*Guest Appearance* Handling Rejection

Hello loves, ❤

We have a lovely guest here on Discovering Your Happiness today 🙂 I want to welcome Byrnn Sauer from The Edge, be sure to follow Byrnn’s page & show some love ❤

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At one point or another, everyone faces rejection. Maybe your third-grade crush didn’t like you back, maybe your best friend found a different group of friends, maybe you didn’t get the job you wanted… or maybe you are like me, and you were rejected by the majority of colleges you wanted to go to.

I was rejected from 7 of the 11 colleges I applied to. That’s a whopping 64%. And to be honest, every rejection letter hurt. I was so confident I was going to get accepted because I thought I had done everything right in high school – standardized test scores, GPA, athletics, arts, academics, volunteering… I was pretty sure I had mastered the formula for college acceptance. When those rejection letters came, it felt like they were saying “you’re not good enough for me.”

I called my best friend immediately, and I let out all my frustrations. What would people think of me? What did I do wrong? What is going to happen now?

In the midst of my tears, I shouted “I believe I’m worthy of getting in! But why doesn’t anyone else seem to see it?!”

And that’s when I realized…

I still believe I’m worthy of getting in.

I still believe I did awesome things in high school.

I still believe I’m good enough.

For whatever reason, I was rejected from my top choices, and I’ll probably never know why. But, now, I realize that I am okay. Yes, it hurt, but I can choose to grow from this experience. Failure is a powerful teacher, and if you’re experiencing some type of set back, I know you will come back stronger. Whoever or whatever rejected you will realize what they are missing out on. I’m determined to prove those colleges wrong, and in order to do so, I’m starting off by making sure I remember the lessons that I learned from this experience. If you’ve been rejected or are just going through a tough situation, I hope that the five things I learned from my college rejections can help you, too. 🙂

 

1. Look back and see what you can do better. Then do it.

Even though I believe I had a very successful four years in high school, when I look back I can see some things I could’ve done better. After comparing the difference between me and some of the students who were accepted, I spotted some things that I could have done to make myself more appealing to the institutions I applied to. Getting rejected gave me the opportunity to reflect and, most importantly, change for the better.

 

2. Rejection is based on another person’s opinion.

If someone rejects you, it is their opinion. It is not a fact. What matters more is what you think about yourself. If you believe you are doing things right, and they still don’t want you, then they are just ignorant! They will soon realize what they lost. Be the awesome person that you are and don’t let anyone else’s opinions change how you think about yourself.

 

   3. It’s okay to get knocked down, but it’s not okay to stay there.

If you get rejected or experience failure, know that you’re not alone. One time I was watching some runners complete a 2-mile time trial and one of the coaches shouted to a runner “Everyone else is hurting, too! You’re not special!”

Hearing him say that made me laugh because it is so comparable to life.

Life is going to hit everyone – it does not discriminate. Everyone will experience tough times, rejection, dark moments… what separates people who succeed from those who don’t is what you do about it. If you got knocked down, that’s out of your control. What you can control is getting back up.

 

4. Find the positives.

It’s so easy for me to look at the stat of 64% rejected and feel upset, but what I need to remember was that I was 36% accepted! There is always a bright side. Additionally, two of the schools that accepted me are prestigious schools with less than 15% acceptance rates. Some people would give anything to get into these schools, and I should not take that for granted. I was scrolling through Instagram’s of people who were accepted into these schools and they were absolutely flipping out about getting in. Perspective is everything – and I’m choosing the positive perspective.

5. Don’t hide your rejection. Show that you are stronger than it.

After touring some of my top-choice schools my junior and senior year, most people knew that I had applied and wanted to attend. Additionally, most people thought I was basically accepted just because I had the grades for it. Therefore, these rejections took a hit at my pride. Like I mentioned before, one of the questions that popped into my head was “What will people think of me?”

But, what I’ve realized is rejection is nothing to be ashamed of. One of the most impressive things to me is someone who can get punched and get back up. We naturally root for the underdog – someone who doesn’t seem like they can do it, but then does. Instead of being embarrassed about my rejections, I embrace the opportunity to have a winning attitude about it. I am going to show people that I will not let this get the best of me.

Whatever you are going through right now, I believe in you. I don’t care how long it takes – one, five, ten, fifty years… but I will make those colleges regret not accepting me. And to whoever didn’t accept you – I feel bad for them! They are missing out! We are going to come out of this stronger. You can do it. Now, let’s do this.

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Thank you Byrnn again for sharing your love on Discovering Your Happiness & helping us on a journey of handing rejection & how to over come this.

Wherever you are in the world, have a lovely day ❤

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The Mystery Blogger Award

Hello loves, ❤

Thank you to the beautiful Ingrid at Ingrid Madison Ave for yet another nomination for a lovely award, The Mystery Blogger Award.

Be sure to check out Ingrid’s page, she offers some great advice on a wide variety of things we go through on a day to day basis ❤

Rules:

  • tmba2Thank whoever nominated you and include link to their blog
  • Tell your readers three things about yourself
  • Nominate 10-20 bloggers you feel deserve the award
  • Notify your nominees by commenting on their blog
  • Ask your nominees 5 questions of your choice with one weird or funny one

Three Fun Facts About Me:

  1. I went on a plane for the first time in Feb 2017.
  2. My bedroom is ALL WHITE, it’s like being on a cloud! (I’ll do a room tour soon!)
  3. I am a quartz collector ❤

My Answers to Ingrid’s Questions:

  • Where are you from?
    • I am from Sydney, Australia
  • Where do you live?
    • I live in Sydney, Australia
  • What are the top five things on your bucket list?
    • Visit Croatia, Greece & Italy
    • Go on a helicopter ride
    • Snorkel with sea turtles
    • Go to the Great Barrier Reef
    • Go to The Great Wall of China
    • This question has given me an idea on doing a post on my bucket list!
  • Who is your hero in life, the person you look up to or aspire to be like the most?
    • I feel that there are certain people I look up to for certain reasons, I like to look up to Louise Hay, I have all her books & I absolutely love her, she’s gotten me through some tough, tough, times.
  • What is your favorite thing about your blog?
    • I love that I created this blog nearly 2 years ago just out of creating a hobby for myself, never did I think that I would touch & inspire so many lives, it is so beautiful to know that 1 post alone can make such a difference to peoples lives.

My Nominees:

My Questions:

  1. What is your biggest goal you are wanting to achieve?
  2. Skydive or Bungee Jumping?
  3. What is your favourite food of all time?
  4. What is one of your biggest fears?
  5. Where do you see yourself in 5 years?

I can’t wait to see all your replies ❤

Wherever you are in the world, have a lovely day ❤

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67,000 Views, Yay!

Hello loves, ❤

Hope everyone is well after a beautiful long weekend. happy Easter to those that celebrate Easter & to those that don’t, I pray you all had a lovely break.

I know I most certainly got spoilt from my family & friends, I am so appreciative of the effort my loved ones go to spoil me with chocolate for Easter.

The amount of chocolate I got, you could sink a SHIP, haha! (not really.. but really!)

Did any of you lovely people get chocolate? I know I ate A LOT of chocolate over the weekend – WORKING OUT HARD AT THE GYM, BURNING IT ALL OFF NOW. (Stay tuned for my workout blogs coming soon)

I feel guilty when I eat chocolate, I am at constant war with myself when I eat ‘bad’ But then I also think ‘HEY, YOU CAN TREAT YOURSELF!’

Here we are again, we are adding another 1000 views to the bag.

67,000 VIEWS! Thank you to all you lovely people, you love & support does not go unnoticed. You all have no idea how much you all inspire, encourage & motivate me on my blog.

Thank you to the below people for re-blogging my work:

I love seeing people write such beautiful things on their page about me, below is a beautiful paragraph from a lovely blogger I follow ❤

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Coming back to work this week was hard after having 4 days off, I was most certainly not in the mindset for it. I tend to get mentally affected by sugar & it plays with my anxiety – (I will do a post shortly on how sugar affects your anxiety)

I hope you all have a lovely week ❤

Wherever you are in the world, have a lovely day ❤

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Overthinking Ruins Relationships

Hello loves, ❤

I am the worlds most craziest overthinker! I can admit that! I am not in denial.

I will rewrite texts twenty times before sending. I will spend way too much time focusing on a single sentence.

My overthinking ruins relationships before they even begin, because you never get to know the real me. I censor myself. I carefully plan out what I think you’d want to hear instead of being authentic and typing the first thing that pops into my mind. I would rather impress you with a fake version of myself than risk acting spontaneous.

I am guilty of trying too hard. I will overthink what I should wear if there is even the smallest chance you will call me beautiful. I will overthink how long I should wait to respond to your latest text. I will overthink what it means when you say something as simple as hey.

Even after we have known each other for a while, I will have trouble believing it’s the truth when you claim to care about me. Even though I should probably take your words at face value, I will wonder whether you’re only acting nice to spare my feelings. Or whether you’re secretly trying to get something out of me.

I’m not the best person to date, because I have trouble making basic decisions. I can’t randomly choose where to eat or which movie to see without thinking through the options in detail. I would rather have you do the decision making to take the pressure off of me.

I overthink everything instead of enjoying the moment. I’m too worried about what is going to happen next to think about how happy I am now.

My overthinking ruins relationships because when everything is going fine, I destroy the peace. I accidentally cause drama. You will do something small, something meaningless, and I will make a big deal out of it.

I will see a text on your phone from a name I don’t recognize and assume you’re cheating on me. I will notice you looking at another girl and assume you don’t find me attractive anymore.

My overthinking annoys everyone because it makes me seem needy. No one wants to repeat how much they care about me every five seconds to stop me from having another meltdown. No one wants to explain how they didn’t mean for their tone to sound rude or how they didn’t realize something so small would set me off.

I wish I could stop myself. I wish I could calm my mind. But I have no control over the part of me that overthinks.

I am always going to be the person who pays close attention to the words you’re using and the expressions you’re making. I am always going to jump to conclusions. I am always going to think too much.

I need to find someone who understands that there will be times when I need their reassurance. Someone who doesn’t get mad at me for feeling insecure. Someone who loves me, even though there will be moments where I doubt that’s the truth.

Wherever you are in the world, have a lovely day ❤

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