Putting In The Effort

Hello loves ❤

We focus so much on what we deserve that we actually forget what’s right in front of us the entire time. Maybe love was never about what you deserve, but what you never thought you needed until you realize they make your life a whole lot better.

The world romanticizes relationships so much that we have this tendency to higher unnecessary expectations, and maybe this has everything to do with unrealistic portrayals of relationships in novels and books.

Either way, maybe the definition of love is so blurred that we don’t even know how to tell if we really do love someone. Romance novels portray unrealistically high standards on how you show you love someone with a grand gesture, such as a candlelight dinner with rose petals surrounding it or giving a huge bouquet of roses with every kind of chocolate she would like.

Maybe love has nothing to do with the things you buy for the person you love because love can’t be measured by the amount of flowers you buy for her or by the amount of roses surrounding a candlelight dinner. Just because you choose to kiss someone under the pouring rain just like The Notebook, it doesn’t suddenly mean you love her.

Money can’t buy happiness, and it certainly can’t buy love either. Love isn’t a Nicholas Sparks novel because in real life, relationships last because you work for it.

When you say effort is a need for a relationship, this doesn’t mean just buying them their favorite flower or spending money on that book they always wanted to buy for themselves. Effort is a more intimate thing than spending your money on them.

It’s paying attention to all of them when you’re with them, and not putting half your attention on your phone. It’s actually being genuinely curious as to how they’ve been doing and wanting to know their deepest and saddest thoughts at night, and what made them feel this way. It’s surprising them on their birthday and going to their place and making their day special, because you know how much they look forward to their birthday. It’s actually making them feel wanted and treating them the way they deserve.

Effort was never about the material things. Effort is how loved and valued you make them feel, whether you’re together or apart.

It’s about her not having to tell you what she needs because you already know it. It’s about forehead kisses and cuddles on mornings because you know how grumpy she gets in the morning, but not when you wake her up right. It’s about never making her feel like she puts in all the effort to make the relationship work. It’s about making her a priority, no matter how busy your day gets.

It’s about knowing that she deserves the love she gives everyone else because you know she’s your everything.

Wherever you are in the world, have a lovely day ❤

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Hello, my name is Anita, I am a 23 year old Croatian girl who loves reading self development books & following others blogs. Having said that, I have decided to create a site that consist of sharing my hobbies daily blogs, daily affirmations, healthy recipes, DIY projects, places I travel to etc. Discovering Your Happiness has a goal of sharing my happiness with you to help you discover your happiness also.

15 thoughts on “Putting In The Effort”

  1. “Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” – 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 KJV
    Very wise post, young lady! Lovely as ever!

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  2. I was told by someone close to me who knows me very well. That I am incapable to love as I don’t know what it is. To this day I think about it. And the more I think about it and try to analyze my life or portions of it, make that statement more and more true. Is it due to the illness or my brain is wired differently. I just don’t know and it bothers me.

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