What I Am Learning

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Hello loves, ❤

I am starting to learn what makes my soul happy.

I am starting to learn what being mentally healthy & physically healthy means.

I am starting to appreciate the things around me ❤

Please see below some of the changes I am making to my life ❤

  • I am reading more.
  • I am sleeping the right amount, my 8-9 hours a night.
  • I am drinking more water.
  • I am creating a skincare routine and an exercise routine for myself.
  • I am making a conscious decision to care about what happens to me after a lifetime of putting everyone else first and leaving myself for last.
  • I am slowly growing into the ultimate version of myself.
  • I am making an effort to be more open and honest about my feelings. I am letting the real me run loose instead of playing pretend to the public.
  • I am learning how to cope with my anger.
  • I am taking baby steps away from my sadness.
  • I am replacing negative thoughts with positive ones whenever possible.
  • I am releasing the pain from my past to make room for happiness in my future.
  • I am offering my loved ones my full attention.
  • I am not redirecting every conversation toward myself.
  • I am listening.
  • I am looking others directly in the eyes.
  • I am relearning how to communicate in an effective way.
  • I am making the right decision instead of the most comfortable decision.
  • I am following my dreams without hesitation.
  • I am allowing my passion to guide me toward my next destination.
  • I am trusting in my own abilities.
  • I am hoping for the best.
  • I am eating healthier snacks.
  • I am taking longer walks.
  • I am catching up on doctor’s appointments.
  • I am keeping my prescriptions filled.
  • I am taking care of my physical health even though I am still tempted to spend weekends lounging on the couch with canceled plans.
  • I am thinking more creatively. I am venturing outside the box.
  • I am drifting from my comfort zone.
  • I am seeing how far I can push myself, how much I can accomplish.
  • I am asking how are you and actually listening to the answers.
  • I am giving more compliments.
  • I am offering more smiles.
  • I am aiming to make the days of others easier, not more arduous.
  • I am making fewer complaints.
  • I am criticizing my reflection less.
  • I am learning to change the pieces of myself that are adjustable and appreciate the pieces I am unable to nudge.

I am trying my absolute hardest — but I am not successful in doing each of these things every single day. There are days when I slip up. Days when I cheat. Days when I feel like moving forward was only an illusion and I am staying stuck in the same place.

But none of that matters. Those bad days don’t matter. All that matters is that I continue to try, that I keep making attempts to better myself, that I never give up hope again.

Wherever you are in the world, have a lovely day ❤

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Lets Spring Clean

Hello loves ❤

Lets spring clean our lives 🙂 (It’s only Autumn here in Sydney, Australia)

Delete everyone from your life who makes you feel horrible about yourself. Look, I know you may think this is hard to do, but the person who is constantly trying to bring you down about your weight, the friend who constantly passes back handed compliments, the boyfriend who plays mind games with you are all adding to bringing down your mental health and quality of life. Cut them out of your life. Stop taking their calls. Stand your ground and stick up for yourself. Surround yourself instead with the kind of people who make you better yourself, face your demons and give you the positivity you need to be the best version of yourself.

Treat yourself to no internet days. The world is literally on fire right now. Everything feels like it is burning and we are processing human suffering everyday via social media that no human is supposed to process on this scale. So do yourself a favour, switch off your computer, switch off your phone and take a walk outside in the fresh air. Meet up with a friend for a coffee. Read a book. Just take a break from the constant barrage of information and breathe free.

Eat one healthy meal everyday. This may sound insane because I’m saying this and anyone who knows me knows I used to love eating junk food, chocolates, burgers – I’ve been big on that stuff. But somewhere along the way I realised I wasn’t drinking enough water and that I felt so much better after a smoothie or a salad than I did after a burger. I’m not saying give up on everything unhealthy, but I am saying, to cut out toxicity, you need to be good to your body and filling it with nutrients at least once a day will make you feel better.

Clean your room until it is absolutely immaculate, change the sheets and make your bed in full. I can’t even tell you how good this is when you feel bogged down with the world, to come home to a room with fresh sheets and freshly vacuumed and dusted with everything in it’s place. Being able to sit down and enjoy a hot drink in a fresh and sparkling room can do wonders for your mental health. A clean room is a room in which you don’t have to worry or stress yourself out. Go minimalist, get rid of all the clothes you don’t wear. Less stuff, less clutter, and a great place to meditate in.

Set up strong boundaries. Make sure you leave no shades of grays in your relationships where you find yourself being pushed into doing things you do not want to do. Once you hit your twenties and your thirties, you control the way others perceive you and what they believe they can get away with. The best way to clean toxicity from your life? Setting up powerful boundaries and exercising your right to use the word ‘NO’.

Wherever you are in the world, have a lovely day ❤

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Beach, Waves + Sun

Hello loves ❤

And, its MONDAY! Just like that, I blink & the weekend is over BUT… the weekdays go so slow.

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BUT… This week is going to be a 4 day working week for me bc Australia Day falls on the Friday so that is a public holiday for us ❤ WOOHOO! No work but still getting paid for it ❤

How was everyones weekend? Just a quick little blog post to share my weekend with you all.

Thursday night, I went to the hill near my house & did a few hill sprints, this hill is SOOOOOO steep, my calves BURN.

 

But the view from the TOP is AMAZING!

 

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Friday, I went to see the new Maze Runner movie in the movies (I get 50 cent movie tickets bc I work in the head office of cinema, which is a PLUS), that was super fun.

Saturday, I went to the beach about an hour away from my house, it was new beach that my dad introduced us to, such a cute little spot with a rock pool which I loved ❤

It was so lovely to just sit & relax with my family, I rarely spend time with my parents bc I am working all week that on the weekends I am out so it was lovely to sit with them & relax together.

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Walk to the top of the hill area was so nice, the view was to die for – I couldn’t believe how relaxed locations can make you feel.

My heads been filled with a lot of chaos lately (my mind tends to think silly things) so it was good to just switch off for the weekend.

Saturday night, we had a games night at my house – board games are SO fun, I had so much fun playing them.

On Sunday, I was back at the beach again but this time I went to another beach, this beach is called Cronulla – this is quite a popular beach in Sydney, I didn’t even expect to get parking but I sat at the top of the hill which was real nice & I got to just reflect ton my thoughts.

Last night, I went to the movies & watched Liam Neeson’s new movie called The Commuter. IT. WAS. AMAZING! All Liam Neeson movies are GREAT! I can’t fault him. He is honestly my favourite actor. If you haven’t watched it, its a MUST-WATCH!

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I would love to hear what you all got up to on the weekend, share it with me ❤

Wherever you are in the world, have a lovely day ❤

A, x (1)

Having A Soft Heart

Hello loves ❤

 

Even if you have a soft heart, even if you’re born to just give love more than you will receive it and even if you are the person that everyone takes for granted because they know your heart will always take them back, your heart will always forgive the unforgivable and your heart will always give them another chance, you can still be a little bit tougher. You can still be a little bit harder on people. You can still do things just to protect your own damn heart. Just to safeguard it from those who only want to destroy it.

 

Because having a soft heart doesn’t mean you should drop your standards or stop having limits or let everything go without setting boundaries.

 

Having a soft heart doesn’t mean you should allow people to walk all over you or think they can just walk in and out of your life whenever they please or treat you like you’re secondary or make you feel stupid for trusting them.

 

Having a soft heart doesn’t mean you keep seeing the best in someone when they’re not showing you or believing in a potential they haven’t yet reached. Having a soft heart doesn’t mean others are entitled to do to you what they wish wouldn’t be done to them.

 

Having a soft heart doesn’t mean that people should treat you like they’re better or more important than you.

The truth is not everyone deserves your soft heart, not everyone deserves the same love and kindness you give to the ones who actually earned it, the ones who proved their love and loyalty to you time and time again and the ones you can truly count on. Your soft heart should be reserved for the ones who are just as soft with you. The ones who don’t want to break your heart. The ones who protect you from those trying to fool you. The ones who tell you your heart is fragile and you shouldn’t just throw it away to anyone.

 

And I want you to believe them because they know what you don’t know. They see what you don’t see. They can tell who appreciates your heart and who doesn’t even understand it.

 

Because trust me, the more you give your soft heart to the wrong ones, the more your heart will lose its essence. It will no longer understand what it means to be soft. It will no longer give without caution. It will get harder with every heartbreak. It will forget what it means to love unconditionally.

 

So protect it, your soft heart doesn’t have to belong to everyone. It should only belong to a few people. It should only beat for the ones who make it softer. Stay away from those who make you want to change your heart. Your soft heart is rare and beautiful but it also shouldn’t let anyone in. It should also learn when it’s time to take the softness away and when it’s time to turn cold.

 

Wherever you are in the world, have a lovely day ❤

A, x (1)