Focus

Hello loves, ❤

Ever since I can remember the phrase, “I don’t want ____” has filled my head.

When I was a kid I didn’t want to be a nerd.

When I was a teenager I didn’t want to be an outcast.

When I studied I didn’t want to fail.

As an adult trying to figure out her career and overall life, now more than ever, I am filled with “I don’t want to ______.”

I never thought this way of thinking was bad. Instead, I thought it was great!

What’s bad about not wanting to be unhappy?

What’s bad about not wanting to continue the cycle of toxic relationships?

What’s bad about not wanting to be someone who rubs people the wrong way?

Well, for one it’s all based on a negative foundation: I do NOT want.

When I really sat down to think about it, I realized that every time my mind wandered over to the land of “I don’t want,” my heart began to race a little. I would become anxious. I was focusing on seemingly negative qualities in order to propel myself into an area of positivity. It wasn’t working.

The other day I was challenged to think less about what I don’t want and more about what I do.

I felt myself get a little lighter. The task of intentionally considering who I am and what I want seem less daunting.

I want to be happy.

I want to love people.

I want to do great things.

I want.

Maybe our inclination to focus on negative qualities is a reflection of our upbringing. Or maybe it feels too awkward and selfish to start a thought with, “I want.” Whatever the reason, we need to break out of the mindset of trying to avoid negative things and instead focus on trying to embrace positive ones.

Life seems a little less overwhelming when you focus on all the things you want instead of all the things you don’t.

Wherever you are in the world, have a lovely day ❤

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This OR That Tag

Hello loves, ❤

Here we are again – Another GREAT tag that I have created myself, I am loving it!

THIS or that tag

Rules:

  • Thank & tag the person that has tagged you
  • Attach the tag photo
  • Answers the ‘This or THAT questions
  • Tag a 10-20 friends.

LET’S GET STARTED!

  • Dog or Cat?
    • Dog
  • Netflix or YouTube?
    • Ah, can I choose both. I love Youtube but I love Netflix!
  • Phone Call or Text?
    • Text
  • Toast or Eggs?
    • Oo, EGGS!
  • Cardio or Weights?
    • Weights
  • Facebook or Twitter?
    • Neither 🙂
  • Ice Cream Cone or Snow Cone?
    • Ice Cream 😛
  • Mobile Games or Console Games?
    • Console Games (I’m so old school)
  • While walking: Music or Podcasts?
    • Music ❤
  • iOS or Android?
    • iOS 🙂
  • Cake or Pie?
    • CAKE, CAKE, CAKE!
  • Swimming or Sunbathing?
    • Swimming!
  • Big Party or Small Gathering?
    • Small gathering 🙂
  • New Clothes or New Phone?
    • New clothes 🙂
  • Rich Friend or Loyal Friend?
    • Loyal friend 🙂
  • Football or Basketball?
    • Basketball
  • Nice Car or Nice Home Interior?
    • Nice Home Interior
  • What’s worse: Laundry or Dishes?
    • DISHES!
  • Jogging or Hiking?
    • Hiking ❤
  • Bath or Shower?
    • Shower when in a hurry but bath when I can relax 🙂
  • Sneakers or Sandals?
    • Oo, sneakers when I am on the move but sandals with a nice outfit
  • Glasses or Contacts?
    • Glasses 🙂
  • Hamburger or Taco?
    • HAMBURGER!
  • Couch or Recliner?
    • Recliner 🙂
  • Online Shopping or Shopping in a Store?
    • Shopping in store 🙂
  • Receive: Email or Letter?
    • LETTER! I love letters!
  • Passenger or Driver?
    • Driver – I need to be able to be in control when I am in the car!
  • Tablet or Computer?
    • Computer 🙂
  • Most important in a partner: Intelligent or Funny?
    • Intelligent
  • Car or Truck?
    • CAR 🙂
  • Blue or Red?
    • Red
  • Money or Free Time?
    • Free Time ❤
  • Amusement Park or Day at the Beach?
    • Day at the Beach 🙂
  • At a movie: Candy or Popcorn?
    • Popcorn 🙂
  • Pen or Pencil?
    • PEN 🙂
  • Toilet paper: Over or Under?
    • Oo, this is a BIG one! OVER!
  • Cups in the cupboard: Right Side Up or Up Side Down?
    • Upside down ❤
  • Pancake or Waffle?
    • Can I choose both! I have a MAJOR sweet tooth!
  • Coke or Pepsi?
    • Hm, neither, I don’t drink soft drink.
  • Coffee Cup or Thermos?
    • Oo, coffee cup at home, thermos on the way to work 🙂
  • Blinds or Curtain?
    • Curtain ❤
  • Train or Plane?
    • PLANE! I catch a train EVERY day to work 😦
  • Phone or Tablet?
    • Phone 🙂
  • Iced Coffee or Hot Coffee?
    • Hot chocolate? Can I choose that?
  • Meat or Vegetables?
    • MEAT!
  • International Vacation or a New TV?
    • International vacaaaaaaaaay! (Europe, I’m coming for you!)
  • Save or Spend?
    • Little bit of both, hehe 😛
  • Honesty or Other’s Feelings?
    • I am more about honesty, I need to be honest of what is on my mind.
  • Coffee or Tea?
    • TEA ❤
  • TV or Book?
    • Book 🙂
  • Movie at Home or Movie at the Theater?
    • Oo, a good movie snuggled in bed but going out to the movies is nice too ❤
  • Ocean or Mountains?
    • Ah, this is another big one! I love the ocean but I also love me a good beach 🙂
  • Horror Movie or Comedy Movie?
    • Comedy 🙂
  • City or Countryside?
    • Countryside 🙂 TAKE ME AWAY!
  • Winter or Summer?
    • Summer ❤
  • Mac or PC?
    • Oo, this one is hard bc I use both in my life. Maybe MAC.
  • Console Gaming or PC Gaming?
    • Console gaming ❤ Did anyone play SEGA?!
  • Soup or Sandwich?
    • Sandwhich #CARBLIFE
  • Card Game or Board Game?
    • Card Game, give me a game of SNAP any day 🙂
  • Camping or Binge Watching Shows at Home?
    • Oo, I’d love to do camping, maybe not in a tent but a cute cabin.
  • Working Alone or Working in a Team?
    • Oo, I love working alone but I also love the support of others ❤
  • Dine In or Delivery?
    • Delivery – Snuggled up on the couch, eating & watching a movie 🙂
  • Sweater or Hoodie?
    • Hoodie 🙂
  • Motorcycle or Bicycle?
    • Bicycle 🙂
  • Book or eBook?
    • I love me a good book, I love reading them on the train to work 🙂
  • When sleeping: Fan or No Fan?
    • Oo, in SUMMER I need a fan! But in Winter, I need a hot water bottle.
  • TV Shows or Movies?
    • Movies ❤

My Nominees:

I can’t wait to read all of your tags ❤

Wherever you are in the world, have a lovely day ❤

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