What It_s Like To Be In Love When You Have Anxiety

Hello loves, ❤

When you have anxiety, you can’t mask it. You can’t wish it away, or pray it away. It becomes this part of you that you can’t seem to control. And it can get out of control. Kind of like love.

When you fall in love when you have anxiety, someone telling you that they love you doesn’t feel like it’s enough. For most people, to hear someone say those three words is reassuring. It’s supposed to be comforting and soothing. But anxiety has a way of making anything scary. And anxiety has a way of making love seem impossible.

Falling in love can be scary for anyone, especially falling in love for the first time. But when you have anxiety, the fears can grow. The uneasiness can take over. And your worries can sometimes overpower the feeling of love.

It doesn’t matter how good your partner is to you. It doesn’t matter how much they assure you they will never leave you. It doesn’t matter how many times they hold you through the night while your brain is on overdrive. It doesn’t matter how much they tell you that they love you.

When you have anxiety, you can’t just shut off. You can’t just turn off your mind to focus on the good. You can’t just hide from your worries.

So you worry. You worry about your future. About your future with your partner. You worry if your anxiety is driving them away. You worry if it’s too much for them to handle. You worry about tomorrow, and the next day and the next day.

No matter how good of a place you are in and no matter how happy you are, anxiety can creep up on you at any time. It can show up in the middle of night or at 5 am the next morning. It can pop up during a perfect dinner date, or midway through a goodnight kiss. It seems like at times, that it is always there. Mocking you. Mocking your happiness.

It’s wonderful to fall in love. It’s beautiful and incredibly magical. But when you have anxiety, it takes some work getting adjusted. It takes work to even be happy when it keeps following your every move.

When you are in love with anxiety, you find yourself in a constant worry. You worry about if they are the one for you. If it’s destiny or fate. You worry if they will leave you. You worry because it’s something you have always done. But if it’s truly love and if this person is right for you, they aren’t going anywhere. And you need to remind yourself of that. 

Loving someone when you have anxiety is hard. It’s a journey full of bumps and dark corners. But, if the love is true and real, anxiety isn’t going to chase that love away. Anxiety isn’t going to overpower the love that was so carefully crafted for you and your partner.

Don’t let anxiety win the race. Let love in and let love win this time. Anxiety is a terrible beast, but it’s not ever going to be a match for the power and greatness of true love.

Wherever you are in the world, have a lovely day ❤

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26 Comments

  1. This touches me a lot! I have suffered from anxiety for a very long time and I’m currently in love. Sometimes I have bad days were I’m very anxious and doubt my love and then I have good days. My boyfriend is very supportive and loving of my anxiety which helps a lot. ❤

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  2. It’s a great education… not just knowing the difference between your anxiety and your physical heart racing… but also on learning the vital difference between the physical part of your heart that you HAVE to count on to live, and the heart that you can’t rely on to not getting worked up… it’s worse when your heart is not following a path to be worthy of your trust!

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  3. I think it depends on how bad your anxiety is or if there is a balance between both people. I have anxiety-depression but for the most part only need therapy once a month to get thru life, my wife is bipolar and needs meds to get through life and therapy when necessary. Our mental issues have NEVER crippled our relationship. We are both each other’s rock when we need to be.

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  4. This is best read by someone not struggling with anxiety.

    I guess the simple answer is to turn off the anxiety channel when you acknowledge it’s on in your head. Identify it and dismiss it, telling yourself it’s not necessary. If you say it is necessary, evaluate the reasons. And, if possible, talk it out with your love interest or partner.

    It’s as hard or harder to find love when bothered by anxiety because you (I) struggle with breaking the ice, doubting the approach which precedes all the possibilities of actually being in a relationship. Anxiety comes with its ugly cousin doubt, among others.

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