Things People With Anxiety Never Ever Want To Hear

Things People With Anxiety

Hello loves, ❤

Having a god support system is VITAL when dealing with anxiety, these people are your back bone. These people are the shelter from your storm 🙂 Make sure you choose your support system wisely.

Notice that the below are RED FLAGS for a bad support system & people that say:

 

1. Are you ok?

No. To be completely honest no. And you can not fix that so do not ask if I am ok because the answer is no. When an anxiety attack sets in, or a bad day hits, nothing can make you feel okay and what makes it worse is when someone who has no experience to what is going on thinks they can make you ok. Thank you for trying, that is so kind but you can not make me ok. Only I can and it is a lot harder then you will ever know.

2. Just take your pill.

As if the medication is a quick fix. Did you know it takes at least two weeks for a medication to kick in and if suffering from anxiety, it usually takes longer. And even when the medication does kick in, it;s not a fix.

Anxiety medication is simply a relief but not a total stop. If anxiety medication just stopped anxiety in total I think more people would be on it. However, it is not. It maintains the issue but does not fix it. Anxiety is not something that can be fixed. It is not a broken car part. It is part of our brain, body, and everyday life.

3. Just ignore it.

HAHA. Like that is even possible. Anxiety makes us see that little spot on our jeans or that little tear in our school paper and makes unable to ignore it. I don’t know about you, but ignoring it is not an option. If ignoring the voice in our heads was on option, I think we would ignore it.

4. Stay calm.

I genuinely think if someone says these two words to me they deserved to be slapped across the face. Staying calm is not possible when your heart is racing or you can not catch your breath.

We are way past staying calm at this point. Hearing these two words is like nails on the chalkboard. Staying calm is just not going to happen.

5. You are fine.

You certainly are not fine and you never will be. Every day is hard and people do not give you enough credit for that. You deserve credit for getting out of bed and doing a daily task that drives you nuts. You also deserve credit for not being able to leave your bed. For knowing yourself so well that you know if you take on the day you will physically and mentally break done.

People with anxiety are far from fine, but they know themselves better than anyone. People with anxiety are forced to trust their gut… something “normal” people fail to do. People with anxiety do not conform.

You are not fine and you never will be, but you will handle it and that is something you should be so proud of.

Wherever you are in the world, have a lovely day ❤

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I Need You To Love My Anxiety Too

native american proverb

Hello loves, ❤

Anxiety is such a big & touchy topic, not many people like to talk about it (& I respect that) However, being on wordpress for over 2 years, I have stepped out of my comfort zone & started talking about it more ❤

I need you to love every little bit of me, and I need you to understand that my anxiety is a big part of me.

I need you to love my anxiety and understand it is completely normal for me not to want to leave my house all day. I need you to be understanding and compassionate because little things affect me in a big way.

I need you to love my anxiety and understand that my apologies will come even when I do nothing wrong. I need you to understand that I am not being dramatic, but I make myself believe I am offending you or bothering you.

I need you to love my anxiety and understand that I will overanalyze every last bit of our conversations. I will mull over the tone of your voice, or wonder why the conversation came to an abrupt stop.

I need you to love my anxiety and understand that I will need reassurance that you will not leave one day. I also need you to understand that I am trying to trust you, but my first instinct is to doubt you.

I need you to love my anxiety and understand that I am not being irritable because I am upset with you. Most of the time, I don’t know why I am irritable, and I don’t know how to better my mood. I hope you do not take this personal.

I need you to love my anxiety and understand that I am not being emotional for no reason. My anxiety likes to trick me into worrying about many problems, mainly the illogical ones. At times it will feel as if I am drowning in my emotions, but at other times it will feel as if I am sitting in a desert, void of any feelings at all.

I need you to love my anxiety and understand that I will always think of myself as replaceable. I will look at you as the one star who shines the brightest, but I know you will never feel this same way. I will always assume there is someone more important than me, but it is something I will accept early on, I just hope you can accept it, too.

I need you to understand that I wish I could be easier for you to love, and I need you to learn to love my anxiety because I need to see that someone else could love all the bits of me, even the ones that I hate.

Wherever you are in the world, have a lovely day ❤

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