The Best Apology

For me, it is very hard to apologize (as I always think I am right… ALL the time) I know this is something I need to work on.

Below are some teachings that I am trying to put into practice w/ my life & would like to share them.

I hope they help you as much as I want them to help me ❤

Don’t apologize for someone else’s feelings: ‘I’m sorry you’re mad’ isn’t an apology. It’s condescending.

Do apologize for your own actions & attitudes: ‘I’m sorry I was rude’ is an apology that takes ownership. Be specific about what you did wrong. ‘I’m sorry for whatever made you mad’ is NOT going to work.

Don’t add an excuse to your apology: ‘I’m sorry I was rude, but I was really annoyed’ means you’re not really sorry. You feel justified for the way you acted and you expect to be excused.

Do ask for forgiveness when you apologize: ‘I’m sorry’ on it’s own, is just a statement. It requires no response. Will you forgive me?’ is a humble request that can rebuild a relationship. When you ask your spouse to forgive you, wait, listen, be prepared for them to say in response ‘I need a minute, I’m not there right now’ . When  you are in the wrong, you are never owed forgiveness. Be grateful when you receive it.

Don’t expect a reciprocal apology: Let’s say you were in a fight. You were both rude & hostile to each other & now you’ve decided to be the brave one & apologize first. Do not apologize expecting your spouse to apologize equally. When you recognize you have done something wrong, just own your part of it. The end.

Do attempt to make a repair: Once you get through the brutal, ‘I’m sorry, will you forgive me?’ it’s wise to make the next step & ask, ‘is there anything I can do to make it right?’

A, x (1)

Melbourne, Day 2.

I woke up pretty early on Saturday morning, I wanted shower, wash my hair & do my make up ) bc I take forever to get ready) & I also wanted to feel fresh for the day.

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It was 1 degree, so I had to rug up so much, I am used to Sydney cold & Melbourne cold is VERRRY different, I swear its not the same.

We went to Soul Cafe for breakfast, I had a white egg omelette w/ mushroom, capsicum, spinach & feta and of course, a hot chocolate.

We than toured around for a bit & went to St Francis Church, I lit a candle for J & I + prayed for us 🙂

The church was absolutely amazing – I was left speechless (I have a big thing for churches)

My time within the church was short yet, I still spent the time thanking god for my blessings as well as praying for J & I (as mentioned)

 

We than made our way to the Queen Victoria Market, whereby we purchased some waffles & chips on a stick.

The market was huge, it took us a fair while to get around it – it sort of reminded me like some of the markets we have here.

The market was based out in the open & I really enjoyed the air that Melbourne has (weird, I know) but it’s different to Sydney, it was more fresh & crisp.

From The Queen Victoria Market, we headed to the Observation Wheel, it was really amazing, that’s all I have to say.

It took 30 mins to do one round of the observation wheel, it went at 1km an hour, it was so slow yet worth every cent. I absolutely loved this (bc I am a sucker for views). It was a very beautiful we got of Melbourne. (reminds me of Sydney a little) just big, big buildings everywhere.

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Afterwards, we went out to dinner at a pizza + pasta place called The Groove – I had the best spaghetti bolognese – it was delicious, they gave me so much but I could eat it any more so they packed it for me to take home.

Later on in the night when we got home, we watched some movies & did face masks & relaxed.

Day 2 was full of adventure & tourist-like tings which I really enjoyed.

I know for a fact I would def do the Observation Wheel again, that was amazing.

What I loved was putting a back pack on my back w/ all the essentials inside & stepping out for the day & being a tourist. (This is really what I want to do in Europe, just pop a back pack on & off I go)

Stay tuned for Day 3.

 

A, x (1)

It Took 15 Days (13,000 Views)

I have to admit I have dropped off the face of the Earth a little, not uploading blogs as much & I am sorry for that – I took some time away to re-gather my thoughts & where I want to be etc.

I apologise to all my lovely followers – I also thank those that have been checking on me to see if I am okay (Going from posting 1-3 times a day ot nothing, some people got concerned)

That makes me feel very lovely – thank you from the bottom of my heart.

We have reached 13,000 views – I couldn’t be more grateful – there are so many great things that I have lined up for my blogs over the upcoming weeks.

I am about to start a 21 Day Self Care Challenge, I am actually verrry excited to share this with you all & hope that you benefit from this.

I am doing this challenge myself also, so I’ll be able to give my thoughts on everything also, I’ll be able to do my own review on it at the end too.

I pray you do the challenge too ❤

I am going to start getting a lot more personal in regards to my anxiety (why hide it?) I am sick of hiding behind a smile & am going to talk more openly about it as well as coping strategies that I have learnt along the way.

Where ever you are in the world, have a lovely day 🙂

A, x (1)

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Melbourne, Day 1.

The time has finally come where I can talk about Melbourne, yes I know it is quite delayed but I have to admit, I’ve been quite busy since getting back to Sydney.

Melbourne was such an amazing experience, & by all means it is no where near done, there is so much to see that I have not seen yet (I feel like Melbourne will be a place I go back to MANY times)

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I will break these blogs into 3, so I’ll blog day per day so the blogs aren’t cluttered with too much info nor photos.

Day 1

The alarm went off at 3:00am & oh my, did I want to go

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back to sleep, BUT I couldn’t bc I had to go get Rach + get to the airport for a 6:00am flight. I got ready, packed the car w/ my suitcase (how cute is my bag tag J got for me).

I got to Rach’s house @ 3:30ish & we set off to the airport.

We checked in & were ready to have some breakfast.

Macca’s, it was! What better way to devour some Macca’s before a flight (I must say though, it was DELICIOUS) Maybe bc I was hungry, it just tasted amazing!

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When boarding the plane, the anxiety kicked in – I was a bit anxious but kept it together, thank god.

I was really looking forward to seeing the sunrise on our flight – I was really looking forward to that.

The sunrise left me speechless, it was honestly the most amazing thing I ever saw!

It was so beautiful – I have seen sunrises in many places around Sydney but I haven’t

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seen it in the air & my lord, it was BEAUTIFUL.

Upon landing, (it was a bumpy one) we caught the bus into Melbourne CBD & checked in 🙂

We than caught a train to Chadstone, Melbourne trains look amazing compared to Sydney ones AND… you have to press the button on the door to open the door (well we didn’t know that & thought we just had to wait for the next train)

When arriving at Chadstone, I was GOBSMACKED this shopping centre was AAAAMAZING! I was speechless, I have never seen a shopping centre like it.

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We went to Louis Vuitton (standard) & other stores (I even bought J a gift whilst we were here), we shopped lots, spent most of the day here.

We had lunch in a cute little cafe, was the cutest thing ever, even sat on a little swingy chair.

When we left, we walked all the way back to the station about a km walk than headed back to Melbourne CBD, we stopped to buy munchies for the night.

I have to admit, I was WRECKED! absolutely wrecked, being up at 3am really took it out of me.

I started dozing off at about 7:00pm (the worst), we ordered pizza for dinner, & had a movie night which was really fun, i really enjoyed myself just being able to relax & rest.

Day 1 was amazing, relaxing, & good to just arrive in Melbourne, shop a little & relax.

Stay tuned for day 2.

A, x (1)