Hello loves, ❤

You should never demand someone to stay in your life. Choosing to be together involves willingness; should anyone fail to show willingness, staying should never really be an option anymore. If you hold on to people who are no longer willing to stick around, you will eventually end up torturing yourself and accumulate bruises that will hardly heal.

You don’t deserve a half-present company. They may physically be with you, but their heart is already somewhere else. Do not hinder them to be where they want to be. Set them free and go your own way.

Let them leave so you can be happy. You can never truly find joy in a relationship that chokes you every single day. Someone who wishes to leave does not deserve to see your genuine smile. In fact, the person who wishes to leave will never genuinely exert an effort to make you smile.

Don’t hold on to someone who is a foot away from the exit. Push them away if need be the moment you notice their signal of detachment. They don’t deserve to stay with you any longer, so show them the way out, usher them and gently close the door where they walked out.

Wish them well but never take them back. People who leave are the ones who will never try to make things work for the better. They ran away when things get rough, and you will end up suffering from the things they do right in front your eyes. Wish them well and hope to never cross their path again. If their brief existence didn’t do you any good now, it will never be good for you the second time around. Yes, everyone deserves a second chance; but, second chances are earned – they’re not freely given.

Forgive them for leaving you, but never forget that they left you in the first place. Don’t ever wish for them to come back and turn away at once. Be strong enough to endure loneliness for a short while, for certainly someone who is willing to stay will come your way.

If they love you, they won’t even think about leaving. Therefore, the moment they express their intention to leave, you have to accept that love is no longer there. Love can also leave and so can they, remember that! Just like you can also leave if you are no longer happy.

Letting them go now will give you more time to recover. Think about it this way, if you let a problem grow bigger, it will be much more difficult for you to resolve it later. Admit it. Them, deciding to leave is a problem. If you let it worsen, you will pay the price later. Let them go now so your heart will have enough time to heal.

Sometimes, we just have to let go of something and someone that hurt(s) us. Letting it (or them) go may not be the easiest choice, but it could be the best choice we have left. It does not mean we don’t love them anymore, it simply means we love them enough to let them find their happiness too. Just like it doesn’t mean we don’t consider them important anymore, it’s just that WE are also important.

The space they emptied may throb for a while but that’s totally fine. Eventually, someone will fill that space again and heal all the pain. The thing is, the right one cannot take that place over if it is still occupied.

Don’t ever look back and keep going. Go your separate ways and just know that being left behind is not always a bad thing. It could be an opportunity to evaluate our options better.

Let them go.

Let yourself go.

Wherever you are in the world, have a lovely day ❤

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44 Comments

  1. According to me,
    When a person leaves you and your life, he/she will either make you a HUMAN BEING or a writer!… Dont think that those are your enemies because… A Person is never wrong, their situations are!

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  6. Thank you so much for following my blog. I followed you back. Finding happiness is something that I have been trying to do for a very long time. I hope to gain as much wisdom as you have displayed in your post and will re-read your posts whenever I am feeling low. I feel like I have not moved on from my past, and like I mentioned last night in my Pandora’s Box post on Sereneluna, a part of me is still angry that I didn’t get a chance to read my ex friend’s facebook profile when I had the opportunity to do so. However, removing her immediately was probably the best thing to do for my personal well-being. I just wish I could move on. On a happier note, my anger towards her gives me tons of inspiration to write. Much of what I write is fueled my deep emotions, anger, disappointment, regrets etc. my post can be found here: sereneluna.wordpress.com/2018/04/12/pandoras-box/

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  7. I think this applies in dating situations, but perhaps not so much in marriage.

    In marriage couples face ups and downs together. I know we’ve had our share. But as long as there is always that willingness to hold it together, it’s held. Personally I’m grateful for that, because as the years go by, this relationship anyhow, gets better and better.

    There has been a time or two when we’ve had to call each other back. 😉

    Overall, I agree with your basic premise though.

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  12. Holding onto someone who deoes’nt wish to be with you will only hurt you, sometimes we hope that they will come back, and everything will be back as it used to be, the truth is, it never will, and you are much better on your own. You get an opportunity to grow as an Individual and become a more whole and complete person and you wont feel lonely anymore which will help attract the perfect person. Have a Nice Day!!

    Namaste.

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  13. So very wise!!! You deserve so much more and no matter how hard you try you can’t change how they feel! “Let them leave so you can be happy.” Do this for you, not for them. Forgive for you, not for them. And as you say, forgiving doesn’t mean you forget. It doesn’t mean you let this person back in if they change their mind. It simply means choosing to let go of your past so you can move forward. It isn’t easy. I’ve struggled with it. But it’s the only way.

    ❤️ fantastic post!!

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