Negative emotions can spiral – if you want to stop letting yourself sink down into bad feelings, you can train yourself to let the light in.
You can learn to find the bright side & stay positive, avoiding negativity in your life, & going about the process of improving yourself for the better.
Part 1/3: Finding The Bright Side
Start smiling more:
When you smile, your brain activates neural messages that actually make you feel more positive. Even if you’re feeling kind of ‘blah’ & foggy, make your face do the work of brightening your day. It works! An added bonus? When you smile, you’ll spread positivity around to other people as well – it’s good for everyone. If you are not in a great mood, grumping about it won’t make it any better. Practice forcing yourself to smile & It will become second nature.
Make little changes in the words you use:
It’s easy to say things that can accidentally bring you down. Using positive words as opposed to negative words has a proven effect on your mood & also your attitude. Don’t identify yourself w/ your feelings – Don’t say ‘I am sad’ or ‘I am frustrated’. Instead, put the negativity elsewhere. Say, ‘that movie made me sad’ or ‘this task is difficult & frustrating’ You can also use the little changes within the words you use when you are talking to those around you, especially your loved ones, even though you are in a negative mood you don’t want to push that feeling onto your loved ones & than they will be upset, so being aware & alert of how you speak & the words that you use will def help you.
Do nice things for others, even if you don’t feel like it:
Not having a great day? That doesn’t mean you have to act like it. Choose to spread positivity around & the smiles you get in return will fo a lot to make you think more positively. Reminding your partner that you love them, or buying your partner a little gift whilst you are at the shop to show you think of them (these are things I do hence why I am using them as examples) – just bc you are in this yucky mood, doing something nice for someone will make your heart feel nice & you will see your loved one have a smile on their face & that will instantly give you one 🙂
Spend time with positive people in your life:
If you want to think more positively, surround yourself with other positive thinkers & with people who bring out the best in you & bring positive vibes into your life. Spend your time w/ people who are supportive, friendly, kind, honest, loving, trustworthy. (I personally like spending ALOT of my time w/ J, he honestly has no idea how he makes me feel – he is my sunshine on a cloudy day – his positivity is just amazing to be around – he as really helped me w/ my anxiety & appreciating our time together, the time I’ve been given on this Earth etc.
Find positive quotes or mantras to keep with you:
One great way to keep your outlook bright is to keep little quotes or sayings that you like in your pocket or even near your computer desk – this is a great way to remind you of positive things when you are having a bad day.
Keep a journal & record each day:
If you sometimes end your day on a sour note, train yourself to turn that around. Instead pour yourself a cup of tea & sit down & reflect on your day in a journal – you’d be surprised at how therapeutic this is.
- Write down three things that went well & explain why they went well.
- Write down three things that didn’t go well & explain why they didn’t go well.
- Write down three things you are grateful for.
- Read back over what you wrote, sometimes what seems super-dramatic in your mind will suddenly seem much more minor when you actually read it out. Was it really worth all that negativity?