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Hello loves, ❤

Every move, every conversation, and every minute is overthought. Every thing is magnified. Your every emotion is tripled. You’re terrified. Because you don’t want to get hurt. And you’re petrified, because falling in love is the scariest game in the world. And you don’t want to lose.

It’s an incredibly vulnerable position to put yourself through. One side of your heart wants to fall because you know how incredible love can be. And the other side just doesn’t even want to try.

You’re scared and excited. You want to try, but another huge part of you already wants to give up.

People with anxiety magnify their every thought and feeling. So when they are seeing someone new, or when they are even going on a first date, their anxiety blasts on full force. Their anxiety makes them want to run as far as they can. Their anxiety makes them want to cancel. Their anxiety makes them want to disappear. Because in their minds, that’s better than being hurt. That’s better than getting disappointed. That’s better than rejection.

People with anxiety have so many emotions already boiling up in their every cell. Add another human person to the equation, and they are ready to bolt.

It’s not that they don’t want to find love. It’s not that they want to be forever alone. It’s not that they want to someday be 80-years old and live with fifty cats. They want love. They crave love. They miss love.

But their anxiety, always, always gets in the way.

Their anxiety tells them to stop. Their anxiety tells them to not feel anything. Their anxiety tells them to become numb. Because feeling nothing at all is better than feeling broken hearted.

But you see, their anxiety is lying to them. And some day, they will meet someone who will shout louder than their anxiety. Some day, their anxiety will be hushed to a whisper. Some day, they will meet someone who will make them want to finally try.

It won’t be easy. It won’t happen in a day. It won’t happen suddenly, at the drop of a hat. It will happen gradually, slowly and patiently.

People with anxiety have beautiful hearts that are open and that are so full of love. They just need a little nudge to keep on going. To keep on trying. They just need to be patient with themselves and with their hearts. It will happen. It will happen one day. Don’t you worry.

The right person won’t make their anxiety go away. But the right person won’t make you to run away as fast as you can.

Wherever you are in the world, have a lovely day ❤

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21 Comments

  1. I think my wife struggled with this when we first met. I’ve never thought of myself as one who helped deliver her from anxiety. I think I would give Yeshua most of the credit, but I may be the one that moved her in the direction of letting it go, simply by being there and being a person whom she could trust. I couldn’t take away the lies and the pain that caused the anxiety, but I knew of someone who could, and once connected, He’s done a really good job of it.

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  2. I am predently reading Taming Your Outer Child by abandonment therapist Susan Anderson and she explains the affect on the amygdala of past loss we have to learn to over ride those signals but we also have to not act out the wounded part of us on others as it will be triggered going into any new relationship if we have been abandoned before. Its just the way our brains respond to stress. Important to know.

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  3. An interesting perspective Anita! For me, I have very bad anxiety and struggled to find love for 21 years. I was single because I wasn’t putting myself out there for anyone to find me. Nobody knew I really existed. I was invisible at school. I was invisible in my home town. I wasn’t memorable in any way but I also wasn’t applying myself. I was waiting for someone to find me which doesn’t work. There is no perfect timing or perfect moment. Putting ourselves out there makes us vulnerable but love cannot happen without vulnerability. Even though I am now married, I STILL struggle with anxiety. You are not alone, and I feel like this post will be relatable to other readers too. ❤️ -Hilary

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      1. Patience, my friend. You will find love too ❤️ You are already manifesting good vibes and are on your way to achieving your goals 🙏🏻

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  4. Great post. It can be really hard when you have anxiety to make friends let alone find love but the right people will love you because they know anxiety is not your identity, you yourself are your identity. Thanks for sharing this post.

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