive about, it will help you develop a more complex view of your body outside love/hate.

2. Joyfully move your body

There’s no better way to foster gratitude for your body than by seeing what it can accomplish. Run, jog, hike, walk, dance, barre, stretch, lift, swim, rock climb, jazzercise…just move your body! Just be sure that whatever movement you’re doing, you’re doing it with the intent of having fun. Not sure if your exercise is motivated by weight loss or enjoyment? Ask yourself if you felt OK in your body, would you still do it?

3. Toss the scale

Just smash that thing. It’ll be cathartic! After all, the scale doesn’t tell you anything about your health, value as a human being, nor should it dictate your happiness. Need some more motivation? Here’s four reasons to ditch the scale.

4. What do you love about you?

There’s a lot to love about the uniquely perfect individual that is you, but when you’re staring at a perceived imperfection in the mirror, it can be hard to remember what those things are. Write them down so you always have something there to remind you.

Your body is just a teeny, tiny part of who you are, and probably the least important part. So write down aspects of your personality that you love. List skills and accomplishments, both big and small. What do people you love like about you? Write it all down and keep that list with you so you can break it out whenever you need a confidence boost. Even better, write it on post it notes and stick them all around your full length mirror—then you’ll truly see yourself.

5. Get annoyed

When you see headlines about a model dropping all her baby weight in six weeks or a bikinied actress endorsing a diet pill, get annoyed. Redirect the anger you feel towards your body to who really deserves it—a predatory diet industry making billions selling false hopes. They are the problem, not your thighs.

Wherever you are in the world, have a lovely day ❤

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