What Your Girlfriend Wants

Hello loves, ❤

She wants you to touch her mindlessly while the two of you watch a movie – she doesn’t want that ‘Netflix and Chill’ touching, where the movie is clearly just a pretext to do something else. She wants you to drag your fingers lightly along her arm, in her hair, on her hand. She wants to know that you want to touch her as a matter of habit, as a reflex that just feels more right than doing nothing at all. Touching should become second nature, not always a means to an end.

She wants you to surprise her, but not with some grand gesture you saw in a movie. She doesn’t need the guy lighting a hundred candles in the shape of a heart or a cheesy word, and she doesn’t need to be serenaded with soft guitar music. She needs something that is romantic to just the two of you, exactly to your definition. Surprise her with a bacon egg and cheese and hot chocolate on a Saturday morning after she’s been working hard all week. Surprise her with her favourite book from Kikki K. Pick a movie that you know she loves more than anything, even if she’s already seen it a dozen times, and set up a movie night around it. Let her know that you notice the little things.

She wants you to say that you love her, at weird, random moments when no one would expect it. She wants your words to feel like a kiss on her forehead in the dark, something she can barely feel but which she absolutely needs to feel is there. She wants your love to be something fluid and effortless, not built around “big moments” you feel obligated to mark. Sure, there can be special events, but there’s something a thousand times more heart-swoony about hearing a quiet “I love you” when she’s got a face mask and bathrobe on, when she thinks she’s at her least lovable, when it’s the last thing she expects.

She wants you to love her just as much in front of your friends. She wants you to kiss her cheek, to joke with you, to be the exact same way around them as he is around you. She never wants to feel like the girlfriend who has to be dragged around, like she’s an anchor to all of the fun you would otherwise be having. She hears the way other guys can talk about their girlfriends when they’re not around, like their relationship is an obligation. She knows it would sound needy to ask, but she wants to know that you are never like that with her.

She wants to get a letter from you, to be surprised that you remembered something that she didn’t, to hear the words “I already took care of it.” There is nothing more wonderful than knowing that someone else has already been putting in the thought, that you were on their mind enough to commit it to writing or make real plans. Because that’s the real romance that’s been dying – the romance of being thoughtful, the romance of taking your time and doing things right. She doesn’t want to be the thing you remember only when it’s late and you don’t want to sleep alone. She doesn’t want to be the one you come over to pretend to watch a movie with, just so you can spend a few hours in her arms. She wants to be the one you plan ahead for, the one you take a few extra minutes to make things special for. She doesn’t want your money or the things you can buy her, she wants your time. She wants your attention.

She wants your patience, in a world where everyone is going way too fast.

Wherever you are in the world, have a lovely day ❤

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3 Day Quote Challenge – Day 3

Hello loves, ❤

Thank you Ingrid Madison Ave for nominating me for the 3 Day Quote Challenge.

Here we are for the third & final day, this has been fun 🙂 I am so happy to be nominated for this as I feel that you lovely people got to know about me a little bit more.

If you missed the last two days, you can find them below:

Rules:

  1. Thank the person who nominated you.
  2. Post a quote for three consecutive days (1 quote for each day).
  3. Share why this quote appeals so much to you.
  4. Nominate 3 different bloggers for each day.

 

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This quote! 6 words have never impacted me so hard! THIS! I received a little Kikki K desk quote stand. To gather a better under standing, this is what they look like 🙂

I cam across this pictured quote & I instantly fell in love! I am constantly wanting THE FINISH line, ALL THE TIME! I want it right now! I am very impatient & I tend to get very frustrated along my journey bc it may be taking longer for a certain something to happen.

Coming across this quote opened my eyes to understand that even though we may be taking baby steps, when we look back we’ve walked so FAR in life.

I can use my anxiety as an example, 4 years ago I NEVER PICTURED MYSELF WHERE I AM NOW. I was bed ridden, had given up & was at my darkest point in life. But step by step & day by day my mindset began to shift & when I look back I cannot believe ‘how far I’ve walked’ & how far I have come.

My Nominees:

I can’t wait to see the quotes you love & why ❤

My Thoughts On This Challenge:

I am so happy that I have been nominated for this award. I got to share a part of me that is very close to me. My anxiety is apart of my life & I come as a package deal. It’s me + my anxiety ❤ I am so grateful that these 3 quotes over the last 3 days have been anxiety related, as I said earlier, it’s amazing how strong & powerful a quote can be & how much it can change your mindset & shift your thought pattern.

Wherever you are in the world, have a lovely day ❤

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