Cool your Anger

Below are some pointers on cooling your anger + ways to go about really calming our emotions when we are angry,

When You’re Arguing

  • Make it a priority to respond kindly/respectfully
  • Focus on breathing slowly + deeply
  • Politely excuse yourself from the area/room, get some space
  • Accept that you won’t get through to someone and inwardly wish them peace
  • Ask yourself if this is worth the energy
  • Notice you are angry, imagine yourself feeling forgiving
  • Put yourself in the other person’s shoes
  • breathe when you want to yell or raise your voice
  • Emulate how you think someone peaceful would respond

When You’re On Edge

  • Spray a calming smell
  • Pet an animal
  • Watch/Listen to a comedy
  • Go for a walk/run
  • Take a nap
  • Eat a delicious meal
  • Spend time in nature
  • Allow yourself to laugh
  • Make a joke or read one
  • Close your eyes, focus on being quiet
  • Write down your anger
  • Pop balloons or water balloons
  • Go out with your friends
  • Go see a movie
  • Play on a playground
  • Take a warm bath with epsom salts
  • Plant flowers
  • Listening to relaxing sounds
  • Colour in

When You’re Fed Up

  • Do what you can to fix the problem
  • Accept that’s all you can do
  • Vent to a friend
  • Have a good cry privately
  • Cry to a friend
  • Punch pillows
  • Get to the gym
  • Give your self some time out
  • Turn off your phone
  • Speak with someone in your life that is a positive influence

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16 thoughts on “Cool your Anger

      1. For me I always thought it was because it is easier to show anger than it is to show people you are being anxious. I learned anger is a secondary emotion to mask what you truly feel. So I guess it is partially learned behavior and in some way seems easier to deal with than the root emotion.

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  1. I find baking very therapeutic when on edge. You get to kneed (punch) dough, cut (mash) butter in with dry ingredients, and/or roll out (smush with a rolling pin) the dough. Gets all the aggression out.

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