Negative emotions can spiral – if you want to stop letting yourself sink down into bad feelings, you can train yourself to let the light in.
You can learn to find the bright side & stay positive, avoiding negativity in your life, & going about the process of improving yourself for the better.
Part 2/3: Avoiding Negativity
Identify your negative triggers:
What puts you in a dark mood? What makes you feel bad? Identify the things that make you spiral into a negative state of mind, so you can plan how to attack those triggers and get rid of them from your life. Do you get angry or upset at a particular time of day? When a particular event happens? What makes you angry? Being aware of this will help you be more alert & you’ll be able to control the situation more.
Only keep supportive friends:
If someone in your life doesn’t contribute to your mental well-being, they don’t have a place in your life. Spend time with those who uplift you, encourage you, motivate you – they spend their time being positive towards you & not put you down. Those are the sort of people you need in your life. These people will bring nothing but positivity into your life. (J def has a very big positive effect on me, he most certainly uplifts me when I am at my worst & for that, I am forever grateful)
Give less weight to what other people have to say:
if you feel good about something, let yourself feel good about it. If you don’t care about something, don’t let yourself be swayed by the opinions on others. Listen to your own heart & mind & pay less attention to what other people have to say about you or your business.
Stop comparing yourself to others:
Competition can bring out a lot of negativity in people. Avoid situations that force you to compare yourself or your skills to the skills of others. Be grateful for how you look & where you are at in life. It is good to look up to people & use them as motivation but as soon as you start envy-ing them, comparing or getting jealous – that should raise RED FLAGS! These situations breed bad feelings, resentment & anxiety. If you want to keep a positive mindset, avoid any situation that will force you to compare or compete with others.
Work hard and play hard! Fill up your schedule with activities that will keep you so busy you will keep you so busy you won’t have time to sink back into negative feelings. If you are focused & productive, it’s hard to feel negative about much of anything. Stay focused on the things you”re doing & your accomplishments, not on anything else. In some people, staying busy helps to outrun feelings of negativity. In others, it creates it. Some people just need more downtime than others.
Don’t sweat the small stuff:
Being happy & satisfied, spending time w/ loved ones & being positive are very important things. Anything else? Chalk it! Scratch it! Categorize these as ‘small stuff’. Do not sweat it! block stuff on social networking that drives your crazy or makes you anxious. remove anything that pulls you away from anything positive – you must understand that you are only here once – you are only gifted this life once – you gotta do it right the first time. Don’t take things to heart, don’t worry about things that don’t need worrying about etc.