A Simple Mindset Shift To Calm Anxious Thoughts

Do you ever get a sudden knot in your stomach for seemingly no reason and your mind starts to focus on all of the negative things that it possibly can? That is exactly what it feels like when I’m anxious.

 

Despite being a generally go-with-the flow, calm and collected type of person on the outside, I get anxious quite often. I get anxious because my own mind starts to sabotage me. I get anxious when I start to feel like I’m not in control. I get anxious when I can’t tell what a person thinks of me even though I know I shouldn’t care.

 

If you often feel anxious or find yourself overcome with worry, try this simple mindset shift to help you feel a little calmer.

 

I don’t know about you, but anxiety hits me right in the stomach & I tend to get VERY lightheaded. I get a giant knot that feels like an anchor weighing me down. I can just be going about my business at work, feeling pretty content with life, and then all of a sudden a negative thought creeps into my head and BAM – there’s that knot.

 

Isn’t it funny how things that happen in the mind can show up as physical feelings?

 

And as soon as this anxiety creeps in, it consumes you. I usually have a million thoughts going on in my head, but when I’m anxious, I become so single-minded. I can’t be productive. All I can do is dwell on the issue and watch as the time slowly creeps by.

 

There was a time when I let this happen for months until I finally reached a point where I was tired of having my day disrupted by these ultimately useless feelings. I wanted to get to get to the root of the problem or at least find a way to deal with my feelings more productively.

 

In an attempt to calm myself down, I started keeping a log of my emotions throughout the day.

 

I wanted to see if certain times of the day were worse for any particular reason and if something was causing these feelings that I hadn’t noticed before. Here’s a sneak peak of what went down one day:

 

9:30am  – Feeling content

11:30am  – Feeling anxious

1:00pm – Feeling on top of the world

3:30pm –  Feeling anxious

 

As soon as I started logging my feelings, I became profoundly aware of one thing:

 

THESE FEELINGS COME AND GO.

 

I was feeling content at one point in time, then a wave of dread came rolling in. Just as quickly as it came, it went away. The fact that I could clearly see that this wasn’t a permanent state was huge for me.

 

Often when I’m anxious, it’s because I’m thinking too far ahead in the future. I’m assuming that whatever situation I’m in right now is going to last forever. There’s this air of urgency. Like everything needs to be figured out right now.

 

Sometimes I have to remind myself that emotions, thoughts, and situations aren’t permanent. When I actually let this sink in, I realized that even if I experience anxiety in the future (which was undoubtedly going to happen), it wouldn’t be a permanent thing.

 

I began to feel free knowing that this feeling wasn’t going to stay with me forever.

 

TRY THIS MINDSET SHIFT:

 

The next time you’re feeling anxious, try to remember that you don’t have to do anything about your feelings and/or negative thoughts. You don’t actually have to fight anything or make it go away. Simply recognize this feeling as nothing more than a feeling and that you don’t have to attach any meaning to it. Trust that it will eventually quiet itself.

 

Now, this mindset shift isn’t going to solve your problems or help you overcome anxiety for good, but it might make your next anxious experience easier to handle.

 

Because I know it can be extremely difficult to shift your mindset when all you want to do is react, I have a suggestion for making this process a little simpler.

 

Keep a log of your feelings + thoughts

 

The next time you’re feeling anxious, worried, or uncertain, I encourage you to keep a log of your feelings and thoughts. Before you start attacking yourself or another person, write down what you’re feeling and why you think you’re feeling this way. Don’t go into it thinking you need to solve your problem or feel better about the situation. Just treat it as an experiment.

 

Write down or ask yourself the following questions:

 

  • How might I be causing myself to suffer?
  • Which thoughts do I know to be true?
  • What information might I be missing or overlooking?
  • What am I assuming?
  • What is my intuition telling me?
  • Will this matter tomorrow? In a year?

 

I also encourage you to write down or take note of those moments when you do feel content. Those moments are really precious, yet often go unnoticed because our brains are hardwired to remember negative experiences.

 

The next time your anxious mind wants to take control, try this technique and see what happens. I’m curious to know if it works for you like it worked for me!
Wherever you are in the world, have a lovely day ❤

25 thoughts on “A Simple Mindset Shift To Calm Anxious Thoughts

  1. Thanks for this. I have an anxiety condition and it’s nice to be reminded that I’m not the only one that experiences these patterns of thoughts that make me distressed and anxious. I have started to remind myself that when I feel a certain way it will pass, and it is never permanent and so I’m glad you’re sharing that message too. I suppose in the moment it’s so hard to step back from strong thoughts and feelings without judgement – I often start to self-loathe and it triggers my depression.

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  2. Thank you for the advice and your own personal insight. I used to have panic attacks constantly, but now I can sense them coming on, focus on by breathing and calm myself. I try to wake up every morning and meditate because it’s a calming way to start my day.

    I’ve noticed (particularly lately) that so many people suffer from anxiety. Just recently, people are more willing to talk about it and it comes in so many degrees.

    I’ve been practicing the whole “are these thoughts true?” And most of the time they’re not. Sometimes, my brain spirals out of control and I end up feeling like I’m in such a dark space that I can’t seem to get myself out of it. But recognizing these thoughts and almost analyzing helps to realize, like you said, they come and go.

    Sorry for the long lost, but it was for a great post. 😊

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    1. You are more than welcome 🙂

      Its great that you know what triggers you ❤

      I love wordpress bc its a platform that I feel I don't get judged & everyone is so supportive, I feel that I don;y have to hide anymore.

      99% of the things we think aren't even true 🙂

      Don't ever apologise for a long post – I love reading them ❤

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  3. I need this! 💕 Thank you so much! Suffering from anxiety myself I find myself always getting anxious about the future. You are right that it are just feelings and when feel extremely anxious we think we feel this way forever but then the feeling goes away.

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  4. Thank you for sharing this! Trying to live a normal life with anxiety and or stress can be challenging and well frustrating! It is truly amazing what we can learn to deal with in life and the strength we all have, that is sometimes hidden. I have been battling Multiple Sclerosis for 16 years now and it has had its ups and downs, but I try to hold on to my positive attitude. Personally, I deal with a lot of anxiety and pain. I started my blog 2 months ago and it has been a great experience. I have been able to communicate with so many wonderful and amazing people that really understand what I go through. I have set a goal for myself that I will achieve because I am stubborn and determined. I am going to one post every day for at least one month! I hope if you choose to follow my blog, you will enjoy! I look forward to reading more of your posts! Take care!!

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    1. Thank you for your comment ❤

      I am so happy to hear you have found positive moments within your battle.

      Blogging is a great way to connect with people & also people to connect with you ❤

      I will most certainly follow your blog ❤

      I am very excited to read your blog posts ❤

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      1. Thank you so much! I really do try to be positive. I think it is the best way to live. We all have terrible struggles but it is how we deal with it that matters. I hope you enjoy my blog. And yes, blogging has been a great outlet for me!! I hope you have a great evening! Take Care!!

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