On Your Worst Days

Hello loves, ❤

I know it seems like things will never get better. And I know that you feel like you are stuck in your current situation. Life has seemed like more of a battle than a blessing lately, and every time you finally seem to make a breakthrough, life only seems to knock you back down. These are the days that can either destroy or define you, and it is up to you to decide which path you take.

I hope you don’t let it destroy you.

I hope you get back up every time the world expects you to just give up and stay stationary. I hope you never feel like you won’t get any further than you are right now because you have no idea how much more you will grow in just a few short years. You will meet people whose impact will stay with you for years, and though some of these memories will be negative, you will learn how to transform that negativity into exactly the motivation you need to move forward. You will learn what love really is and exactly what it is not. You will finally understand the value of being alone and all of the joy that only you can bring to yourself. You will learn to start living for yourself.

None of this will be easy, and I don’t think change will ever become easy for you or for anyone. The more things change, the more unpredictable life becomes and with that unpredictability comes the fear of the unknown. You have always been so afraid, but eventually, you will learn to not only tell yourself to be brave but to truly live that way. You will have your moments where your fear may get the best of you, but the older you get, the more resilient you will become. You will begin to understand the power of your own mind and your ability to either make a bad day better or worse. And one day I hope you will always choose to make it better.

Things are definitely going to get better. It is all in how you perceive what is happening around you.

You can either let your circumstances consume you, or you can use them as motivation to get yourself to where you truly want to be. Your career, your money, your love life, all of these things are ever-changing and therefore, you must learn to live with the fact that life will not and cannot stay the same. If everything around you is changing, you have to learn to adapt along with it or else you may find yourself crumbling under the weight of all of the things you cannot control.

You are going to meet so many different people throughout your life. Some of these people are meant to stick around for a while and others are just here for a moment; regardless of how long you get to spend with someone, know that their impact on your life is not determined by the amount of time you knew them. You can spend years with a person and never truly know them and minutes with others who seem like home. Learning how to let go is one of life’s biggest challenges, but the more you encounter these types of situations, the more you will truly understand the value of the phrase, “If you love someone, let them go.”

Love comes in so many different forms. You will find romantic love, and you will lose it. You will think time and time again that this time will be the time that everyone always talks about only to realize you are just not at that time yet. It’s okay. With each new person you meet and you lose, you will learn exactly what you want out of a relationship, and one day, I am confident that you will meet someone beyond your wildest expectations. You have already met some truly remarkable people, and if it hasn’t been any of them, just imagine who it is you have waiting for you. They are waiting for you, too.

You will form so many new friendships, and your heart will grow with the realization of how many more people like you there are out there. With these beautiful new relationships forming, you will also experience what it is like to lose those who you thought would always be by your side. We are not the same people we were when we were 18. Life changes, and so do we, and none of us should shame each other if that growth pulls us in different directions. We are not all meant to be the same people, and we have to learn to accept that. Sometimes these “break-ups” will hurt worse than romantic ones because so often we forget that our friendships need as much work as our romantic relationships. Sometimes you will be able to repair these ties, and other times, you will learn that often the best thing two people can do for each other is to simply just move on. Moving on doesn’t have to be ugly; it is just the acceptance of the fact that not everything we love is meant to last forever.

Today may not be your best day, and tomorrow might not be either, but I promise you that one day, you will wake up and realize this is the beginning of everything you have ever wanted.

Please don’t give up on your dreams and the life you always wanted for one that feels comfortable or seems like what you deserve. You do not deserve the horrible things that you think you do, and I hope one day you can truly believe that. It is up to you whether you want to move forward or stand still; but know that if you choose to stay exactly where you are, you will never know how far you could have gone.

It is always worth the risk of failure to work towards all that you have ever wanted. You never know what tomorrow could bring, so please don’t close yourself off to the future. The difficult days can be crippling, but the beautiful days are worth more than you could ever imagine. I promise you that.

Wherever you are in the world, have a lovely day ❤

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38 Comments

  1. Love this post! I hope you don’t mind me mentioning it, but you’ve matured a lot in the short time I’ve known you. You’re not the only one either, but it is so nice to watch it happen. We are not our experiences, so we we shouldn’t dwell there. Life is a series of decisions, not too unlike an obstacle course. The goal of the course isn’t to hang up, but to figure out the wonderful goal the course is leading up to.

    Blessings on your journey Anita!

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  2. I admire you helping people, but that is a promise you should not make, as not everyone gets that moment where they win, some of us just keep losing.

    In 2012, I lost the closest thing I had to a family in my entire life, including my own family…had to move back in with my abusive father in my late thirties and am no forty years old, my body not right, my mind not right from abuse from long ago that followed me into adulthood.

    In January after losing an ‘under the table’ job while I applied for disability (lost all appeals including periods where I struggled just to pay a couple bills and feed myself), I went back to taxed work, even though in my area I routinely see the way people abuse the system who are healthier than I am!

    Since November lost the only two friends I had and now am pretty much alone..soooo..last week worked five days straight, which had me hurt my back so bad I could not even walk and on two days had nothing to eat as there is no one to help me at all, today I sit here, sure the back is better but it has moved up my back to my neck and yesterday hitting ‘keys’ at work made me right hand go into cramps and pins and needles.

    If my dad were to die, I am homeless…

    I could go on and on but the point is for some of us in this cruel world are in extraordinary circumstances, it does not get better, only worse. Today have a check from the column I write each month (don’t tell me writing is my thing either, that is why other poetry blogs have hundreds of likes and thousands of follows and I am lucky to get ten and was in some writer’s groups where they seemed to help everyone reach their goals, except mine of course but was called on to help them), but cannot cash it as it is a two mile walk to do so, something my more than usual hurting body does not feel up to and as said, no one gives a damn enough to help me.

    My point is, perspective has nothing to with it. I can think happy happy thoughts and look at the bright side till I pass (which lately seems like all I will ever have to look forward to anyway), will not change my body, my situation, my loneliness or the fact that while most people could just hop in their cars and go get something to eat, or call a ‘friend’ [sic] or family member to help them, temp, I have none of those things.

    And I do know what tomorrow will bring…more of the same.

    Don’t get me wrong, I like that you help people as said, hell, I have had people tell me I ‘inspired’ them or ‘changed their lives,’ no lie, but sadly, that was not worth paying it back even in the simplest ways, like being a friend…its just that saying the above column is an ‘absolute’ for all is not true, I have been waiting a very long time for the ‘good day’ to come, but instead, I just get more problems to deal with.

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    1. Hello Thomas 🙂

      Thank you for taking the time to comment your story 🙂 It takes a lot of courage to share your experiences with the people around you & I thank you for being so honest and open.

      I am so sorry to hear you’ve had a rough patch.

      I am sorry if my post came across in a way that has hurt you 😦

      I try to look at the positive in life (As much as I do over think & am a negative person)

      I want you to know that I am thinking of you & I hope you’re situation gets better.

      I understand that every day there are problems & I am so sorry to hear that.

      Please know you are loved & also please know that you have wonderful friends here on WordPress, we all support & listen to one another.

      If you ever need someone to talk to, let me know ❤

      Anita 🙂

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  3. Well, I did type a comment and it disappeared.

    What I had said was the forward progress I have made comes from exactly this. No matter the situation, I stay focused on moving forward and finding solutions. It seems the effort always pays off.

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  4. This is my approach. I get extremely overwhelmed with my situation but I also keep my head centered on the next step forward. I find other ways to make money, other approaches to saving, different communication methods with friends and my wife, etc. It always pays off when you put in the effort, no matter how hard.

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