Mindful Bootcamp Week 1: Self Esteem & Self Confidence

Mindful Bootcamp (4)

Hello loves, ❤

HAPPY FRIYAY! Woo, yipee, woohoo, yaaaaaaay! Finishing Friday on a GREAT note! What a day its been I am so happy the weekend is near, I can smell it.

Sooo… my first class last night went AMAZING! I had so much fun. I walked in with my nerves through the roof. Once you get to know me I am quite loud but if you don’t know me or I am meeting you for the first time, I am so shy & quiet.

Due to copyright reasons, I can’t share my worksheets that were provided in the class (which I fully respect but I can share with you what the classes consisted of).

So, as you all know I signed up to a Mindful Bootcamp & it started last night, it is broken down in 4 weeks (see below).

Week 1. 
Self Concept/Esteem & Confidence
(Knowledge, Understanding, Development)

Week 2.
Stress, Anxiety & Depression
(Key Triggers, Feelings, Rationality)

Week 3.
Anger, Conflict & Resolution
(Key Triggers, Emotions, Control)

Week 4.
Habits, Patterns & Behaviours
(Thoughts, Actions, Consequences)

We looked into:

  • Self Image
  • Self Esteem
  • Ideal Self
  • Self Assurance

I would love to talk in depth about the night & the above pointers.

Self Image:

As for self image, it gave me the opportunity to talk about Instagram & the negative effect that social media brings to our lives & our self esteem.

I got to talk about how society has molded our brains to think that A CERTAIN WAY TO LOOK is accepted in this world.

Its also a good thing to know that THESE instagram people only show you their positive things in their life & they like to show off their ‘great life’ but you never see their bad days.

I also explained that I removed myself from social media & I have never felt better.

This was great to get off my chest & everyone was so supportive of the way that I thought.

Self Esteem:

Within self esteem, we explored that we tend to want to look like other people & never really accept ourselves & that we are always worrying about what other people think.

Whenever I look in the mirror, I am never necessarily ‘happy’

Focusing on ourselves can change this feeling that we have towards ourselves.

Ideal Self:

This is more of how you see yourself VS who you would like to be. I know for a fact that I am not happy where I am at this stage as I have self esteem problems.

Giving yourself goals & keeping the mind focused on yourself can create a pathway that is only for you & you are not worrying about other people. When you do worry about others, you tend to forget about yourself.

Society & social media tend to cold us into thinking what is right & what is wrong, we need to be able to get up & say WE ARE IN CONTROL OF OUR OWN LIVES.

Self Confidence:

Self confidence is the confidence behind your abilities. We all had to go around the room & give an example of something you are now confident about. I used going on an airplane as my example, as I WAS AFRAID OF PLANES & I had never been on one till Feb 2017 & since then I have been confident to go on them again as I have conquered this fear so I was very proud to use that as an example.

Self Image:

We were given the activity to write 3 negative & 3 positive of the below:

  • Physical Description
  • Social Rules
  • Personal Traits

In this we got to see what we think negatively of ourselves & that is no way to think bc you are the only person that sees yourself that way, no body else. Everyone else sees the positive in you however bc you are so hard on yourself you think negatively of every little thing about yourself.

I got so much out of last night & I can wait to move forward & apply this all to my life.

I’ve made a drop down for The Mindful Bootcamp Series in The Blog Series section of my blog (you can find the drop down on my home page)

Wherever you are in the world, have a lovely day ❤

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Being With A Girl With Anxiety

a boss.

Hello loves, ❤

Understand that we cannot control our anxiety at times and that we spend most of our day managing her anxiety.

Realize that anxiety is a real mental thing and that no, we do not want to act this way.

Anxiety does NOT = drama. In fact, despite popular belief, girls who suffer from anxiety want the opposite of drama and get upset when they know their anxiety caused drama.
You will have to be a little extra kind sometimes and give words of encouragement like, “Everything is okay.”

Worrying is not a choice for girls with anxiety, it just happens.

Anxiety prevents us from doing new and exciting things, but that does not mean that we don’t want to do them. They are just scarier for us than they are for you.

The idea of having dinner with a new couple you met through work evokes panic and we immediately try to think of topics of conversation to last the evening.

Sometimes we need to be alone. With the door shut. But we want you to come and check on us.

We need you to tell us we look good and to confirm our outfit choice several times. It’s annoying, yes, but it makes us feel less anxious.

Anxiety makes us stronger inside because it forces us to be completely self-aware at all times.

We like to know where you are. It’s not in a creepy way, but in a comforting way. Being able to visualize where you are makes us feel less anxiety.

Call when you say are you are going to call. We wait by the phone and get worried when you do not. If you cannot call, send a quick text. If we care about you, this is one of the most basic ways we need you to show you care about us.

Anxiety helps us be extra caring toward others because we are always considering other people’s feelings.
Please do not call us inflexible. The true fear we feel about trying something new or pushing ourselves out of our comfort zone is at times debilitating and incredibly frustrating to ourselves. We know its anxiety so please help us work on it instead of calling us names.

Anxiety helps us read other people very well. Trust the gift side of anxiety and let us help you determine who are good people and who are not.

Anxiety is all encompassing and a daily struggle that being a girl does not make any easier.

Wherever you are in the world, have a lovely day ❤

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