It’s Your Deepest Pain That Makes You Grow

Hello loves ❤

 

It’s the hardships that make you strong. It’s the heartbreak that makes you fearless in love. It’s the disappointments that make you wise. It’s the challenges that make you determined and it’s not getting what you want that makes you appreciate what you already have.

 

Pain is inevitable. Getting hurt is an essential part of life because that’s how we grow and that’s how we learn. That’s how we figure things out. That’s how we discover ourselves. That’s how we know who truly loves us and who is just pretending.

 

Without pain, we would be blind. Without pain, we would be sheltered. Without pain, we wouldn’t have learned how to fight life’s toughest battles.

 

And don’t get me wrong, I’m not romanticizing pain or saying it’s something beautiful. Pain is terrible and sometimes it can really disturb us and affect us in ways we can never really get over but there’s also nothing we can do about it.

 

We can’t control pain. We can’t decide that our lives will be free of pain and so we must find the silver lining. We must find the message behind our pain. We must understand how this pain will help us get to the pleasures we’re seeking eventually.

 

Because the greatest pain of all is not learning how to survive, the greatest pain is expecting to play it safe all the time and hoping the world will play it safe with us too, the greatest pain is getting injured every time someone pushes us and the greatest pain is having open wounds without knowing how to heal them.

 

And we’re here to learn, we’re here to evolve, we’re here to make mistakes and try to make things right again, we’re here to mess up so we can get our shit together, we’re here to live in contradictions and learn how to find balance. We’re here to make sense of senseless things and find order in the middle of chaos and find what makes us happy when we’re sad and what makes us shine through the darkness of it all.

 

Because life is contradicting like that, you have to fail before you succeed, you have to lose before you win, you have to doubt yourself before you learn how to love yourself and you have to accept pain if you want to find happiness.

 

And if you think about it, pain makes you more compassionate, more self-aware, more forgiving, more tolerant. It hardens your core yet softens your edges, which in my opinion, is the best way to live a healthy and balanced life.

 

If we had the option to live without pain, we’d all choose that, but we don’t have that option so we might as well choose to live with it. Choose to make it our friend instead of our enemy.
Wherever you are in the world, have a lovely day ❤

A, x (1)

20 thoughts on “It’s Your Deepest Pain That Makes You Grow

  1. Great writing! The pain always teaches us to look within ourselves especially in those vulnerable moments. If everything went smoothly in our lives, we would never discover the necessary changes we need to make within ourselves, and around us. And truly having the courage to live as the best version of ourselves in our best life. It’s a journey!

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  2. I completely agree with everything you have said and this past year has been one of my most painful in my five decades on this planet. It has also been one of the most transformative, but it is still too much of an open wound, at this point, to say the pain is worth the growth. I wonder when that will moment will change and I will feel it was worth the tears and hurt. Is there a magical time frame when the pain fades and the positive is greater than the fall? Lovely post 🙂

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  3. Excellent points, and ones I’ve been thinking about lately. Actually, yesterday I wrote a post about how brave people are when enduring and fighting hardships of all sorts, especially mental illness. Bravery is sometimes attributed to people fighting some hardships, like cancer, but not nearly as much to people fighting mental illness.

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  4. Again, another truly wonderfully inspirational post. I’m sure you have CCTV into my life as each of your recent posts feels as if it’s written just for me. Thank you once again.

    Rhys.

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