Being An Overthinker!

Being An Overthinker!

Hello loves,

If over thinking was a sport – I would get the GOLD MEDAL every time!

Overthinking isn’t just asking yourself if you left the back door open.

Overthinking can easily become an obsessive behavior, linked with anxiety, depression, and a handful of other mental illnesses. It’s subconscious, and for the most part, an overthinker doesn’t even realize they’re over thinking – it’s just how their mind works.

For overthinkers, one of the biggest struggles is explaining to people what you’re overthinking about or why you’re behaving the way you are. Because from the outside looking in, it might not be obvious.  

Here are some things people don’t realize you’re doing because you’re an overthinker:

1. Avoiding Conflict As Much As Possible

Overthinkers don’t like conflict. Not with themselves, not with the people around them, not anywhere. Conflict causes anxiety, it leads to questions, worries, concerns, fears… It makes overthinkers extremely uncomfortable because it gives them something to overthink about. So, if you’re wondering why someone shuts down the second a conflict arises, it might be because they’re an overthinker and it’s just too much. BUT THEN… Also, the questions & thoughts cause conflict.

2. Fidgeting

When your mind is racing with thoughts, sometimes your body tries to keep up. You feel like you need to move. This can lead to fidgeting, tapping, humming, hair twirling, and a bunch of other psychical manifestations. It’s one response to overthinking that can be seen from the outside in.

3. Asking Too Many Questions

It’s harder to overthink things when you know all the facts. That’s why overthinkers are constantly asking questions. Because if they know all the facts, there’s less to worry or think about.

4. Religiously Sticking to Plans

Overthinkers like to have a plan set out. In their head, they’re thinking about every aspect of this plan. Every detail needs to run through their brain so they can evaluate risks, reduce stress, and make sure everything runs as smoothly as possible. That’s why they tend to panic or get visibly upset when plans change. Try to understand this is hard for them.

5. Writing Things Down

Often times, writing things down is the only way to get things off their mind. Even if just for a little while. Overthinkers will make lists, mark things on calendars, and schedule out their days as best as they can. It’s on behavior that helps keep thoughts from taking over.

6. Apologizing, Constantly

I’m sorry for saying sorry so much, but it’s something overthinkers do on a regular basis. It’s because they worry, constantly, that someone might be upset, disappointed, angry, or annoyed, even if there’s no reason for it. And there’s no other logical thing for them to do but say sorry. They just want things to be better so they can stop thinking about it.

7. Overreacting To Nothing

Not all overthinkers overreact, but it’s a pretty common trend. It stems from insecurity, worry, and a desire for everything to be perfect. And when it’s not, there can be a bit of an explosion of emotion. We’re not doing it intentionally, it’s almost like a defense mechanism.

8. Obsessively Googling Things

Feeling sick? Stressing about the weather? Planning a trip? There’s a 100% chance you’re Googling everything about it until you’ve read every page on the Internet. Why? Because overthinkers need answers. They want reassurance that everything is fine, so they can stop obsessing over it and try to move on. The good news is, they’re usually experts on a number of illnesses or natural disasters.

9. Creeping Social Media Like The FBI

People who overthink constantly jump to the worst-case scenario. Logical thinking gets thrown to the wind. So if we need information to put our thoughts at ease, we’re turning to social media like a pro. This stems from insecurity or the idea that something is wrong, sometimes even FOMO (fear of missing out). Regardless, social media allows us to try and validate our thoughts, or put them to rest.

10. Always Looking for Hidden Messages

For the most part, people say what they mean. If they’re tired, they’ll let you know. But for an overthinker, everything has to be a cryptic message. If a text doesn’t have a happy face, they must be mad. If they don’t smile at you, they hate you. If you’re not invited, it’s because you’re a loser. Overthinkers will obsess over everything, trying to find the “true meaning” when in fact, there isn’t one.

11. Seeking Reassurance

Being an overthinker is hard. You’re constantly worried things are wrong. You fear you’re not good enough. It’s hard to decipher reality from imagination. This leads overthinkers to seek validation or reassurance. They need to be told things because they won’t assume them on their own. So if you love an overthinker, tell them! If you know someone is feeling insecure, offer them reassurance. It’s not hard to make them feel comfortable in their own head.

Wherever you are in the world, have a lovely day ❤

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Hypochondria Series: Change The Way You Feel (Part 4/4)

M A C A R O N M A I S O N (3)

Hello loves, ❤

Day 4 has fastly approached & our little mini series on hypochondria is finished 🙂 I pray that all of you have taken something from this ❤

By posting these I am not looking for sympathy nor empathy. However I do want my lovely followers to know that YOU ARE OKAY & that you are not the only one that thinks like this ❤

Below are some options for changing the way you FEEL ❤

Ask your doctor if a medication could help you.

  • Research indicates that hypochondriasis is correlated with depression and anxiety disorders, which suggests that there could be a genetic origin. In that case, you may need to try an antidepressant prescription to fully treat your issues. If that ends up being the case, don’t resist that treatment.
  • According to research, serotonin re-uptake inhibitors (SSRIs) and tricyclic antidepressants are the most commonly prescribed medications for hypochondriasis. Generally speaking, these drugs are not considered dangerous or physically habit-forming.
  • As with most mental illnesses, a combination of medication and cognitive behavioral therapy is the most effective course of treatment for hypochondriasis. It’s possible that you will not make sustained progress if you don’t take both seriously, so don’t make the mistake of discontinuing therapy or stopping your medication once you feel better.

 

Make changes to your diet. Though research into the connection between diet and hypochondria is in its infancy, a few general guidelines are recommended.

  • Eliminate all foods that you suspect could be allergens. Any food that causes you bodily distress will potentially produce symptoms that you could easily misinterpret. Additionally, it could be helpful to eat smaller meals throughout the day. Doing so will stabilize your blood sugar and help with digestion, thereby improving your mood and helping to reduce pains that could be misleading.
  • Cut back on caffeine. Stimulants, in general, are dangerous for people will anxiety issues, and it’s difficult to control racing thoughts and sleeplessness if you’re had two cups of coffee before bed.

 

Try doing yoga or exercise. Any vigorous physical activity will release endorphins – the “feel good” chemicals in your brain – and give you a natural high. Additionally, if you tire out your body, you’ll be more relaxed and less likely to stay up until 4:00 a.m. doing web searches for proof that the sounds in your stomach mean that you have cancer.

  • Work out for at least 30 minutes a day, five days a week. If you currently have no exercise routine, feel free to start out small with 15 to 20 minutes of walking per day. To help manage anxiety, the frequency of your workouts is more important than the duration, so don’t save all of your exercise for the weekend. Spread your sessions throughout the week.

 

Sleep on a regular schedule. Because excessive worry and anxiety often lead to difficulties sleeping, it’s common for those with hypochondriasis to fall into patterns where they don’t get a sufficient amount of rest every night. When that happens, you’re likely to be tired and cranky, making it harder to think clearly and fight against the sorts of thoughts that have caused your problems in the first place.

  • Use relaxation techniques before going to bed. This can be as simple as doing a systematic relaxation exercise, such as gradually tensing and releasing all of your muscle groups, one at a time. You also might be the kind of person who deals with anxiety by taking a warm bath or listening to some calming music.
  • Go to bed at the same time every night. Though it’s difficult to maintain a sleep schedule when you’re exhausted after a sleepless night and want nothing more than to nap when you get home from work, you should fight the urge.
    • Any small disruptions in your sleeping patterns can make it difficult to get back on track, so you should do what you can to go to bed and get up at the same time every day. If you do, your body will calibrate itself to a consistent schedule, and you’ll feel more rested and balanced.

 

Avoid web searches for disease symptoms and illnesses.Searching for the cause of your perceived symptoms will only exacerbate your condition. Avoid using the web for this purpose, and instead fill your time with other healthy activities.

I pray that this series has helped you all & not offended anyone. Suffering with this illness is something I deal with on an every day basis & if you do too, you are not alone ❤ I promise there is light at the end of the tunnel.

We are alive.

We are healthy.

We are thankful.

We are OKAY.

There are so many things to be grateful in this life ❤

Wherever you are in the world, have a lovely day ❤

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