Hello loves ❤

I can admit, I love affection – I love giving it, I love receiving it!

There’s a difference between craving someone and obsessing over them, a difference between longing for attention and being desperate, a difference between desire and need.

We are human. Which means it’s in our nature to want connection, to crave relationships, to desire being with and around people who make us feel good. We are human. Which means when we love someone, we want them to pay attention to us. On some level we seek praise, attention, approval. We long to be both loved and understood.

If someone cares about you, giving you affection and attention won’t be a chore.

I think sometimes we forget that simple fact—if someone values you, they will show it. They won’t play games, taking days to respond to your messages. They won’t ignore your phone calls just to call back later, pretending like nothing happened at all. They won’t send mixed signals, or treat you like a significant other and then ghost you out of the blue.

When it comes to someone who really sees himself/herself with you, someone who is genuine and interested in something real, you won’t feel clingy. Because that person’s just as much into you as you are into them.

So maybe you’ve been the girl who double-texts, the guy who leaves her morning messages. Maybe you’ve been told you’re ‘too much’ or that you should settle for less because you’re asking too much from someone too early on. Forget that. Life is too short to question yourself every damn minute of the day.

If you like someone, tell them. If you’re interested, pursue it. If you’re longing for someone’s affection, be clear about what you think and feel.

At the end of the day, you’ll only regret the lips you didn’t kiss, the chances you didn’t take, the hearts you didn’t allow yourself to intertwine with.

So stop apologizing for wanting someone’s attention, for being interested, for giving all you have. You won’t be needy for the right person because they’ll be right alongside you, sharing all they have.

You’re not needy for wanting a phone call, a text back, some sort of plan or commitment. You’re not needy for asking where you two stand or what your relationship means. You’re not needy for wanting the person you care about to be more present in your life.

And anyone who makes you feel otherwise is simply not the right one.

 

Wherever you are in the world, have a lovely day ❤

A, x (1)

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36 Comments

  1. Whoo! This is so true… it shouldn’t be a battle. Coming from a place where I felt like I only received affection when my now ex was in the mood, it was awful. I was always on edge and feeling the need to protect myself. Things are much different now in the relationship I am currently in but I still struggle sometimes. I think because I believe he is the most amazing person I have ever had in my life, and he thinks he isn’t worthy of that title. It’s all about just giving in sometimes and knowing you are purely loved and that is all that matters.

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  2. I enjoy reading your blog, and as a thank you for writing it, I’ve nominated you for The Mystery Blogger Award: memyselfandpanic.wordpress.com/2018/02/18/the-mystery-blogger-award/
    Lots of love, Katie x

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  3. You say this perfectly. When we’re loved and cared, we ffel it, we don’t obsess about the other person, we don’t get jealous, we trust easily and things are light… it’s when all this is not there that we develop a sort of OCD about the person… because we feel something(s) is missing…

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  4. You’re so right. Everyone always says that you don’t want to come across as being “desperate” or “clingy”, but life is way too short to hide our true feelings for someone else. We have to make the most of every day, even if it means having our hearts broken sometimes.

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