Hello loves, ❤

Your anxiety will chase away the wrong person.

When you ask for reassurance that they care about you, they will get annoyed because you should already know how they feel, they shouldn’t have to repeat themselves every five seconds.

When you get quiet for seemingly no reason, when you shut down because your anxiety is eating you alive, they are going to wonder why you have to turn everything into a problem.

When you open up to them about the fears that are keeping you awake at night, they are going to call you crazy and say you should stop worrying so much about things that mean so little.

When you cancel plans with them at the last second or tell them you’re too tired to leave the house even though you promised to hang out with their friends that night, they are going to start an argument with you about how flakey you are.

The wrong person will make you feel like your anxiety makes you difficult to love.

They will make you wonder whether you are being selfish. Whether you should grow up and stop being so afraid. They will make you hate yourself for how hard you find it to socialize. They will bring out your biggest insecurities.

However, when you find the right person, your anxiety won’t ruin your relationship. Your anxiety won’t be a problem that needs solving.

The right person might not know what it feels like to experience anxiety themselves, but they will try their hardest to understand what you are going through. To see the world from your point of view.

When you say you’re not in the mood to leave the house, they will grab a blanket and enjoy the night inside with you instead of complaining about how they wanted to spend the night out.

When you say you are fine, they will ask you what is bothering you instead of acting like your emotions are a nuisance to them.

When you tell them you’re nervous your health, or trying something new. They will give you motivational speeches, reminding you that you have what it takes to make it through. They will never let you forget your strength.

When you are resistant to go somewhere new with them, they won’t push you out of your comfort zone. They won’t force you into doing anything you’re uncomfortable doing, because they want you to feel safe at all times.

Your anxiety is not going to chase the right person away. They will stick by your side, even during your most stressful days. They won’t see your anxiety as a burden, as something they are stuck dealing with.

They will hate your anxiety, but not because calming you down when you freak out is annoying. Because they hate seeing you upset. Because they never want you to feel uncomfortable or insecure. Because they love you and wish they could save you from yourself.

Wherever you are in the world, have a lovely day ❤

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42 Comments

  1. My anxiety apparently caused “irreversible damage” to my long term partner and his family. I opened up about how bad it had become, to the person I felt would be with me no-matter what. We talked about marriage and kids and he left me at my lowest. It’s taking a lot to acknowledging the right person will support me no matter what. Your words really support me. 💕

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  2. Could not agree more with this! I’ve recently broken away from a relationship because my partner was less than understanding of my struggles and needs. It made me feel anxious, guilty and down about myself all the time. Definitely made the right decision. When I eventually move on, it will be with someone who is more understanding, empathetic, lifts me up and will stick around to ride out the bad days with me. The company you keep is crucial in your fight for recovery

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  3. What a blessing when we allow the Lord to lead even our love lives. If we are with the one He wants us with, everything will be about following our Lord. We will love the one we are with, thankful for the blessing God has given us… every part of them! ❤ We will not want to tear them down, but instead lift them and let them know how loved they are! ❤
    God's love is so beautifu in all its ways! ❤

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  4. Very true! There are people out there who will understand, or try to understand what you’re going through. There will always be negative people, people who don’t understand or care to. It’s sometimes easier to believe these people…But they are really the minority. ❤️

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