I’d Rather Have A Complicated Life With You, Than An Easy One Without You

Hello loves ❤

I want you.

And I don’t care if that’s messy. I don’t care if one day we’re falling headfirst into one another and the next day we’re fighting. I don’t care if one minute we’re perfect, and the next we’re reminded of our humanness. I don’t care if we argue, or believe different things about the world. I don’t care if we don’t always see eye-to-eye or aren’t always making one another blissfully happy.

I don’t care if there are a million and one reasons why our lives might be easier if we weren’t together; I’d take the most complicated, messy life with you over the one without.

I’ll take the days we cry, the days we slam our bedroom doors. I’ll take the mornings when the coffee pot isn’t running, or you take too long in the shower, or the eggs are overcooked. I’ll take the tear-stained pillows, the apologies written on napkins and passed on the table between us. I’ll take the nights we both stay up staring at the ceiling, silence speaking so damn loud.

I’ll take all the ways we won’t be perfect, all the ways we will fail and fall and question forever—because life and love were never promised to be easy. And there’s no other way I’d want to battle this world than with you by my side.

I’d rather have a complicated life with you than an easy one without. I’d rather fight, and bicker, and argue, than walk around holding hands with someone who isn’t really passionate about me, about us. I’d rather learn to look at life differently, learn to compromise, learn to let things go than link arms with someone who is so stoic, so easy, so removed when it comes to building our future.

I’d rather be with someone who makes me think, who pushes me to be better, who drives me crazy than someone who just ho-hums through this life with me.

I’d rather have all the mess that comes with really giving your heart to someone than having a ‘perfect’ love, ‘perfect’ partner, ‘perfect’ relationship. Because that perfection will inevitably fail and cease to exist. Because that perfection doesn’t even exist in the first place. Because life isn’t always going to be roses and rainbows; it’s going to be conflict and failure and pain and obstacles.

And if I’m going to spend the rest of my life with someone, I want to be with someone who will take on the storms of this life with me, who will go to war with me, who will challenge me, and who will never stop fighting for me. Because I will promise the same.

So no, I don’t want perfect. I don’t want easy. I don’t want a life, a love that looks beautiful but doesn’t make me feel. I don’t want a person who does and says all the right things, who puts me as the center of his universe, who never stands up to me when I’m wrong or question me with his own perspectives.

I’d rather have a life that’s difficult, a love that’s challenging with you, than easy without.

Because what matters to me is not how great everything is, not how we never fight or raise our voices, not how good we look to the world—but the passion we have for each other.

The way we never give up on our beautiful, complicated love.

Wherever you are in the world, have a lovely day ❤

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The Sunshine Blogger Award

Hello loves ❤

Thank you to Blair from La Vie En Rose Diaries for nominating me for The Sunshine Blogger Award. I am so grateful that you believe I deserve this award ❤ Please check out her page, I absolutely love it & I am sure you will too 🙂
The Sunshine Blogger Award

The Sunshine Blogger Award is given to those who are creative, positive, and inspiring, while spreading sunshine to the blogging community.

Rules:

• Thank the Blogger who nominated you in a blog post and link back to your blog.

• Answer the 11 Questions The Blogger asked to your blog.

• Nominate 11 new blogs to receive the award and write them 11 new questions.

• List the rules and display the Sunshine Blogger Award logo in your post or on your blog.

My Answers:

♡ What made you want to be a blogger?

  • I always loved reading others blogs, it bought me joy – So I decided that I wanted to make a blog & create a place for others to feel less alone about their journey with mental illness & some of the things I like to do to reduce my anxiety.

♡ If you had to choose one person from the past to meet, who would it be and why?

  • Oo, this one is a hard one. I may have to get back to you on that.

♡ What is the thing that makes you the most happiest?

  • Peace & Serenity – When my life is peaceful, that is when I am the happiest.

♡ What is one place you hope to visit someday?

  • Europe, Europe, Europe. I will get there one day ❤

♡ Describe yourself using only three words.

  • Caring, Generous, Appreciative.

♡ If you had to pick one song as the theme song of your life, what would it be?

  • Latch By Disclosure

♡ What’s your favorite quote that you relate to the most?

  • ‘God gives his hardest battles to his strongest soldiers’

♡ Who is your biggest inspiration in life?

  • My parents are my biggest inspiration, I adore their love & support.

♡ Are you a tea person or coffee?

  • Tea, tea, tea ❤

♡ What is your goal with blogging?

  • To create a sanctuary for others to feel less alone with their mental illness journey.

♡ What is one thing you hope to accomplish by the end of the year?

  • Be mentally & physically happy ❤

 

My Nominations:

 

My Questions:

  • What is one of you biggest achievements?
  • Where do you see yourself by the end of 2018?
  • Are you content with the life you live now?
  • Is there anything that you are working on yourself with?
  • What is you blog goal?
  • What is your favourite animal?
  • have you ever been on a holiday? If so, where?
  • Winter or Summer?
  • What is the biggest obstacle you faced & how did you overcome it?
  • Where do you see yourself 5 years from now?
  • Where do you go to relax?

 

I cannot wait to read your reply-blogs 🙂

Wherever you are in the world, have a lovely day ❤

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Scorpios Ruin Their Own Lives

Hello loves ❤

As you all know, I am a Scorpio – I am a HARSH Scorpio. If there is something that is right in life its my ZODIAC SIGN.

Below are 11 reasons how Scorpios ruin their life without even realising.

 

  1. You ruin your life when you judge yourself too harshly.

As a Scorpio, you are your own toughest critic. This leads you to much success but even greater self-inflicted pressure. The want and need to succeed becomes your single-minded focus. Sometimes you focus too much on the destination and don’t spend as much time on the journey.

 

  1. You ruin your life by burning bridges and not forgiving others.

You are one of the most loyal signs. With that loyalty, you hold others to that same standard and you don’t expect them to mess up or hurt you. Sometimes they do. No one is perfect even you who strives for perfection. But you hold grudges, burn bridges and don’t forgive people for what they’ve done even when they say sorry. It’s good to be cautious. But sometimes you’re overcautious.

 

  1. You ruin your life when you fear love and push people away.

You love harder than any sign which means you are bound to get hurt even more. And you have. Pain changes people and you’ve built a wall around your heart completely overcome with fear of letting anyone too close. But the pain you fear repeating yourself and pushing people away if you let them in you’ll realize some people’s love has the ability to heal.

 

  1. You ruin your life by reliving the past.

Scorpios tend to dwell on the past and fear the future. Failing to live in the moment and be happy. When you live in the past you build it up to be something it wasn’t. You replay memories painting them better than they were and not seeing it for what it was. That will always leave you feeling a bit empty and guilty. Learn to let go and not feel bad about it.

 

  1. You ruin your life by not trusting your instincts.

Scorpios are the most intuitive of all signs and should trust themselves more. But like everyone they have doubts. The problem arises when they turn to too many people and lose sight of what they even want.

 

  1. You ruin your life when you hide your emotions.

Because you are so emotional, you’re afraid of it sometimes. You are afraid to show that side to anyone. You fear vulnerability. You fear someone getting to know you to the core of who you are and rejecting you. And instead of showing you care you come across as difficult with sharp edges when in reality your bark is completely opposite of your bite.

 

  1. You ruin your life by allowing yourself to burn out.

You hate saying no to people. You hate letting anyone down. You stay busy and never catch a break. But sometimes you need to and most the time you deserve it. Before you spread yourself too thin remember it’s okay to say no.

 

  1. You ruin your life by being too competitive.

When it comes to others you want to be the best. And it isn’t an ego thing. It’s a you thing always striving to achieve your best. A lot of people look at it as arrogant. But you didn’t just wake up being the best you worked at it. But it’s okay when you lose sometimes. It’s okay when someone is better than you. Striving for perfection is admirable but don’t kill yourself with unrealistic expectations.

 

  1. You ruin your life by not having faith in other people.

You think you are the only one you can trust. The only one who can do something right. But if you put faith in others they will surprise you. You like having control and taking ownership of your life. But it’s okay to let go of reins a bit.

 

  1. You ruin your life by being so blunt.

You have the best intentions you just don’t know how, to be honest without it hurting people. The truth hurts and Scorpios don’t hold back or care if it’s offensive. Anyone who wants an honest opinion of a situation and good advice where someone won’t blow smoke up your ass, turn to you. But sometimes it’s okay to not always say what you’re thinking and just let people make the mistakes they are going to make.

 

  1. You ruin your life by not loving yourself better

You do really well for yourself and you work so hard. But you never give yourself credit where credit is due. You are always focusing on the next hurdle instead of celebrating in the past success. You strive for perfection because you focus too much on your flaws and the mistakes you’ve made. But if you saw yourself the way everyone else did, you’d realize how wonderful you are. You deserve to see yourself in that light.

 

^ All the above is TRUE! Its all SPOT ON! I love this. But its also a lot of things that I most certainly need to work on ❤

Wherever you are in the world, have a lovely day ❤

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