What It’s Like To Be In Love When You Have Anxiety

What It_s Like To Be In Love When You Have Anxiety

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When you have anxiety, you can’t mask it. You can’t wish it away, or pray it away. It becomes this part of you that you can’t seem to control. And it can get out of control. Kind of like love.

When you fall in love when you have anxiety, someone telling you that they love you doesn’t feel like it’s enough. For most people, to hear someone say those three words is reassuring. It’s supposed to be comforting and soothing. But anxiety has a way of making anything scary. And anxiety has a way of making love seem impossible.

Falling in love can be scary for anyone, especially falling in love for the first time. But when you have anxiety, the fears can grow. The uneasiness can take over. And your worries can sometimes overpower the feeling of love.

It doesn’t matter how good your partner is to you. It doesn’t matter how much they assure you they will never leave you. It doesn’t matter how many times they hold you through the night while your brain is on overdrive. It doesn’t matter how much they tell you that they love you.

When you have anxiety, you can’t just shut off. You can’t just turn off your mind to focus on the good. You can’t just hide from your worries.

So you worry. You worry about your future. About your future with your partner. You worry if your anxiety is driving them away. You worry if it’s too much for them to handle. You worry about tomorrow, and the next day and the next day.

No matter how good of a place you are in and no matter how happy you are, anxiety can creep up on you at any time. It can show up in the middle of night or at 5 am the next morning. It can pop up during a perfect dinner date, or midway through a goodnight kiss. It seems like at times, that it is always there. Mocking you. Mocking your happiness.

It’s wonderful to fall in love. It’s beautiful and incredibly magical. But when you have anxiety, it takes some work getting adjusted. It takes work to even be happy when it keeps following your every move.

When you are in love with anxiety, you find yourself in a constant worry. You worry about if they are the one for you. If it’s destiny or fate. You worry if they will leave you. You worry because it’s something you have always done. But if it’s truly love and if this person is right for you, they aren’t going anywhere. And you need to remind yourself of that. 

Loving someone when you have anxiety is hard. It’s a journey full of bumps and dark corners. But, if the love is true and real, anxiety isn’t going to chase that love away. Anxiety isn’t going to overpower the love that was so carefully crafted for you and your partner.

Don’t let anxiety win the race. Let love in and let love win this time. Anxiety is a terrible beast, but it’s not ever going to be a match for the power and greatness of true love.

Wherever you are in the world, have a lovely day ❤

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I’m Sorry For What My Anxiety Makes Me Do

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I’m sorry for what my anxiety makes me do. And I want you to know that it’s not me, it’s my anxiety. It’s not me, it’s the chemical imbalance in my brain. It’s not who I am fully, it’s just a piece of me.

Anxiety makes me talk too fast or not at all. It makes me stay up too late and toss and turn until it’s 3 am and my mind is still running a marathon. Anxiety makes me have dark circles under my eyes that not even a $30 dollar concealer can combat them. It makes my eyes burn in the morning when I’m looking up at the sun trying to shake away the exhaustion. It makes me fucking tired.

I’m sorry for what my anxiety makes me do. And you need to know that it’s not me. It’s not who I am or who I want to be. It’s anxiety.

Anxiety makes me want to go nonstop. It makes me gogogo until I run out of steam. Anxiety makes me break over and over again. It makes me say things I shouldn’t say. It makes me spill secrets that shouldn’t have been shared to be. It makes me talk behind people’s back, hissing at someone else’s personality, just to feel a bit more alive.

Anxiety turns me into someone I don’t want to be.

Anxiety makes me lose friends. It makes me paranoid that noone truly loves me. It makes me cancel on dates because I’m afraid of silence. It makes my hands shake for no reason. It makes me think I’m going mad.

Anxiety makes me stay inside when the weather is bright and beautiful. It makes me not go out with friends and family even when I really want to. It makes me take a pill every single morning, to combat the demons in my mind.

Anxiety makes me think the worst things about myself.

It says to me I’m not good enough. that I’m not strong enough. That I’ll always be alone. That I’ll always feel like this. That my friends aren’t really my true friends. That he never loved me. That I’ll never get over him no matter how much time has passed.

Anxiety turns me into a darker version of myself. It turns me into a person who stutters. Who can’t drink too much coffee. Who is afraid of love. It makes me cancel and re plan. It makes me isolate myself from everyone I love. It makes me tired. It makes it so hard to breathe when all I want to do is breathe.

Anxiety makes me hide my hands from people so they don’t see my un manicured fingers. It makes me hate everyone and everything. It makes me think that there is no point in daylight. That there’s too much darkness in the world to even imagine.

So I’m sorry for my anxiety makes me do. I’m sorry for what my anxiety tells me. I’m sorry for canceling. I’m sorry for the drunken texts. I’m sorry for the biting of my fingers until they bleed. I’m sorry for trying to breathe. I’m sorry for talking too fast in order for my brain to catch up with my thoughts. 

I’m sorry for thinking too much. I’m sorry for not being able to shut it off. I’m sorry to my brain. I’m sorry you have to deal with this.

So you see, anxiety is at fault. Not me.

Wherever you are in the world, have a lovely day ❤

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When You’re Ready To Live A Better Life, But Your Anxiety Isn’t

When You_re Ready To Live A Better Life, But Your Anxiety Isn_t

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Anxiety is something that is always evolving, growing, and changing. It has a mind of its own that doesn’t really care about how happy or content you are in life. Anxiety quite frankly, couldn’t care less about your well-being.

You see, anxiety doesn’t really give a crap about you. Anxiety just wants you to fret, to worry, to sink further into its dark waters and to watch you drown there.

Anxiety wants you to get so caught up in its echoes and whispers and lies, that you can’t even remember a time where anxiety wasn’t in your life. 

Anxiety doesn’t adapt well to change or to life altering moments. Anxiety doesn’t care if you are excited about moving to another state, or if you finally got an amazing promotion. Anxiety doesn’t care about your accomplishments, because all it does is focus on your failures.

And as soon as good news hits you, anxiety comes along and tries to ruin it for you.

It doesn’t matter if you just got the man of your dreams, the job of your dreams, or the life of your dreams. It doesn’t matter.

Anxiety is going to sneak into your mind and tell you that you’re going to mess up. Anxiety is going to talk to you at night, telling you that pretty soon, you won’t be so happy anymore. Anxiety is going to make it known that you are a failure. That you fail more than you succeed, and that you fall more than you climb.

So what happens when you want a better life for yourself? What happens when you finally want to move on from the past and start all over? What happens when you finally get what you have dreamed of? What happens then?

You can’t let anxiety drag you down no matter how hard it tries to push you with its ugly fists. You can’t let anxiety make your accomplishments and your beautiful moments into something that isn’t important. You can’t let anxiety tell you that you aren’t good enough.

Because you are good enough. You’re so much more than good enough.

I don’t know how to make my anxiety go away completely. I don’t know how to make yours go away completely. But I do know one thing – anxiety doesn’t have to define you. It doesn’t have to have so much weight on top of your shoulders. It doesn’t have to turn your world upside down.

So when something beautiful happens in your life, soak it all up. And when something wonderful is being brought into your life, hold onto it as hard as you can. And when your dreams finally start coming true and all that you have worked hard for is actually turning into something amazing, don’t let anxiety talk you out of it. Don’t let anxiety tell you that you don’t deserve this. Don’t let anxiety wear you out until you find everything you have worked so hard for slipping away.

Don’t let anxiety dictate how you see yourself. Don’t let it creep into the corners of your mind. And don’t you dare believe anything it says to you. Because one day, you’re going to have all that you want, and you’re going to have all that you need. Your dreams are going to turn into a reality for you, and you are going to be so, so, incredibly happy.

So when that happens to you, don’t let anxiety trash talk you into believing that you don’t deserve to flash that smile proudly around wherever you go. Don’t let anxiety turn your light off. No matter how hard it tries to suck your happiness out of you.

Don’t let it become the winner of your world. And don’t let it take away this life that is yours.

Wherever you are in the world, have a lovely day ❤

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Understanding Someone With Anxiety

Understanding Someone With Anxiety

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To understand someone with anxiety means understanding that a lot of their life is what happens inside their head. It’s understanding that some things they can’t make sense of but they desperately need explanations.

Understanding someone with anxiety means not getting frustrated or annoyed when they send a double text or call too many times or jump to conclusions.

Understanding someone with anxiety means not staring or making a big deal when something has triggered them and they’re picking at their skin to a point where they might not even notice it’s now a cut.

Understanding someone with anxiety means learning when to listen. Because there are so many things going on in their head they are struggling to make sense of it themselves.

Understanding someone with anxiety means knowing when they don’t want to sleep over, the truth is they don’t want to keep you up as they toss and turn and lay there awake.

Understanding someone with anxiety means accepting apologies that they didn’t even need to say and knowing they said it for their own peace of mind.

Understanding someone with anxiety means knowing when you tell them you’ll be there it’s important to not be late.

Understanding someone with anxiety means when they say they are tired, you know it has nothing to do with sleep but there is this emotional exhaustion that exists within them.

Understanding someone with anxiety means knowing they’ll probably answer your text back really quickly and understanding how carefully they executed every word they thought about typing.

Understanding someone with anxiety means understanding how sensitive they are and how easily their feelings get hurt so you have to be as careful with what you say.

Understanding someone with anxiety is understanding the voice inside their head is their own worst enemy and you have to be the one countering those lies.

Understanding someone with anxiety is knowing how much of their life is in fast forward and they are always thinking about the next thing. To teach someone with anxiety to live in the moment is the best thing you can do.

Understanding someone with anxiety means being honest with them. They can tell when even the slightest of things have changed between you two.

Understanding someone with anxiety means you are always going to have to be the confident one in the relationship because they never will be, as their doubt plagues them.

Understanding someone with anxiety means being able to pick up on their signals. They will never tell you they are uncomfortable being somewhere but you’ll notice a change in their body language.

It’s understanding how much they struggle when someone or a group of people don’t like them and instead of trying to win them over and learn they pull away because they think those people are better off without them and their presence is just a burden.

Understanding someone with anxiety is understanding that they aren’t trying to be anti-social but they struggle sometimes and what they want most is to be accepted.

Understanding someone with anxiety means knowing exactly what to say when their mind starts to take off and wander.

Understanding someone with anxiety means nothing is ever going to be as it seems.

Because on one hand they might look like they have it all together but in reality, their hands are sweating and their heart is beating for reasons they still don’t fully understand.

Understanding someone with anxiety is knowing that their efforts are always 110% so when they aren’t the best or their effort fall short of their own expectations they easily turn into their own worst enemy and that critical voice taunts them with criticism.

It’s being the one to build them up because they will always knock themselves down.

It’s being one step ahead of their racing thoughts and knowing the phrase “it’s okay,” can be the best tool for helping them.

Understanding someone with anxiety is letting them take control of situations because, with this thing in their life, they feel like they can’t control anything so it comes out in other forms.

Understanding someone with anxiety is learning to forgive them for their mistakes because you know they will beat themselves up more than you ever can, if you stay mad.

Understanding someone with anxiety is believing that they truly are sorry when they mess up and they’ve probably spent nights thinking what to say to you.

It’s forgiving them and teaching them to forgive themselves.

It’s accepting them and teaching them to accept themselves.

It’s loving them and through that love despite the doubt that is anxiety and the negativity that plagues them, you teach them to learn to love themselves again.

Wherever you are in the world, have a lovely day ❤

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