Hello loves, ❤
We have a lovely guest here on Discovering Your Happiness today 🙂 I want to welcome Byrnn Sauer from The Edge, be sure to follow Byrnn’s page & show some love ❤
At one point or another, everyone faces rejection. Maybe your third-grade crush didn’t like you back, maybe your best friend found a different group of friends, maybe you didn’t get the job you wanted… or maybe you are like me, and you were rejected by the majority of colleges you wanted to go to.
I was rejected from 7 of the 11 colleges I applied to. That’s a whopping 64%. And to be honest, every rejection letter hurt. I was so confident I was going to get accepted because I thought I had done everything right in high school – standardized test scores, GPA, athletics, arts, academics, volunteering… I was pretty sure I had mastered the formula for college acceptance. When those rejection letters came, it felt like they were saying “you’re not good enough for me.”
I called my best friend immediately, and I let out all my frustrations. What would people think of me? What did I do wrong? What is going to happen now?
In the midst of my tears, I shouted “I believe I’m worthy of getting in! But why doesn’t anyone else seem to see it?!”
And that’s when I realized…
I still believe I’m worthy of getting in.
I still believe I did awesome things in high school.
I still believe I’m good enough.
For whatever reason, I was rejected from my top choices, and I’ll probably never know why. But, now, I realize that I am okay. Yes, it hurt, but I can choose to grow from this experience. Failure is a powerful teacher, and if you’re experiencing some type of set back, I know you will come back stronger. Whoever or whatever rejected you will realize what they are missing out on. I’m determined to prove those colleges wrong, and in order to do so, I’m starting off by making sure I remember the lessons that I learned from this experience. If you’ve been rejected or are just going through a tough situation, I hope that the five things I learned from my college rejections can help you, too. 🙂
1. Look back and see what you can do better. Then do it.
Even though I believe I had a very successful four years in high school, when I look back I can see some things I could’ve done better. After comparing the difference between me and some of the students who were accepted, I spotted some things that I could have done to make myself more appealing to the institutions I applied to. Getting rejected gave me the opportunity to reflect and, most importantly, change for the better.
2. Rejection is based on another person’s opinion.
If someone rejects you, it is their opinion. It is not a fact. What matters more is what you think about yourself. If you believe you are doing things right, and they still don’t want you, then they are just ignorant! They will soon realize what they lost. Be the awesome person that you are and don’t let anyone else’s opinions change how you think about yourself.
3. It’s okay to get knocked down, but it’s not okay to stay there.
If you get rejected or experience failure, know that you’re not alone. One time I was watching some runners complete a 2-mile time trial and one of the coaches shouted to a runner “Everyone else is hurting, too! You’re not special!”
Hearing him say that made me laugh because it is so comparable to life.
Life is going to hit everyone – it does not discriminate. Everyone will experience tough times, rejection, dark moments… what separates people who succeed from those who don’t is what you do about it. If you got knocked down, that’s out of your control. What you can control is getting back up.
4. Find the positives.
It’s so easy for me to look at the stat of 64% rejected and feel upset, but what I need to remember was that I was 36% accepted! There is always a bright side. Additionally, two of the schools that accepted me are prestigious schools with less than 15% acceptance rates. Some people would give anything to get into these schools, and I should not take that for granted. I was scrolling through Instagram’s of people who were accepted into these schools and they were absolutely flipping out about getting in. Perspective is everything – and I’m choosing the positive perspective.
5. Don’t hide your rejection. Show that you are stronger than it.
After touring some of my top-choice schools my junior and senior year, most people knew that I had applied and wanted to attend. Additionally, most people thought I was basically accepted just because I had the grades for it. Therefore, these rejections took a hit at my pride. Like I mentioned before, one of the questions that popped into my head was “What will people think of me?”
But, what I’ve realized is rejection is nothing to be ashamed of. One of the most impressive things to me is someone who can get punched and get back up. We naturally root for the underdog – someone who doesn’t seem like they can do it, but then does. Instead of being embarrassed about my rejections, I embrace the opportunity to have a winning attitude about it. I am going to show people that I will not let this get the best of me.
Whatever you are going through right now, I believe in you. I don’t care how long it takes – one, five, ten, fifty years… but I will make those colleges regret not accepting me. And to whoever didn’t accept you – I feel bad for them! They are missing out! We are going to come out of this stronger. You can do it. Now, let’s do this.
Thank you Byrnn again for sharing your love on Discovering Your Happiness & helping us on a journey of handing rejection & how to over come this.
Wherever you are in the world, have a lovely day ❤