1. Don’t wait for an apology.
There will be times you’ll need to forgive in spite of a weak apology & there will be other times that an apology isn’t offered. Choose to forgive because it benefits you.
2. Practice giving the benefit of the doubt.
Start with the belief that your spouse/friend/acquaintance had good intentions or at least that they did not intend to hurt you.
3. Be clear & kind about why you are hurt.
When you are truly hurt, you deserve the chance to be heard. But avoid blaming & criticizing language when you explain yourself.
4. Remember you are on the same team,
Forgiveness can be a win-win situation. Stay out of the trap of being at odds w/ your spouse/friend/acquaintance
5. Accept an apology when its offered.
You may need some time to internalize it, s don’t pressure yourself into acting like you are over it before you are. Forgive, but ask for some time to process our feelings if you need it.
6. Don’t dig up buried offences.
Nothing prevents healing like bringing up old wounds and remind your spouse/friend/acquaintance that you have not forgotten certain things. A good forgiver leave the past in the past.
7. Consider extending your own olive branch.
Even if you’re still feeling the sting to their offence, doing something nice for your spouse/friend/acquaintance can bridge the chasm between you just enough to help them know they are forgiven.