a boss.

Hello loves, ❤

Understand that we cannot control our anxiety at times and that we spend most of our day managing her anxiety.

Realize that anxiety is a real mental thing and that no, we do not want to act this way.

Anxiety does NOT = drama. In fact, despite popular belief, girls who suffer from anxiety want the opposite of drama and get upset when they know their anxiety caused drama.
You will have to be a little extra kind sometimes and give words of encouragement like, “Everything is okay.”

Worrying is not a choice for girls with anxiety, it just happens.

Anxiety prevents us from doing new and exciting things, but that does not mean that we don’t want to do them. They are just scarier for us than they are for you.

The idea of having dinner with a new couple you met through work evokes panic and we immediately try to think of topics of conversation to last the evening.

Sometimes we need to be alone. With the door shut. But we want you to come and check on us.

We need you to tell us we look good and to confirm our outfit choice several times. It’s annoying, yes, but it makes us feel less anxious.

Anxiety makes us stronger inside because it forces us to be completely self-aware at all times.

We like to know where you are. It’s not in a creepy way, but in a comforting way. Being able to visualize where you are makes us feel less anxiety.

Call when you say are you are going to call. We wait by the phone and get worried when you do not. If you cannot call, send a quick text. If we care about you, this is one of the most basic ways we need you to show you care about us.

Anxiety helps us be extra caring toward others because we are always considering other people’s feelings.
Please do not call us inflexible. The true fear we feel about trying something new or pushing ourselves out of our comfort zone is at times debilitating and incredibly frustrating to ourselves. We know its anxiety so please help us work on it instead of calling us names.

Anxiety helps us read other people very well. Trust the gift side of anxiety and let us help you determine who are good people and who are not.

Anxiety is all encompassing and a daily struggle that being a girl does not make any easier.

Wherever you are in the world, have a lovely day ❤

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37 Comments

  1. Thank God He blessed me with a hubby who doesn’t push me into things. He will entice me out of the house, if I have not left it in a while. You know, baby, the bakery has tiramisu today, or lets go to the nursery and see what new stuff they have. Then while we are out he drags me to several places hehehe. After hiding this issue until I was 32 when I was literally accidentally diagnosed because my body just shut down. I am glad you share these things because it helps people to know they are not alone, crazy, or ashamed. If I had something like this to read earlier, then I wouldn’t have felt ashamed and crazy, and suffered needlessly like I did for decades.

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  2. Forgive me since I am a male but I really enjoyed reading this because I could relate with my having so much anxiety all of the time. I for one would never judge anyone for being anxious; since I am a nervous wreck. I am just amazed that so many people are so open about something I kept hidden for many years; it was shameful to have anxiety. So I may not be a girl with anxiety but I’m a guy with anxiety and I loved this post. Thank you!

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    1. Firstly, thank you for your comment 🙂

      Secondly, male or female, you’re comments are always valid & acknowledged.

      This post could most certainly work with males as well 🙂

      Don’t get me wrong I was QUIET for a verrrrrry long time, I was ashamed & embarrassed about it but the best way I deal with this is to be vocal about it & write about it, it makes me feel so much better.

      I want to be that voice that encourages others to talk about it ❤

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  3. I struggle with having to explain myself constantly (especially with family) and reminding them that my actions aren’t a personal attack it’s just that my anxiety makes simple things a little more complicated sometimes. I am grateful for all of the lovely connections and friendships I have made because of my anxiety though, it creates a sense of normality in my life talking to similar people 😊💛

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  4. Beautifully written. So much truth. It’s tough though to educate people on anxiety when they themselves aren’t going through what we are. It’s like anything perhaps, you can’t judge someone, until you’ve walked a mile in their shoes. I get family complaining about me not attending family gatherings, but the mere thought of large groups of ppl – family or not, can get me in a full blown panic attack. 🤔

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  5. So absolutely true! It’s the little things that make all the difference right? Like people calling when they say they will, or entering a crowded place before you so you can get your bearings, or letting you choose where to sit in a cafe.

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