It Takes Losing What You Were Settling For To Remember What You Deserve

Hello loves, ❤

 

It takes loss to make us realize what we deserve.

 

It takes heartbreak to make us realize the kind of love we want.

And it takes falling in love with the wrong person to make us realize who’s really right for us.

 

It takes losing what we had to realize that it wasn’t what we really wanted or needed. It takes losing things to realize that we can do better. We’re destined for greater things. We’re meant to be with better people. We don’t deserve pain. We don’t deserve to suffer. We don’t deserve to settle.

 

Many things in life make us settle for things we don’t deserve. Maybe it’s loneliness, maybe it’s a lack of self-love, maybe it’s peer pressure, maybe it’s family traditions. It can be a lot of things we’re unaware of doing but we’re just conditioned to be a certain way or do certain things that we frankly don’t know why we’re doing it or who we’re trying to please.

 

Which is why losing things is the best wake-up call. It’s the beginning of you transforming your life. It’s the beginning of your self-awareness and your soul-searching journey to unlearn everything you’ve ever been told and listen to your own voice.

 

It takes losing people to find yourself.

 

We sometimes eat lies when our hearts are hungry. We believe that mediocre things are the best. We hold on to people who don’t respect us. We tell ourselves the lies we want to hear as we bury the truth because we just don’t want to live that kind of reality. We don’t want to wait another month or another year. We don’t want to start over. We focus so much on what we want that we end up forgetting what we deserve.

 

We sometimes spend our lives fighting for people who only hurt us and disappoint us. We fight for people who don’t fight for us. We fight for people who break our hearts because we think we’ll never find that feeling again or this chemistry or this vibe again. But it’s only when you fight just as hard to let go that you realize you deserve more. You deserve better. You deserve someone who doesn’t break your heart and call it love.

 

Every loss taught me what I truly deserved. Every loss reminded me that there’s something greater to be gained.

 

Wherever you are in the world, have a lovely day ❤

A, x (1)

14 thoughts on “It Takes Losing What You Were Settling For To Remember What You Deserve

  1. I know this can be applied to a number of things, but I especially relate to it in terms of relationships- as one of the only single members of my family and having gone through a serious breakup a year and a half ago. When it’s a fresh wound, you can’t see past the grief to recognize the beauty of the lesson, that God has much more in store than what you were settling for- or, in my case, who I was settling for. I wanted to say thank you for the post’s reminder and for your page as a whole! ❤︎

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  2. WOW!!! This resonated with me like you have no idea. I went through such hell towards the end of the relationship I had with my ex-fiance, that he didn’t care if I killed myself, heck… he kept pouring more wine, knowing I was taking sleeping pills all the time. He wouldn’t have shed a tear if I died.
    Talk about not being with the right person huh?
    Since then, yes, my life changed drastically. But, by the grace of God… I’m alive and fairly happy again.
    Great writing!

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