Why I Quit Social Media & Should I Go Back?

Here I am thinking out loud about social media.

*OPEN TO SUGGESTIONS*

Here I go:

Why I quite social media & should I go back?

^ This is a tough one!

I am going to break this blog into two sections – one half being why I quit social media & the other half being if I should go back?

Why I quit social media?

Was never really a fan of Facebook, so I didn’t have that.

Was never really a fan of Twitter, because I didn’t know how to use it.

I was a fan of Snapchat, but now I don’t even bother to go onto that.

Big fan of Pinterest, this is more for inspiration, not for personal use.

My weakness was INSTAGRAM! Instagram became my life – what was once a hobby literally took over my whole life.

I had to make sure my posts were Instagram-worthy, I put too much effort into them, I was posting for likes, I felt I constantly needed to post ALL the time.

I took the same photo 328587 times just to get the ‘right’ one… But what even ‘IS’ the right one?!?!?!?!

Constantly trying to impress people… All the time, without fail.

I become obsessed w/ looking at other peoples lives, I become obsessed w/ certain people on Instagram & would constantly look at their page, envy their life than hate my own life.

I was constantly wanting to look like them, wanting the life they had, have the makeup products they have, have the same healthy lifestyle as them, showcase the same content as them, want the same amount of followers as them.

This did nothing but have a negative effect on my life… I had A LOT of self doubt, I doubted myself thinking I wasn’t pretty enough, I wasn’t skinny enough, I didn’t eat what ‘those’ people ate, I didn’t even go to the gym enough, I didn’t own the things ‘those’ girls own.

My self image issues increased dramatically where I would not like the way I looked even more than what I already did.

It got to a point where I felt depressed & anxious, I was constantly sad w/ the life that I was living & wanted to be like someone else.

THAN IT HIT ME… 

God has given me this body, this life for a reason, I need to learn to love myself & love the skin & body I am in.

Just like me, these people are posting the things they want you to see! You don’t see their ‘downs’ you only see their ups! They are broadcasting this lifestyle on social media to showcase that they have a ‘great life’ but we all are battling our own war & that is what made me realize that I am just like them & they are just like me.

I chose to deactivate my Instagram – I thought it was the best decision to do as I am going to start learning to love myself & I don’t need my focus off guard – I have a vision & I will get there & Instagram was just a distraction.

Instagram was a distraction to my journey & getting rid of it really helped me w/ transitioning for my self-love journey.

I have not had Instagram since October 2016 & boy has my life improved – I have stopped comparing myself, I have started to love myself, I have started to be happy w/ the life that I have been blessed with. I have stopped ‘following the herd’ I have started to appreciate the skin I am in.

I am not saying life is perfect – as I am on this journey & it does not happen over night… BUT, I am happy to say that I am working on this & I have seen a change.

Do I go back? 

Now the big questions, do I go back?

Am I ready to go back?

I am not sure if I am ready to go back just yet, I don’t think I am mentally strong to go back, I am scared I will buckle & go into my old ways of comparing myself & falling into that negative state of mind.

I don’t think I want a personal account, I think Discovering Your Happiness deserves several platforms of social media.

I am thinking Facebook & Instagram for my website but than yet again, I will only be posting edited, filtered things I want people to see.

Discovering Your Happiness only has a WordPress account, but I feel that things are improving on here & this blogging journey is amazing so I feel that I should branch out onto other platforms.

If I go back, I want to have no filter, I want to go in unedited & raw photos – portraying that THIS IS MY LIFE & THIS IS NOT A SHOW & THIS IS ME!

As you can tell by this blog, I am confused w/ what way is the best way.

I am open to ideas, I am open to other’s opinions & advice on what I should do here – I just don’t want to find myself constantly wanting to post & people-please (if you know what I mean) Comment below your thoughts ๐Ÿ™‚

86 thoughts on “Why I Quit Social Media & Should I Go Back?

  1. I know what you mean. I don’t want to go back to FB either. It’s too invasive, depersonalizing, and time-consuming. But…. it does require contemplation. Good luck on the choice you make.

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  2. For lent this year I decided to fast from it. Went back, and a bunch of disadvantages hit me on my return. I actually wrote a blog about it and published it today. It’s crazy how much of an impact social media has on our life.

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  3. Is funny that I read this just after writing my own post on how I feel about social media (still to publish). I have a massive love-hate relationship with it. I can find it makes my anxiety/depression worse especially Facebook nowadays with all its arguing and sharing of bad news. I do like having it though (have Facebook and Instagram, Twitter too though don’t really use it) as most of my friends live all over the country/world and it makes it easier to keep in contact with them. Plus have made lots of supportive friends over on Instagram. Can’t quite decide what to do….

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      1. Have just posted it…had my mum staying so kept getting distracted! I wish I knew what my heart was saying, been contemplating it all for some time too and still am none the wiser ๐Ÿ˜

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  4. Hey ๐Ÿ™‚ I think that you have answered your own question when you said that you do not think you are mentally strong enough yet. From my own views, I would not place the added pressure onto my already not stable frame of mind. I also came off of social media, Facebook, a few months ago. It has been a huge step in the right direction for my own mental health recovery. I miss Facebook. But why? Addiction? Loneliness? Companionship? I don’t know that answer yet. I have decided to not make any more decisions that I am unsure of until I have healed. This is somewhat difficult for me as I struggle with managing impulsivity! Ah it’s a learning curve. I’m just glad that for now, I am on that learning curve. If you decide to go back to it, I wish you good luck and strength. ๐Ÿ™‚

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    1. I really like your response – I really, really do. Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts. Good on you for deleting your social media accounts, I am very proud of you. takes courage to do that ๐Ÿ™‚ We are all on a learning journey, everyone at their own pace. Thank you so much – I know what I need to do to make this a smooth journey.

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  5. Great post! I totally agree in that social media is really all about what people WANT you to see. Not many are willing to show their downs but only their ups! I love your honesty in this blog.

    I actually just joined Instagram less than a week ago! It is really new to me but I am so amazed at the whole thing although I am also trying to not spend too much time on it. I mean, in the end… does it really matter, what you post and and how many likes you get and how many people are following you??

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    1. Thank you for your kind words ๐Ÿ™‚ Yes, I have now learnt that – it’s all a show. I wanted to be honest about the way I feel on all my blogs, I like to speak from the heart & not sugar coat things. Welcome to the instagram world, how are you liking it so far? Yeah, I understand, all those things were an issue to me – thats what I was posting for… the likes, the follows etc – I just needed to get away from that. But, now I think, am I ready for all this again?

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      1. Indeed, I am not a fan of sugar coating either. I appreciate honesty. I am liking the instagram world so far, although there is so much out there! I am trying to limit myself on it and not waste too much time on it because you really can get lost in it. I would suggest if you were to go back, go with a fresh mind, limit yourself in terms of time spent and most importantly, try not to care about what others think. Post and caption for yourself and do what makes YOU happy! – Sunny

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      2. Hi5 to no sugar coating ๐Ÿ™‚ I am happy that we think alike ๐Ÿ™‚ Yeah, if I go back, I don’t want to time-waste. I am just scared I’ll be on there ALL the time! yeah, I would def need to limit myself. Yeah, I will def need to post only for myself & post what makes me happy ๐Ÿ™‚

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  6. I’ve had the same issue with social media, where I go off for a few days, weeks or even months. I always feel better about how much time I’ve gained to read or go to bed on time. I recently did another 3 day cleanse from social media and when I went back I had a feeling of being overwhelmed, anxious, and I couldn’t focus. So with that said, what’s helped me is putting a limit, I’m only allowed to make one post, and I can’t check the post for likes or scroll my newsfeed, or I put a time limit, or after certain times I don’t allow myself to check my accounts, or can only check social media during certain times in the day. Because what I’ve realized is that without social media I miss out on a lot of moments to share with my family and friends and I miss out on their moments too, so it does help to stay connected but I try to keep it at bay, especially when I’m having moments of self doubt. Hope this helps!

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    1. I’m glad I am not alone Karina ๐ŸŒท I am so happy w/ the person I’ve become bc of no social media, like you I spent more time sleeping, more time appreciating the people in my life, more ‘me-time’ Do you only make one post a day, week, or month? Yeah, I feel that I miss out on heaps but than the other side of my brain is saying… you’re missing out on the things people want to share. Your post has really helped me put things into perspective that when & if I do go back, I must set my self boundaries or I’ll go off the scale like last time & this will create self doubt all over again. Thank youuuuuuuu โค๏ธ

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  7. After a while of being on Snapchat I noticed how toxic it was getting for me personally. Leaving it was the best plan for my personal mental health and so my insecurities didn’t get fed. At first I felt like a junkie off their high and my mind kept going back to wanting to use it but with time I realized it wasn’t a necessary fixture in my life. Currently after some problems in my life I decided to do a Facebook break, same things are happening. I still feel the need to look at others pages and still feel the need to check it. But as of right now I feel that I control t better by having deleted my fb from my phone and other readily available technology. Sometimes I feel lonely without it but then I remind myself that in order to be compassionate to myself I have to respect my own privacy and respect the hard stuff I’ve been through by not making myself feel worse and not feeding into the doubts and insecurities my mind already creates. I feel more content being still so to speak because it’s an opportunity to love myself more. However I believe that if you want to branch out and move forward with your blog you should ask yourself if it’s to get you attention or to just spread the joy in what you do. Also if you believe that your blog is timely and insightful, in other words, will it impact people In positive and meaningful ways? Will it make change? If the answers are yes and even if the answer is maybe I believe that you should use YOUR voice to inspire others just as you are now by sharing who you REALLY are

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    1. I LOVE THIS COMMENT! Bless your soul for taking the time to write this to me, thank you so much. I can most certainly relate to you in regards to constantly checking people’s pages, that’s all I ever did. I stare @ photos & start hating my own life. I need to distinguish the two questions that you’ve asked & answer them realistically… Why is it truly that I want social media back? As I’ve mentioned in a few comments back to people, it’s more just sharing Live Photos of what I’m doing w/ my blog, where I’m going & what I’ll upload to my blog, sharing w/ you all what great content is coming so you are all aware before it goes up, so you look forward to seeing it. I don’t want to let social media get the better of me, I feel like it would be a good platform to get across. Than the question is, do I just do instagram? Do I just do facebook? Do I do both? ๐Ÿ˜ฎ #thestruggleisreal / thanks for your help though, I’ve walked away w/ some great insights & questions to answer. โค๏ธ

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  8. I loved this!!!! I am the same way with instagram, I love it but also find myself doing the same things you struggled with. I love the idea of a social media platform for discovering your happiness!!! I feel like you could reach out to so many people not just on WordPress ๐Ÿ™‚ great article!

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    1. Thank you for taking the time to comment ๐Ÿ™‚ I appreciate that. Ahh, its nice to know I am not alone w/ this social media battle. Oo, thanks for your kind words. I really want to show like what I get up to ‘live’ as well as share upcoming content etc – thats where my head is at for the purpose of social media. I am in the process of deciding, keep up to date to see what I decide ๐Ÿ™‚

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  9. I love this post, by the way. What I have to say is this:
    If you were able to realize what social media truly is, which is people only broadcasting the life they WANT you to see, and that it is detrimental to yourself. . . I doubt you’ll ever fall back into the state you were in as intensely as you did. If you start social media again, I think this time you’ll be armed with the power of your knowledge, and you’ll be able to recognize when you need to take a step back. I do think that starting back as having a general blog account is the best way to go, as it would be mostly promotional. But if you feel you have to impress other people, you don’t. I think social media was truly created so you could capture all the fun memories and moments you had with yourself and close friends. It is a representation of you, or your blog, if you decide to make a blog account.
    I love your blog! It’s fantastic. I love what you’re trying to do, and that you’re promoting self care, and awareness of yourself. Thanks for the follow!

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    1. I love your comment – thank you for taking the time to write it. Thats true, I now have the knowledge to know what social media is all about – so maybe I won’t fall back into the trap after all. I used to use social media as a hobby, I used to post all the fun times, than all I started posting was photography photos, sunsets etc & also flat lays. My Instagram lost a sense of meaning of ‘me’ I deleted all the photos of me & went to scenery photos & flay lays. Thank you for your kind words, they mean alot – I think to hear how my blog makes others feel. โค Stay tuned to see how I go w/ social media.

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  10. Totally feeling you here. Instagram has been my addiction too, though I didn’t get so far into neglecting myself, but I also felt urge for popularity and adjusting images to fit in. My solution has been to do digital detox, that is one day a week offline. I do it on Sundays. It started as a day without social media, and now it has become totally offline. I share some insights on my blog if you wish to read more. I love this solution as it gives me balance. I got off my addiction and have a relaxed feeling around if that’s why I keep it))

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      1. I can imagine your fear. If the addiction was strong, you are surely very careful around that thing now. Maybe, after a period of time you could try again and see if you can keep a more balanced relation with it – that would be interesting experiment. I believe, there’s nothing wrong with a wish to fit it, we are all social animals. As we get better connected to ourselves, we can find that balance. Wish you all the best on this journey!

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      2. Yeah, maybe I could try again when I feel ready – bc I am thinking that I am no where near ready if I keep contemplating the decision. I think when I am ready & the time is right, I will make the correct decision & what is best for me. Thank you for your warm wishes.

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      3. You will certainly know what is best for you as long as you listen to yourself. Besides, IG and social media is not like greens and exercise, that your body really needs, you can live long and happily without it ๐Ÿ™‚

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      4. And be gentle to yourself. It is hard to stop yourself in a thing that you’ve been doing for a while. So you can follow any herd as long as you are conscious about it ๐Ÿ™‚ Great example of surviving with no IG ๐Ÿ™‚

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      5. You are mostly welcome ๐Ÿ™‚ kindness to others and kindness to myself go hand in hand, so being kind is beneficial for me too ๐Ÿ™‚ we are growing more conscious together, I feel there are major changes in our collective soul ๐Ÿ™‚

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  11. I had the exact same experience with social media and it still is a constant struggle to differentiate reality and the distorted reality it can create. I also deactivated my Instagram and Facebook for awhile, but have recently activated them again. Many of my insecurities still exist when I spend too much time on social media, but the social media “vacation” definitely helped me deal with it better.

    My account is now private and I only accept friend requests from people I personally know that way I have somewhat of a control of who sees my posts. I believe that the content that shows up on the Instagram Explore page is based on the pictures you like so as long as you like posts that you want to see more of it will show up. It is nice to know that I am not alone in this love/hate relationship with social media ๐Ÿ™‚

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    1. Thank you for taking the time to comment & share your journey w/ me ๐Ÿ™‚ I am happy that the ‘vacation’ made you feel better! I like the idea of only accepting people that you know – than your mind doesn’t go off track & you end up on your best friend, friends, mates, girlfriends page. hating your life! I just really need to figure out what is best for me at this stage! Is it better to go back? or should I just stay far away?

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      1. You could always go back and if the issues still persist you could always just deactivate again, but maybe you could limit your usage if you do decide to go back? A benefit to using social media like Instagram and Facebook is that you can broaden your audience, but you seem to already have a supportive audience here. Either way, keep up the great work ๐Ÿ™‚ !!

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      2. That’s true! I could always just throw myself in the deep end & if I can’t swim, just deactivate ๐Ÿ™‚ Yeah, I could limit the usage also – I just want to use it for the right purposes. Aw, thank you very much – my followers are amazing, all of them! Thank you for your kind words โค

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  12. This is such a timely post. I do feel myself having a similar problems at a time. I think it depends on the kind of person you are. For me, when I start worrying too much, I just leave what I posted as a sort of challenge for myself. If life’s better without it then by all means, avoid it.

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    1. I am happy that I am not alone w/ this battle! I feel ya there, sister! I am not really social-media-addicted but I am thinking for more my blog – if I want to start moving forward & upward within the blogging world, I feel that I will need to use social media to market for my blog. Yeah, I feel that I am def within two mindsets hence why I didn’t make a decision. I think I need to challenge myself why I am feeling this way. Life has become better without it, mentally & emotionally – so maybe I have just answered it myself.

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  13. This was me as well. I deleted all. Pure distraction. You can socially connect with people in person and through your blog.
    Hello, my name is Bella Grace. I am a single mother and minister. 15 years ago, I was pronounced dead after being stabbed by my then ex-boyfriend. What’s your name? Lol…
    I’m old school and like it better. I also had my posts posting to my Facebook page but it was not generating anyone. With so much tagging and following, I began to lose focus as to why I am doing what I am doing. So now, I just have my blog and I post as the Lord leads me to and that is what brings me joy. Not forcing anyone, just peaceful.
    Just wall through it and if you can see why you need to continue down the road you are on, then do so. If not, then do so. Move according to your spirit.

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    1. I love what you have to say Bella, this is very eye opening – if I do go back, what am I really achieving? Am I just following the herd? Thats true, I think I now need to figure out WHY i need it & why I THINK I need it. And, once I get it – what is it going to do for me?

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      1. Exactly! Sometimes, we say well, I’m going to put this here because “you never know who’s reading” but it’s not about who’s reading or watching or listening. It’s about being who God created you to be. For me, I focus on the assignment God has given me to do. Many don’t want what I have because what I have isn’t the majority or what’s trending. So for me, I obey God’s direction and leave it be. It’s just like planting a seed. I say keep going with your blog posts. After a while, social media will be extinct and then what…
        Keep blogging and get out and share with others who you are. Notice I didn’t say what you do. But share with others who you are, and connections will begin to transpire and you will connect with the right ones and begin to prosper. Don’t go backwards. Hold on. Encourage yourself. Be still. And soon, soon you will see your work manifest into greater results.

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      2. That is an amazing comment – I will def take this on board. I agree w/ you in that sense – I am not posting what is trending, I just post what comes to mind. That’s true – after social media, than what? Yessssss! I did notice what you said there. (Good work!) Thank you for the most amazing advice ever! You kind words do not go unnoticed. โค

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  14. It’s so weird you posted this tonight because I had this written to post on my Facebook status but decided to blog about it instead…

    I look at all the profile pics and cover photos and photo albums and I wonder who airbrushes or photoshops. I know everyone looks for the best pic of themselves. I just took a “real” selfie and for a minute thought about making it my profile pic – but then what would you all think of me……

    I say go back for discovering your happiness but not personally. I know for me Facebook does nothing but make me feel worse about myself

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    1. Great minds think alike ๐Ÿ™‚ Hi5 sister! Yeah, I am a big worrier of ‘what will people think of me!’ I say do it though, embrace your natural self ๐Ÿ™‚ Thanks for the advice – maybe I will go back for Discovering Your Happiness – & just post about upcoming content etc.

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    1. If life is better without social media, then avoid it altogether. There’s not much to gain from going back. There’s this idea that permeates society which says that you don’t exist unless you’re on social media. Then people leave it and become happier. I’d only go back reluctantly for things like promotion, but blogging is a representation of you, who cares what other people think?

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      1. This is a very true statement. I think maybe I am missing it, I am not involved w/ the rest of the world, I feel as though maybe I am missing out on something. I will take this advice on board – maybe I will go back for blogging purposes & only follow other bloggers.

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